little did you all know but for the past few weeks I've been performing a little
bit of an experiment about Para social relationships and I think there's a lot
we can learn from the content cop that idubbbz it on Tana mongeau what is up
everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but
focus on the solution and if you new to my channel my channel is all about
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the intro I've been doing a little experiment about parasocial
relationships alright and I want to use what idubbbz says in his content cop
about Tana mongeau right here either all of them are okay or none of them are
okay but if you try to come on line and tell me that I can't say a particular
word ya know I'm half-black so the context in which I dubs said this I'm
not gonna dive into that that's for another Channel alright but anyways I do
appreciate the fact that he's bringing up some critical thinking alright a
massive part of mental health for me and I hope it is for others is to question
your thoughts right one of the biggest issues that we have is that we believe
every single thought that we have something that you know mindfulness
teaches us is that we need to get curious okay we need to get curious
about the thoughts that come up in our heads and we got to think okay why do I
think this way and not that all right so let me explain the little
experiment that I've been doing so here's the experiment I've been doing so
as me of you rewired soldiers out there know I get a little bit of backlash for
the type of content that I make right and it's really fascinating to me so
what I did was because I wanted to see if I would get the same reaction if I
talked about mainstream celebrities okay so recently in the past few weeks I've
made two videos about Milly Bobby Brown I also included Drake I also talked
about the relationship between Pete Davidson and ariana grande as well as
Kanye West and Kim Kardashian these are mainstream celebrities so I
want you to think about it now I'm not gonna show all the examples
because I may get accused of cherry-picking so if you would like to
validate my claims and see if I'm telling you the truth
I suggest that you go and do your own research check out the type of comments
I get on videos like Tana mojo Bobbie Barnes Trisha Paytas whoever it is check
out those comments and then compare them to the comments that I get talking about
mainstream celebrities and you'll see two very different comments for example
you'll see comments on youtubers when I make videos using them as contacts to
teach people lessons you see comments saying leave them alone
quit making videos about them quit making videos reviews you're just trying
to do this reviews but if you see me talking about the mainstream celebrities
that I just mentioned those comments are virtually non-existent now why is that
why do you think that is and I'm serious like I'm trying to figure this out right
so pair of social relationships what are those okay these are the type of
relationships that people have with celebrities okay and as we're seeing in
2019 and for years now is that youtubers are becoming the new celebrities don't
believe me you all saw what recently happened with James Charles in the UK
all right 8,000 fans showed up to his meet-and-greet traffic throughout you
know the city and England like what what and you also see people like James
Charles people keemstar you know and others out there
wanting to be respected on the same level as celebrities but at the same
time they don't want to be used in the same way that celebrities are if you
want an example check out these headlines that I'm
showing you on the screen right now why is it okay for us to discuss celebrities
going to rehab celebrities going to jail abusive
relationships you know in the news like why is that okay for us to talk about
but it's not okay for us to talk about youtubers do you see what I mean like I
want you to ask yourself that question why is that and I have a theory I have a
theory okay what I feel is happening what I think is happening and I want you
guys to ask yourself this and leave me comments what I feel is happening is
when you're watching a YouTube video and you're watching it on your phone or
you're watching it on your computer you're watching it on your laptop and
it's a person filming in their bedroom right or they're vlogging walking around
town you feel more of a personal relationship with them you feel like
this is your friend okay is this healthy or unhealthy I don't know I think there
is an extent where it can get unhealthy a prime example of this is what recently
happened with the Dolan twins okay you had fans trying to show up to these
guys father's funeral okay so this is a pair of social relationship
that can definitely get unhealthy but when you see the defense that you get in
with these youtubers so something that I also find interesting is like I've
always looked at mental health and even when I was working at the drug and
alcohol treatment center I always look at it as education right teaching people
I my mom and I have talked about you know opening up like an outpatient
treatment center sometime in the future and when I envision it I always think
that I would like it to be like a classroom right I would like people to
have homework you know I used to always tell my clients like I love when you ask
questions because it that you're paying attention and you're
engaged and you're wondering some of you out there who watch my videos like
you'll like tweet out like things that you learn from one of my videos and I
love that it shows me that you're paying attention you see what I mean so it's
important that we learn from these things so I kind of look at you know
what I'm trying to do is kind of like history right so if you've ever taken a
history class you probably might had to write essays or reports or whatever that
you know whatever it is maybe done a presentation but one of the most famous
sayings about history out there is if we don't learn from history we're doomed to
repeat it I'm probably screwing that quote out but ya know what I mean right
well if we can't learn from what we're watching on YouTube or what we're
watching on television or what we're seeing in movies right then maybe we're
doomed to repeat it if we're not taking these lessons and doing something with
them and turning them into something of value then we might be in trouble
alright so the other thing that I want to talk about is and maybe this you know
is something more relevant to my age but all of you around my age I'm 33 you
probably remember when the news was plastered every other week it seemed
like Lindsay Lohan was getting herself into some trouble alright she was a
young child star and just spiraled out of control
alright she was getting DUIs and one of the most famous pictures of her was this
one just being masked up now if I made a youtube video using this picture and
explaining to people you know the dangers of becoming dependent on
substances how many people do you think would really leave a comment having an
issue with me discussing with Lindsay Lohan but again when I discuss a
youtuber that's when the issue comes in and again like I dub said in his video
about Tana mojo and his content cock either all of them are okay or none of
them are okay the other theory that I have about this is that people think
that is not okay but the person might see it all right
but where is that same empathy for mainstream celebrities what if they see
it what if Milly Bobby Brown is on YouTube
watching videos right what if kanye west's stumbled across my
videos I've seen youtubers talk about being dehumanized but do we do human
eyes mainstream celebrities even more than we do youtubers all right now don't
get me wrong I don't think that there's anything wrong with discussing what
mainstream celebrities are doing I don't think there's anything wrong with that
because we use those as lessons there are many studies that have been
conducted discussing how people young people especially are being influenced
by the people that they idolized in media okay now that we live in the age
of YouTube we really need to take that into consideration if any of you watch
my video about Shane Dawson and his cartoon conspiracy theory I talked about
social cognitive theory right and this is a learning theory about how people
especially young people will emulate what they see so my other question is
why is it okay to promote clearly toxic behavior on YouTube but it's not okay to
discuss how its unhealthy right like I want you guys to think about this like
you guys like something that I think people get twisted all the time and some
of you have heard me say this many times before is that people think that mental
health is talking about a lack of a mental illness all right like when you
talk about physical health are you only saying that a person is healthy if they
don't have a disease no physical health means a lot of things a lot of things is
it how much you weigh is it the amount of muscle you have is it how you look
right it's all these things so a person like myself might be completely devoid
of any type of disease but if you look at this chub I got on me
would you say that I'm healthy not entirely even though I've been working
on it all right so again like I really want you to think about what I got said
either all of them are okay or none of them are okay so it's either
all okay or none of its okay I want you to start asking yourself that why is it
all right to talk about mainstream celebrities why is it okay to talk about
them and teach people using them as an examples but not youtubers especially
when youtubers want to be held at the same level as these mainstream
celebrities all right I want to see your comments down below about this topic
because it's really fascinating to me and I actually have a collab coming up
really soon where we're gonna be talking about this even more I'm gonna be
clouding with a youtuber that I think you all know and you all love all right
you want to have fun in the comments take a guess of who it is anyways that's
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