Heya playa, I think one of the major fears people in relationships have is of their partner
cheating on them.
I mean what are you supposed to do?
Are you supposed to break up with them?
Are you supposed to work things out?
There's no clear-cut line but I'm going to do my best to explain what I think you should
do.
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if you're the person getting cheated on, let's just be honest here.
It's a sucky feeling.
No one ever wants to feel betrayed like that.
To feel like their trust has been broken, like their partner that they put their heart
and soul into just didn't reciprocate that.
For example, some people may cheat because they're bored of the relationship.
There's nothing new there to keep them interested.
Or other people may cheat because they're insecure and they encounter someone who makes
them feel valued and loved.
It's incredibly difficult to look at this other person as something other than selfish,
non-caring and just totally taking advantage of you.
I understand where you're coming from on that.
It's hard to look at people who do bad things and to recognize that hey, they're a person
with their own thoughts and feelings and experiences that drove their decisions.
If you're someone that's been cheated on, I think it's important for you to walk away
from that initial conversation.
Because if you do try to talk to them about it right then and there, you're only going
to bring anger and negativity into the equation.
Now I know, you may want to unload those negative feelings onto that person but trust me, you're
still going to walk away with those negative feelings so unloading them isn't going to
make you feel better at the end of the day.
Try to take some time to process the feelings that you're really going through and ask questions
that are better going to help you understand the situation overall.
For example, you could always ask yourself "What was it that I could have done better
in this relationship?".
Should I have communicated more?
Should I have been more loving, more caring, more supportive?
Think about these different questions and what the answers are because that's going
to help you process the next stage of questions you come into.
And that next stage may be something like "What was it that my partner was missing in
this relationship to give it their all?
What did they find on the outside that they weren't really getting here and what can Iearn
from that experience before the next relationship I get into?".
And for the second question, you're really going to get the most in-depth answer if you
sit down and talk to that person.
Let them explain their side of the story, their actions and why they did it.
Now sometimes when people cheat because they feel like they were missing something from
the relationship and they just happened to slip up this one time, they tend to be apologetic
and want to work things through with you but the decision to work things through is entirely
up to you.
You have to ask yourself "Am I willing to give this person another chance?".
I can't really tell you whether or not you should or shouldn't.
That decision is yours.
But then other times people cheat simply because they don't care.
They'll do anything they can and say anything they can to stay in your good graces.
That's why it's up to you to really break down their apology and explanation to see
if they are being genuine and honest with you.
My philosophy is to always leave people better than you found them.
If your partner cheated on you, let them see that their actions are the direct cause of
them losing a caring, loving and supportive person in their life.
But if you lash out and yell and scream and attack them and demonize them and call them
names, guess what's gonna happen.
They're only gonna see it as that being a normal reaction and normal behavior to them
cheating and they're not gonna learn from that experience and they're going to continue
making that mistake over and over hence you're leaving them worse than you found them because
you've engrained this idea that having a negative violent reaction is normal.
Now I'm not saying "Oh you were cheated on.
Ehh, no big deal, let it go."
Getting cheated on really hurts.
It can tare you down and make you feel like lesser of a person.
But trust me, at the end of the day your partner doesn't determine your worth.
You're still someone that's valuable.
You're still someone that's loveable.
You're still someone that's worthy of love.
I know it may not feel that way right now but trust me, over time you're going to find
a partner that's trust worthy and a person that accepts you for who you are.
So now I want to know, what do you think.
If you've been cheated on in a relationship or if someone cheated on you, how would you
handle that situation?
Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it.
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On that note, I'll catch you tomorrow.
As always, love and peace.