As I’ve talked about before, INFJs are one of the rarest personality types to exist.
I'm sure you've seen a lot of INFJs on Facebook or other forums, but that's simply because
that's where they feel most at ease.
They frequently feel pretty strange in real life.
They usually feel as if they do not belong in the world.
They feel as if they don't belong anywhere.
But why is that?
Why exactly do INFJs feel so out of place and weird?
Stay tuned in till the end of the video because that’s what I’m talking about today.
Also, I suggest you watch till the end even if you’re not an INFJ because trust me,
your INFJ friends want to be understood.
And watching this video will be a huge step towards understanding them a little bit better.
Let’s get into it.
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Starting things off for us today is INFJs are always lost in their head.
Don’t be so distracted.
Focus on the facts.
Don’t overthink everything.
These are all sentences an INFJ hears on a daily basis from everyone around them and
it becomes one of the main reasons they feel so weird and out of place.
it’s because of their most dominant function, Introverted Intuition.
Because of that, INFJs focus a lot on the future.
Moreover, they tend to focus on a lot of patterns and hidden meanings behind everything.
They often wonder Why are things the way they are, or Why does this person acts the way
they do?
These are all questions that roam around in an INFJ’s head constantly.
But because of that, they tend to lose touch with the present.
They tend to lose touch with the facts and everything going around them.
And when they’re asked to or they have to get more in touch with the present moment
and not immerse themselves in their introverted intuition, they come off as stressed and overwhelmed.
When that happens, they think they’re weird.
INFJs think people around them are judging them.
Which isn’t really the case!
Number 6 today on why INFJs feel so weird is INFJs are extremely private.
Another quality of the introverted intuition function is their need for privacy.
INFJs always tend to keep their feelings and emotions private.
And that’s the case even with people very close to them.
But at the same time, they’re extremely great listeners and many people feel safe
around them.
Even though that can be a huge advantage, it becomes one of the reasons INFJs feel so
weird.
It’s because they do always want to share their feelings with people but they just can’t.
On the other hand, they always see other people sharing their thoughts and feelings with them,
even the people they aren’t too close to.
And that makes them feel very out of place.
Don’t get me wrong.
They love to hear people venting and they love to help them with their problems.
But still, when strangers they don’t know too well come to them with their problems
but they can’t even go to the people closest to them, that can make them feel weird.
INFJs feel like there is something wrong with them.
That’s definitely not true but it does become one of the reasons for INFJs to feel weird
about themselves.
Next up and number 5 is INFJs are very sensitive.
Just because INFJs don’t like to talk about their feelings and their emotions, that doesn’t
mean they don’t feel things.
They’re actually very sensitive.
They can take too many things to heart.
Sometimes, things aren’t a big deal to anyone else but INFJs still get bothered about it.
That’s especially the case when someone criticizes them.
When someone criticizes INFJs even a little, they typically feel attacked and they feel
hurt.
When something like that happens, they overreact and just go off into their own World.
They start overthinking and thinking no one likes them and they’re all alone.
And of course, when that happens, they feel like out of place, like there’s no place
for them in the World and that no one is their true friend.
Of course, that’s never accurate.
In fact, many people that truly care about them get hurt when INFJs think that.
But, they just don’t know how to stop themselves from not thinking about these things.
Number 4 today is INFJs are very strict about their values and beliefs.
Another thing INFJs think is weird about them is the fact that they always want things done
a certain way.
When it comes to efficiency and perfection, they have extremely high standards.
Now, I’m sure you’re all thinking of one thing.
How does that make them feel weird about themselves?
Well, you’re right.
That is a strength.
But a lot of the time, they tend to get mad at people when they don’t meet their standards.
And honestly, they go through that a lot.
Due to that, INFJs feel like no one else understands how they like things to be done or no one
else understands their desire for perfection.
And that’s why they end up feeling out of place or like no one else understands them.
INFJs typically feel like they’re weird in a World full of normal people.
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Kicking off our top 3 today is INFJs can never openly speak their opinions.
Besides introverted intuition, another dominant cognitive function of INFJs is Extraverted
Feeling.
Because of that function, INFJs always want to be in peace and harmony.
That means they try to stay away from conflict and avoid it as much as possible.
That doesn’t just mean they stop others from fighting.
That means they actively avoid having fights or arguments themselves too.
As a result, this can cause some issues.
They never end up speaking about their opinions.
INFJs will just go along with what others are saying.
They do that to avoid any conflicts.
But because of that, they also end up feeling like they never get what they want.
They always end up question themselves.
That becomes another reason INFJs feel so weird.
Especially when they see other people talk about their opinions and their desires so
easily.
In the runner-up spot is INFJs are not fans of social activities.
In a world full of extroverts that enjoy going out all the time, of course an introvert feels
weird, right?
Every weekend, they see people around them wanting to go out.
To amusement parks.
To concerts.
To parties.
Everyone seems to love these activities.
But INFJs like to spend most of their free time alone.
That’s because they are the happiest and the calmest when they’re alone with only
their company.
Even when they do go out to events like these, they see everyone else around them with so
much energy having so much fun.
But for INFJs, after a while, they feel drained out.
They feel like they need to be alone.
Because of that, they always feel out of place during social gatherings.
Why does no one else need to recharge their social batteries?
How does everyone else enjoy going out every other day?
All these questions roam around an INFJ’s head and make them question and doubt themselves.
Topping our list and the number 1 reason INFJs feel so weird is INFJs find it very hard to
find the ideal friendship or relationship.
Most people find it very easy to make friends.
Every other day, you see them hanging out with a new person.
You see them be comfortable in everyone’s presence.
That just becomes a factor for INFJs to feel so weird about themselves.
Because, for INFJs, it’s very difficult to find an ideal friend.
It can be challenging for them to find someone they can be themselves with.
Or be truly comfortable with.
They don’t understand How people find friends so easily or How do they not feel awkward
in a new person’s presence.
These things stick in the heads of INFJs and make them feel like they aren’t made for
this World.
But of course, that’s never the case.
Please keep in mind, none of these factors stay with an INFJ all their lives.
Pretty much all of them gain more control over their personality and start to feel more
comfortable in their own skin!
And if that isn’t the case for you yet, trust me and don’t worry!
You will get there!
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