are you somebody that's struggling to kind of get stuff done do you often feel
bad or low or lost do you ever feel that you could do a lot more if you actually
could get yourself to do it in that case listen to this video
because I have something for you that is usually completely unconscious that I've
realized when I'm struggling with this that has helped me enormously and it's a
bit of a mind shift that anybody can take with a bit of self-awareness and a
bit of mental control so let's get straight into the video my name is
Stephan Erdman if you're here for the first time at the subscribe button and a
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about meeting and attracting women in a natural way in the 21st century we all
have bad days and it's really difficult to get out of that state isn't it when
we're feeling bad so let's break this down for a bit we feel bad okay what
happens what's our mindset when we feel bad what we're focused on how we're
feeling our state right that's our main focus usually when we're feeling bad it
draws our focus to ourselves so why do I feel so lethargic my body aches I don't
know oh it's because of this and because of this why do I feel bad ah okay maybe
it's because I'm not achieving an evening life and we're making it worse
by giving it a lot of focus and what we focus on we experience look the most
powerful way of focusing your mind is by asking yourself a question when you ask
yourself a question it's proven that the mind will carry on trying to solve it
and answer it even if you don't consciously think about the question
anymore okay so what we very often do is we ask ourselves the question how do I
feel and we reinforce that with other humans
when they ask us how are you feeling today or how are you how are you doing
and it reinforces the state of passivity lack of options a lack of choice and
just the powerlessness yeah it's that state we're and that's you know that
feeling we have that just is brought to us by the outside world it's usually to
do with other people making us feel bad or situations or just the general
sadness in our life so how do you get out of that you get out of that by
becoming aware of this question that you're asking and switching it to
something that makes sense and that actually gets you out of that state very
easily you want to go from how do I feel to what do I want or what do I want
right now what happens when you ask yourself what do I want or what do I
want right now what happens is you start to focus on what you want that is sort
of more outside of you that's not to do with your state it's to do with what you
want to get okay what you want to achieve so whether it's something that
you want to get rid of or whether it's something that you want more of you
basically get motivated almost instantly simply by asking your question yourself
a question what do I want and when you ask yourself what do I want again your
mind can't help but focus on that so if you're feeling bad what do I want gets
you out of that state and takes you out of that paralysis and it gets you
focused on a goal okay and that's great because it changes your state in an
instant just by asking the question now the
underlying truth of course is the real question we should ask ourselves every
day how have you chosen to feel today or how how have you decided to feel today
or how do you want to feel today because my experience tells me that we are
actually in charge of how we want to feel and we've just sort of decided you
know over the years that we prefer to pretend that we are not in charge of
that so we can blame other people for how we're feeling
and not take responsibility for that but my personal experience is I can totally
decide how I feel it's just a question of realizing it being aware of it that
you have the power and then choosing to feel in this way or in that way it
really is up to you so how do I want to feel is a part of that what do I want
question now if you're super hardcore you know you lived in a state of
continuous how am I feeling on my feeling and then it may take some time
to get into a state of what do I want but it feels like this and it feels like
whatever sudden there's passion in your life just because you ask yourself what
do I want right now and then obviously you need to find answers to these
questions but even just asking yourself what do I want right now puts you into a
different state then how am I feeling from now on whenever you find yourself
thinking oh how am I feeling oh I feel bad I feel you're in that state and you
want to get out of it just ask yourself what do I want and focus on that and
it's going to help you with meeting women it's going to help you on dates
it's going to help you in the bedroom it's going to help you in your work it's
gonna help you in your life to get more confident to feel like you're getting
stuff done to achieve things to have self-esteem and all of that if you want
to learn more for me about inner game and how to turn yourself into a kind of
guy that can handle any situation from the inside out confident and with
self-esteem then you should know that I've spent a long time really a long
time coming up with all kinds of methods ideas stealing from NLP method acting
many other influences to come up with a system that works for people over and
over again some of the best quickest working methods are in the six-week w
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you there