Hello there! So most of you watching this video are hoping to find out how to become more attractive
which is great because that's just what I aim to teach you.
But just before we start, just so you know, attractiveness is a very subjective feature
so I could find someone very attractive, where as you could just be like "Eh, they're alright".
However, what I aim to teach you is some ways to increase your objective level of attractiveness
So that overall your attractiveness goes up, your confidence in yourself goes up and your self esteem goes up
So without further ado, lets get started.
Now if you haven't heard of this one before, I'd be very surprised
because the number one thing most people say they find most attractive
about someone else is their confidence.
Try and be confident with most everything you do
but make sure you don't border on the arrogant side
'cause no one likes an arrogant twat.
but, Evan, I'm not that confident. What am I supposed to do?
Well, good news for you. It's really not that hard to become confident, if you know the right tricks.
Personally, I use the "fake it til you make it" method you may have heard of.
And it really worked for me.
Essentially what I did was I pretended to be confident
For a little bit and I went,
"What would a confident person act like in this situation?
"How would I hold myself if I were confident?"
So I went around for a couple weeks playing this character called Confident Evan
Until one day I realized I wasn't playing a character anymore, that's who I was.
I was now a confident human. It really wasn't that hard for me.
It may be different for you, but like I said
What happened to me was I acted as a confident person would
And then gradually I became that confident person.
So it worked out for me, maybe it can work out for you.
Otherwise, Google is your friend
And the second most important thing is passion, and it doesn't even matter what the passion is in.
It could be a passion in YouTubers, it could be a passion in Anime.
It could be a passion in toe weaving.
What really matters is that you have a topic that you feel you're so good at,
You understand so much, you can passionately discuss it with any human on the Earth in excruciating detail.
And that's just a really attractive quality to have.
I know that I've talked to people that have talked about the weirdest things,
But the fact is they knew so much about it, I was so interested in it.
They made me interested in the really weird topic, and then I was like,
"Man, I wish I knew more about that topic." That's attractive.
This one hopefully shouldn't be a surprise to you people, but daily hygiene. Daily hygiene is very important.
Clean yourself up, take care of yourself, brush your teeth before going out, shower often.
Do you have a specific scent, a cologne or a perfume that you like to put on?
Make sure you put that on before going out and meet people. If you are at your Kanye best,
People will take you to the Kanye test, and you will ace it, okay. You will be great.
Make sure you're wearing flattering clothing as well.
Basically, the more pride you have in yourself, the more pride you have in taking care of yourself.
The more people will notice that. Like, "wow, this person really presents themselves well to me. And that's very attractive."
Now the next one might be difficult for you guys, 'cause I know it was difficult for me. And that's having good posture.
Right now I'm sitting at the edge of my bed, my back is unsupported, but I'm sitting up straight
because I know it looks good on camera, because I know it looks good to most people.
The way I used to sit was like this.
Hey guys, how's it going?
You'd be looking at me going, "Evan, it looks like your posture prime".
And that's because I'm glad you guys are making good puns.
The thing is, my body language will be screaming tired, lazy, kind of not interested.
Where as right now I'm commanding hopefully, I'm sitting there looking at you.
I'm standing taller, I'm sitting taller, I'm more confident in my body.
And that's what good posture does.
Now, I used to have very bad posture. How did I come to this situation?
I practiced. I practiced quite a lot.
I'd be at work and I'd sit for fifteen minutes and I'd say "Evan, you're not allowed to slouch at all".
And it would hurt. But then, the next day, I'd do twenty minutes. And then, the next day, I'd do thirty minutes.
And now, my back is used to that. My back is used to being healthy.
And it feels great to sit normally now.
And now, I have that attractive quality under my belt, and so do you.
Now this one's a bit optional but you can't deny that it's not relevant in some way.
And that's having money and or a good job.
Now a lot of you just groaned at me like "oh god no".
The thing is it's not that relevant for people that are younger cause you guys are all students, you guys are all doing your gap year.
It's not that big of a deal.
However, when you get to my age and you're basically the Youtube dad telling dad jokes on the internet.
It tuns out it's pretty relevant
Cause I'd like to find someone that also has a job that they like, that they're passionate about.
Because that goes right back to number two, like "Oh they love their job, that's great!"
And also they're bringing in money, I'm bringing in money, we can get a flat together
Cause living in London is incredibly expensive alone, please join me.
So basically I hope you understand that it does make sense right,
Having money obviously is going to be important
But if you're younger, it doesn't matter at all. Just live your life.
Now you may have noticed watching this video that I have been gesticulating all over the place
And I haven't really broken eye contact with you that much
That's because both of those are very attractive qualities
Now I like to use my hands a lot, I don't know why
Some people call me the Ross Geller of YouTube
No one calls me that.
However, eye contact is a very very important thing to have
And when you talk to someone that you're interested in, you should not break eye contact that often
I turn my phone off when I talk to people
Because I want them to know how interested I am in them
Like "This doesn't matter, I'm focused on you. Please, I'm listening, I'm actively listening."
Also, if you don't use hand motions as much as I do
That's okay, not everyone does.
I do, and that's fine cause it turns out it's good
but obviously you're not just gonna be like,
"how's it going?"
just... just be natural. Be chill, okay? Chill out
Now the next thing you can do is really sly
and its called "name dropping"
and, no, I'm not talking about telling your date that one time you shared a hot tub with Alfie Deyes
and you saw Morgan Freeman on the freeway
That's not a good type of name dropping
No one wants to hang out with someone like that.
However, what it is is when you use their name in conversation, frequently.
So instead of just saying, "how are you?"
I'll say, "Dodie, how's it going?"
or, "Morgan, how are you?"
By throwing people's names into the mix,
they enjoy the conversation more.
Because we as humans are selfish beasts,
and we very much enjoy hearing our own name.
So, just by subtly using their names a bit more often,
they will be more attracted to you.
There you go! Science!
German celiacs always greet me with "gluten morgen"
Its a pun! Its a joke.
Having a sense of humor and being able to laugh at yourself
are very attractive qualities
So, if you aren't funny, that's okay.
But at least be able to laugh at yourself.
Because nobody like that person that gets really defensive about themselves.
Its okay! Just chill out a bit,
and everyone will like you more.
I hope this isn't a surprise...
Don't be a dick.
Be a nice person.
If someone is talking to you, listen to them.
If someone is hurt, care for them.
Try and be a nice person
because that is such a nice quality to have,
and even if people didn't find it attractive,
you should still want to not be a dick...
Now this last one is incredibly important, and its also incredibly easy to do,
but you'd be surprised how many people don't do it.
Especially in London, and that's just smiling
Now you might be saying "Evan I don't wanna smile, I'm not a smiley person, I'm not that happy"
Well hopefully if you've followed the other advice that I've given in this video
You might have realized that this whole time
I haven't been telling you necessarily how to get other people to find you attractive
But how to care for yourself and how to make yourself more attractive
How to love yourself, cause right now
You've got better posture, you've got more passion, your confident
you clean yourself, you take care of yourself
not for anyone else, but for you
So, now you can love yourself
You don't need anyone else to validate you.
If you don't want to smile you don't have to.
If you don't want to do this thing you don't have to.
You are happy being you, and that is
the most attractive quality
I can think I could find in someone.
And it all comes together in one package which is
you. I like you.
I don't like who you're pretending to be, I like who you are.
And that in the end,
is the most attractive quality.
But anyway I really hope you guys like the video. If you did please give it a big
thumbs up below, and be sure to subscribe 'cause I make new videos
every sunday. Thank you guys so much for watching.
I'll see you guys next week. Goodbye.
And my back is very straight. I'm not supported by
anything, except for you guys. Hopefully
this video has helped you into falling
in love with yourself. Not in that way.
And being able to laugh at yourself are actually
very atwaaa. VEWY ATWACTIVE QUAWITIES.
So is being able to talk.