- Heya playa, have you ever sent someone
a message, whether it was your crush
or a friend over on Snapchat or Instagram
and then suddenly you got blocked and you don't know why?
Well, that's the question that katiemartin13
asked me when she said, "How do you get them to unblock you?
"My friend blocked me on Snap and Instagram.
"We were fine one minute and then the next, blocked."
Don't worry, Katie, this happens to a lot of people.
So I'm gonna share a few tips on how you can get
unblocked and how you can prevent it
from happening in the future.
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And today I wanna talk about that sucky feeling
you get when you find out that you're blocked by someone.
I think in most cases when you get blocked
by someone you tend to feel like it came out of nowhere.
But I'm sure if you investigate a little further
you'll find that the person who blocked you
probably did have a reason, whether it was a good
one or not.
When you go to message someone, or even try
to look at your profile, to see that you're
blocked is not a good feeling, but there are
a few practical things you can do in the meantime
to hopefully get yourself unblocked.
The first option, which I see as the most
reliable, is if they blocked you online
try to talk to them in person.
After you get blocked, if you see them at school
or work or anywhere else, try to have a casual
conversation with them.
Generally, just talking to them like a normal
person might spark something in their mind
and make them say, "Hey, maybe I shouldn't
"have blocked this person.
"They're pretty cool."
Your goal here is show them that you're not
a weirdo or creep or whatever they view you to be.
You're actually a pretty nice person
that they should unblock and get to know better.
There are instances though where you do things
that might merit getting blocked.
If you're spamming your crush with messages
over and over, you're probably annoying them.
If you're complimenting them over and over,
and it's not part of any type of conversation,
it's just these standalone compliments again
and again, that could creep them out.
It's super-important to be mindful of your own
behaviors here.
I would go on the assumption that
if you got blocked, it's probably because
of something that happened or something that you did.
So try to investigate and really understand the reason why.
Now, for some of you, you might not see walking
up and talking to that person as a viable option for you.
So the next best thing is to try to message them
on another platform.
If they blocked you on Instagram, try it on Snapchat.
If you're blocked on Snapchat, try on Facebook.
If you can't go on Facebook, do WhatsApp.
Find another way to communicate with them.
But once again, don't just launch into,
"Hey, why'd you block me?"
Try to have a casual conversation.
If you can get that going, then later on
you can kinda just casually ask them,
"Hey, why'd you block me over here anyway?"
Hopefully, they'll give you an honest and open answer.
One of the more common reasons why people
get blocked by, let's say their crush
for example, is because their crush finds out
how they feel and the crush doesn't know what to do.
They just feel awkward in that moment
and blocking them seems like the only solution.
I'm always telling you guys to go after your crushes.
And yes, that does carry a risk of maybe
potentially getting blocked by them, but I think
it's a risk that you should be willing to take
if you really wanna be with them.
Now, in Katie's case, she ended up getting
blocked by one of her friends, and there's a few
potential reasons for this, but generally
the most common one is because your friend's
angry at you and this a way for them to show that.
I've seen it tons of times.
Two friends get into an argument, and they wanna
just kinda cut that person off completely,
and doing that through Snapchat or Instagram
seems like the best way.
Another potential reason is that they don't
really want you seeing the things that they're posting.
They may not want you to see that they're having
fun or they're hanging out with other people,
or just doing something specifically that they
don't want you to know about.
And just like in Katie's case, sometimes getting
blocked can really just come out of nowhere.
That's why it's so important to talk to your friends.
If they're your friends, I would recommend
launching right into the conversation of,
"Hey, why'd you end up blocking me," when you see
them in person.
I firmly believe that a lot of online drama
can be easily squashed just by getting two people
to come together and talk in person.
Now let's say you're in a situation where you
can't talk to them in person and there's no way
to contact them online.
What do you do then?
Well, it's a tough spot to be in, and I would
say your options are really limited,
but the best thing to do is to probably
talk to one of their friends.
I would really focus on building a better
relationship with one of their friends.
That way, as time goes on and you get
closer to that friend, you can always ask them,
"Hey, why did so-and-so block me anyway?"
Assuming then that you guys are now close,
hopefully then they'll be able to tell you
the honest truth so you can actually do something about it.
Communication with that other person is key here
to prevent yourself from getting blocked
by them in the future.
As is reflection, so spend some time really
thinking about what you did to make sure you
don't make the mistake twice.
What do you think though?
Are you currently blocked by anyone?
It could be on Snapchat or Instagram
or Facebook or anywhere.
Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it.
And I know it sounds pretty ironic, but if you
wanna talk in private and shoot me a DM,
you can always do that over on Snapchat or Instagram.
I do my best to answer as many messages as I can.
Oh, and PS, I promise I won't block you.
Before you head out though, I totally recommend
checking out my video, How To Not Get Blocked.
I think it's just as important as watching
a video on when you do get blocked.
That way you can just prevent it in the future.
Check out that video and the playlist I have down below.
I will see you guys soon.
As always, love and peace.