Hey everybody, Casey Zander here. And in today's video, I'm going to be giving you
five hacks that you can use to instantly be more confident around girls. And these
are going to be five hacks that you can use to improve your charisma, improve your confidence,
and overall be an all around better person, you know, and ultimately, one that you're proud of. So
if you have not heard of me, my name is Casey zander. I'm the founder of head man,
and I'm here to revitalize masculinity and help make men full stack. And because of that, today,
there's a few key things that I have found absolutely important, in all ways, shapes
and forms to maximize your confidence. So without further ado, let's dive in. The very first thing
is you need to have a pipeline. Okay, now, I'm going to apply this to sales. And I'm gonna
apply this to marketing, because that's the world that I live in. If we have slow amounts of leads
coming into our business, okay, the sales reps that work for me, they start to get in scarcity,
okay? The sales reps that work for me, they get in scarcity, because they're like, oh, my gosh,
every lead I get in, there's not many of them. This might be my last lead today,
like, I don't know how much commission I'm gonna be able to make this month. And then what
happens is, when they get on the phone with that prospect, they're tonalities off, they are scared,
right, they're pleasing, they're hoping to get a sale, instead of hoping to serve the customer, it
doesn't work, okay, because of that. I've applied a lot of these models in business to my own life.
And you need to have a pipeline at all times a pipeline of people to talk to,
when you have a pipeline of people to talk to you, this can be men or women, you start to
get better at understanding social skills, social nuances, and how to be confident. And ultimately,
confidence is really just making the other person feel something and you are at the cause of their
emotions, you're not at the effect, that's all it is. So I'm going to advise something that is
different than probably most of the self help channels that you watch, you're probably most
of the dating channels that you watch, I will advise you to have friends, okay? Even friends
who are girls, even friends who you're not necessarily doing anything with on an intimate
level. And here's why. When you have a pipeline of friends, to choose from friends to talk to,
you start to get better at seeing trends and seeing patterns and seeing behaviors. And
the note that I took down on this is there is a desensitization process that one must go through
what is a desensitization process? Well, a desensitization process is basically, in the
beginning, when you had low confidence, you were probably scared, apprehensive and nervous around
the girls that you liked. When you have friends, you start to get used to being around the types
of women, the types of companions that you want, you start to desensitize yourself to that nerves
and that anxiety, okay, so you have to have a pipeline, like you got to take some time off,
and you got to say, Hey, I can't be focused on dating, I can't be focused on finding, you know,
a girl for me, I have to just be focused on having options of people to talk to socially. And the
second you do that, that is going to drastically improve your confidence because you get better
at communicating who you are. And they get better at communicating who they are to you. And it's
a mutual exchange, and it's good value. That's number one. Number two, you have to actually like
how you look like this is so important, but so many people neglect this. If you don't like how
you look like the physical presence of you is extremely important. Like think about that, you
how you look like this is you the being that you're putting out into the world. So, like,
if you're not fit, you need to get fit. If you are severely overweight, you need to turn up
and be leaner. Because when you're leaner, here's what's going to happen, your jawline gets better
your smile improves, you like the way you look the like you like the way you fit in clothing,
improve every aspect, including the ways that you look so that way, the existence,
the being the physical presence you're putting out into this world you genuinely like,
if you can do that, that's an insane confidence tip that will help instantly. Okay, when you like
how you look, everything changes. And you can take this to the deepest levels of self care.
Like I'll give you another example. If you let's say you're a big coffee drinker, okay,
and you have stains on your teeth. Go get a teeth cleaning, okay, whiten your teeth,
use teeth whitening toothpaste, and make sure you have pearly whites. Like do the things that
you can control what you can control. Oftentimes, you can't control everything about how you look,
but you can control the few things that will move the needle in the right direction
to give you a positive experience. That's number two. Number three, practice voice tone.
Okay, and I'm going to show you ways to do this. When you practice voice tone.
What you're going to start to understand is that flirting in all ways, shapes and forms
typically has nothing to do with the words being spoken. Flirting has everything to do with how
those words that you did just speak sound, this is called context of speech. Okay.
You can have a flirtatious interaction with a companion that you like simply
by having the right smiling, the right flirting, the right teasing,
right, the right. social context, even the right voice tone, you can vary your pitch.
Right when, when things get excited, you get really, really loud when things when things
are a bit more hush and more intimate and more serious, you've lower the tone, things like that,
that causes depth of emotion that causes change. When change is there, and there's variables,
you will now see attraction from the people that you're talking to. That's extremely important.
There's a lot of ways to do this, the quickest way that I think that a lot of you can do it.
One of the biggest cheat codes that I've used my entire life, I learned this from a friend way back
when I was 17 years old is FaceTime. Okay, I would see every single time when he would FaceTime,
the connection that he would make instantly with the girl who was speaking to was instantly
better than somebody who's texting. If you're not necessarily comfortable FaceTiming yet,
what you can do is you can start to bridge the gap and baby step your way through it. The first
thing you can do is voice memos. Okay, you can do voice memos on Instagram direct messenger,
you can do voice memos on your cell phone, you can do voice memos on whatsapp on Facebook,
on Snapchat. And you can practice voice tone while you're speaking. And you'll notice if before you
were boring, or you were monotone, or let's say you were even very high pitched and pleasing,
you will see the better reaction you get when you're more stern and in your frame and in your
zone and you're willing to send those voice memos. Okay, those Voice Memos show a layer
of confidence that shows you're willing to speak, it shows you're willing to put yourself out there,
not many guys are willing to do that. That's first. The second is is a hey,
if you're free, let's hop on the phone, I'll call you. And then you just call her. Okay,
the third is progressing that to FaceTime. And to be honest, you can do this with,
you can do this with anybody. You can do this with guys or girls, you can do this with your parents
right away. Like you just literally practice communicating in a way that makes the other
person feel good, you're at the cause of their emotions, not the effect. If you can do that,
you will start to win over the hearts of anybody that's in your social circle. And I guarantee
it. Number four, invite girls, to your solidified world. Okay, this is extremely important. The
way you set up your life has to be warm and inviting. So like I'll give you an example.
If you say hey, if it's a girl, you haven't hung out with it. You say Hey, me and a couple friends
are going hot tubbing at XYZ location, would you like to come with us notice you already have
something planned, you already have a world set up you have a solidified event you're already going,
she can come into that world. That is something that's very, very powerful. It shows you have
other things going on in your life. That's why the biggest thing you can do is set up your life.
So there are certain things you enjoy doing. Like I set up my household in perfect order.
Okay, I set up all of the extracurriculars that I enjoy doing like a bottle out home sauna. Okay,
I got a hot tub. Right? I ensured that I had my business and my purpose on check. So that way I
can afford to go jet skiing, things like that. So when you have this ecosystem of fun excitement,
you have a setup, you can invite people into that world. And this will take time if you
don't have the financial resources yet. But even if you need to improvise, like think about it,
let's say you're you're living in a basic one bedroom apartment, you're like, Man,
how can I start to make connections with people simple Hey, me and two friends are going to play
kickball at XYZ park, you should come with us bring a friend winky face like it seriously
that easy. You just have to learn how to get more creative. And the more creative you get,
the more in the zone you're going to be getting. And the more in the zone you're getting,
the more in the zone, she feels that woman that you're talking to feels that you are that is so
powerful. Number five is my favorite lead social gatherings. When I was younger,
all around town what I would do constantly, I'd throw house parties, or I'd throw house parties
or throw shop parties to go get garage, right? I would invite people and I'd build them up for two
weeks in a row over Snapchat I build them up for two weeks in a row over Instagram, everybody Hey,
you got the address, you got the address or you come in you come in, you come out I was always
a leader of those. Okay, when you lead social gatherings, oh my god, there's still stuff I do
today like Facebook groups for a Superbowl party. Okay. inviting people to my home planning events.
When you put 10 people into a text message group and you say this is what we're doing. This is
the time who can make it who can bring this you are now leading an interaction that is extremely
attractive to anybody that you're talking to. And these five things will change your life. This is
how you start to be a moving force in the world a moving force in society a moving force with
the companions that you're talking to in real life. So how do you become confident with more
girls? You do the things that a confident guy would do. And those five hacks that I just gave
you are part of the best tips I've probably ever given on This channel when it comes to confidence,
social calibration and social nuances. If you'd like this video, quick reminder there is 240 seats
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