in this video you're going to learn exactly what to do when your man stops
chasing you if you're dating a guy and you notice that he isn't calling or
texting like before and you want him to start pursuing you
again then stay right here because you're about to learn
five powerful tips that will work like magic and get him chasing more than ever
hi everyone i'm Dr Antonio Borrello and i'm a psychologist and a relationship
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of your life this video makes a bold claim when he
stops chasing you do these things and he will begin to
chase you again oh and these tips work like magic does that
sound too good to be true well i assure you these powerful tips
work and they work for the right reasons and these tips are not tricks or mind
games or pretending not to care because honestly those things don't
really work on a high quality man no a high quality man will see right
through those games and is not going to pursue a woman who
pretends that she's not interested or acts flaky or plays games to keep him
interested instead these tips work because they
involve you making a mind shift and demonstrating that you are a high value
woman and showing him that you are this irresistible queen that he just can't
get enough of and when you do that he's going to do everything in his power
to pursue you to chase you and to prove to you that he
needs you in his life so yes when you apply these principles
in your life you're going to see changes in him that
seem like magic and you will be very happy with your results
so without further ado here are the five tips
number one believe you are the prize the first and most important tip
is that you must believe in the core of your being that
you are a woman who deserves to be loved unconditionally
by a wonderful man and when you believe that
then you will make a man work hard to win your affection
and your love and not the other way around a perfect example of believing
that you are the prize is the story of franceschina and cesare
otherwise known as my mom and dad my 27 year old father returned to italy for a
long vacation and while visiting his uncle's home he
caught his first glimpse of my 18 year old mother as she was hanging clothes on
the neighboring balcony and he was mesmerized what do you think happened
next he slid into her dms he asked for her
snapchat he matched with her on bumble actually
it wasn't so easy for men back then keep watching because this story
demonstrates how believing that you are the prize works and it also highlights
how modern dating puts a woman at a
significant disadvantage compared to the more traditional and
old school practice of courting back to the story how did he meet her
well first he asked his uncle and aunt about her who was she
what family is she from how old was she was she taken he asked them if they
could make an introduction and of course that's when his aunt and
uncle went to work to try to make a connection
they did that by first talking to my grandparents basically they approached
my grandparents and asked for their blessing in allowing my father to get to
know my mother my grandparents agreed that he could start visiting my mother
and their family at home and of course all of this was happening
with the intention of courting her for marriage
now what does that mean well my father had to win
not only my mom's heart he needed to win the affection of her parents and family
so he began spending time with them at their home he began
going to their home on sundays to have dinner with the family
and eventually they started going on chaperone dates
do you know what that even looks like it looked like my mom's brothers and
sisters and other family members being with them at all times
they would go for walks maybe her brothers and sisters would be
20 or 30 feet behind them so that they could talk in private but
yeah that's how they dated and eventually both my grandparents and my
mother agreed to an engagement and then
marriage the lesson here is that my mother was always the prize
and my father had to work hard to prove that he was a good man
he had to prove that he was honorable and that his intentions with my mother
were good he wanted to marry her and so he did
everything he could to prove to her and her family that he was good
enough and worthy of her after all she was the prize and after
five or six months of courting they agreed to get married obviously
their story is very different from the way people date today
gone is the courting with intention instead now people date as if it's a
sport and men now say things like look i gotta
be honest with you i really don't want a commitment i'm not
looking for anything serious so why don't we just date and hang out
and just keep doing what we're doing and as for the women who want to be in a
relationship well it's almost as if they feel like they're the ones who have to
prove themselves worthy and this is the problem that so many
women face today but it doesn't have to be that way all of
that can be changed and it starts by shifting your mindset
right now and starting to look at dating and relationships from a different
perspective you must believe first and foremost that a man needs to
prove himself worthy of you he is a man and men are prepared to do
that it's in their dna and they have been socialized to do so
for thousands of years they are prepared to pursue and chase
you because you are the prize doesn't matter how much you may have
chased him in the past it doesn't matter if you feel like you
made some mistakes from this point forward you must pivot
change your mindset and know that he must prove he is worthy
of you and not the other way around change your mindset and remember that
you are the prize and you are deserving and when you believe that you behave in
a way that demonstrates this feeling and it influences all of your interactions
with him and then you radiate with positive
energy so if he's stopped chasing you if he
stopped texting or calling you or asking you out
you cannot assume the role and start texting and calling him
and i understand that many of you may be doing that now and that's okay
but from this point forward stop pivot believe that you are the prize and then
do number two number two you must allow him to court
you and this is a must that means that you cannot court him
that means that you cannot pursue him you cannot be the one that is
overzealous and constantly looking for him and
contacting him that means that 85 of the time
you are going to let him be the first one to text and call and make plans with
you he's the one who's going to be texting
you good morning he's the one who's going to be calling you
he's the one who's going to be asking you for plans now i know that many of
you are saying oh boy i've made some mistakes i'm the
one who's been texting and calling and asking him
and that's okay it's not too late just stop
texting and calling him or asking him for plans
wait for him to do it because he is a man and he needs to do that
and some of you might be afraid to try this so many women have told me
i'm afraid if i don't call or text him he will not reach out to me at all
and i understand that fear but you must refer back to number one
and trust the process for thousands of years men have been conditioned to chase
women they need to feel like they have earned
the right to be with you so trust the process stop calling and
texting him and he will notice and when he doesn't hear from you he's
going to miss you and you will know it and let me explain
why this works and why you need to allow him to chase you
first men value the things that they've worked for and earned
as i've talked about before the more effort he puts into you
the more he will appreciate and like you as a result
so let him work for you second he's a man and from both an evolutionary
perspective as well as from a cultural perspective
men are prepared to pursue women in the courting process
if you are pursuing him you risk upsetting this expectation and his
desire to pursue you the third reason when you let him
initiate contact most of the time it allows you to gauge his level of
interest in you in other words you will know how he feels based on how
proactive he is about seeing you and keeping in touch with you
number three share your love and affection only after you've secured a
commitment in his life in other words before you know where you
stand with a man don't start acting head over heels in
love with him doing so with a newly interested man may result in him no
longer seeing you as a challenge worthy of his full attention
instead it's important to reach a mutual level of interest before you show him
how smitten you are if a man is making sincere and
consistent attempts to make you want him then he's probably really into you and
becoming infatuated take things slowly remember men want
that which is a challenge to obtain they want to prove they are good enough
for you showing him your feelings too early makes him feel like he's the
center of your universe and that is anything but a challenge
again if you've been overly loving and affectionate it's not too late
you just need to pull back and stop doing that until you are in a committed
relationship and number four goes along with number
three number four never be too accessible before a serious
relationship develops before he is fully committed and serious
about making a future with you don't always be available for him by
always saying yes when he calls and asks you to go out
especially if he's calling with short notice saying no to his request for plan
sends him the message that you have other
engagements or commitments that are taken priority
at least at this time when he's asking it also forces him to recognize your
independence and that you're not just sitting by the phone waiting
for his calls remember one of the most important things that
men find attractive in women is independence he's got to know how
full and complete your life is and if he becomes part of it it's
because you want him to be part of it not because you need him to be part of
it so remember don't be so eager to give a man access
to your time and attention and don't give up your time
with your family and friends and hobbies when a new guy asks you out on a last
minute date trust me he will appreciate and respect
you more as a result number five never act exclusive with a
man who is still keeping his options open
if a man tells you he's not looking for a relationship or anything serious
you need to believe him and stop investing more of yourself
and your feelings and this goes back to number one
if you believe that you are the prize you will know that you can do better
you will never entertain the idea of getting involved with a man who doesn't
want a relationship regardless of how attractive or
successful or popular or desirable he might be oh and the second
part of this don't believe for a minute that you are
the one who's going to change a playboy into
mr commitment i can't tell you the number of times a woman will ask me for
advice on this very issue she's in love with and dating a man who
acts like a boyfriend but does not want any type of relationship
or commitment and when i ask why she got involved with him
they usually tell me that they thought if the relationship was special
if she were the special one she would be able to sway him into wanting
a serious relationship but that's not how it works
when a man shows a cavalier attitude towards commitment or tells you that he
doesn't want a relationship believe him and know that you can and
you will do better i go into more detail of how you can
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