Hey there.
So I wanna start today's video a little bit differently.
I actually wanna talk a little bit about my own story.
Back in high school, I used to be a little bit shy.
I, I really wasn't an outgoing person, although inside I believed I was.
And the reason why I wanna talk about this is because, I
had to overcome that shyness.
I had to figure out what can I do to be better?
How can I overcome this so that I can be the person that I know that I can be?
This is really important because as you're developing and growing,
that sounds kind of weird.
It sounds like you're a child and developing.
It's not really that.
It's really as you're becoming an adult and becoming more of the
person that you will eventually be.
You have a choice.
You can decide, do I wanna be the same person that I always have been, or can I
try to stretch myself, be somebody that I would like to be instead of someone
who is maybe shy, maybe more introverted.
Maybe more of someone that is not as outgoing because you think, oh, people
are gonna laugh at me and judge me.
Things like that.
I realize of course, that you probably can't change being an introvert to
an extrovert, but at least you can get out of your comfort zone, and
that's what I want to talk about, how I got out of my own comfort zone.
What I did was I realized that I wasn't this shy person on the inside.
I knew that I was probably a lot more outgoing.
So what I did was I actually went and worked in some retail jobs.
I got a job selling sunglasses.
I got a job selling shoes.
I got a job selling clothing.
I did these things so that I would push myself beyond what I was comfortable
doing, so that I would be forced to talk to people, to engage with them, to
be friendly with them, to essentially become more of the person that I thought
I could be instead of who I always was.
And so how this relates to you is I want you to think about that as well.
I want you to think, what can you do to step out of your own comfort zone?
What is it that has been holding you back from maybe being the
person that you really want to be?
So maybe like me, you were always really shy.
Maybe you didn't like talking to certain people, maybe speaking to
some people, you got really nervous.
So how do you overcome that?
How do you develop the confidence in yourself to overcome that?
So one thing that you can do, and this is what I did actually, is I thought about,
this sounds really corny, I know, but I thought about an actor or a character in
a movie or a TV show that I really liked and that I kind of wanted to emulate.
I knew I couldn't be exactly like them, obviously, but something that
they did that I could maybe take from and learn from and try to do myself.
So, I don't know about you, but my character, my avatar, the person that I
kind of wanted to be like was James Bond.
Yeah, I, I know it sounds a little bit funny, but that is who I grew up,
I don't wanna say idolizing, but I really loved James Bond movies, mainly
because the character, James Bond is such a charismatic, confident,
sauve; can drive really cool cars and drive really well and ski and
do all these really amazing things.
And of course he wasn't too bad talking to the women as well, which
of course, as we know, that's really not how you talk to women and not
how you should be treating women.
But I think it was the confidence that I really liked.
So that's what I did.
I actually tried to think, okay, well how would this character
react in this situation?
How would they walk?
How would they talk?
What would they do in this situation?
Obviously, still being respectful and being polite and still being myself.
I wasn't trying to be James Bond, a spy, I was still trying to be Carl Kwan, myself.
But what are the things that I could take?
And so I did that with other characters, as well.
I looked at other characters and I thought, okay, how can
I be more like that person?
Maybe someone who is more funny, maybe somebody like Jim Carey or some
other comedian that I thought, oh, that person's really kind of funny.
How can I be more funny like that?
How can I be more confident like this person, how can I
speak better like that person?
So what about for you?
Who is it that you could look at and think, I want to be
kind of like that person.
And then take elements from that person and try to incorporate them
into your daily life, into your daily interactions with people.
Push yourself.
Get out of your comfort zone a little bit.
So this is really about two things, right?
It's one, getting outta your comfort zone, realizing that we all have a
comfort zone that we're hopefully, trying to get out of, because otherwise,
how else can we grow as people, right?
So that's one thing, getting outta your comfort zone.
What is your comfort zone?
What do you wanna get out of that you want to break out from?
And the second thing is, of course, who would you like to emulate?
What kind of person, character?
It could be fictional, it could be a real person that you would wanna try to be.
So look at what they do, try to do what they do.
And put that into your daily life.
Practice it, even if it's in front of a mirror, where you can at least practice it
and get into the habit of being like that.
And it's all about your mindset as well.
This all does relate to presentations.
It all does come back to presentations because if you can be more confident, if
you can speak more clearly, If you can look at the audience and not feel nervous,
those are really great skills to have.
So I think doing that, getting outta your comfort zone and emulating someone
that you admire, those are great ways to also improve your presentation skills.
So now it's your turn.
Let me know what you think about that.
Give me some ideas as to what you are gonna do to get out of your comfort
zone, to emulate someone that you like.
Who is that person?
I'd love to hear your thoughts and opinions on that.
And also if you have also been able to break outta your
comfort zone, what did you do?
I'd love you to share that with everyone else here as well, so we can all learn.
Thanks for watching and we'll see you in the next video.
Gonna go watch a James Bond movie now.