Everyone: Hi guys!
Jun (J): We made a video earlier where our wives talked about the unexpected
parts of having relationships with Japanese men,
and so today we're doing OUR version.
In Japanese.
Ryosuke (Ryo): In Japanese!
J: Finally, Japanese. Let's get started!
Ryo: Yes!
J: Let's say whatever we want, as much as we want.
Ryo: Okay.
J: We can't really express ourselves well in English, usually.
Ryo: Right.
Grace (G): Uh oh...
J: We shall speak today.
So, first strange thing...
Ryo: Strange...
J: I have one thing.
When we started living together,
I found out she doesn't take a bath every day.
G: Oh no... Ryo: Right!
Rachel usually takes a bath every other day, right?
Rachel (Ra): Yeah, around there.
J: And when I asked her the reason...
Ryo: This sounds interesting.
Ra: It's bad for my hair.
J: Her hair will get damaged. Ra: It's bad for white people's hair.
Ryo: Grace is like that, too.
G: I shampoo my hair once, twice a week.
Ryo: Yeah, she doesn't wash her hair at all.
J: You don't wash with shampoo?
G: Nope.
J: You wash with water? G: Nope.
Ryo: She doesn't even use water.
G: I put my hair in a ponytail and wash my body.
Ryo: Of course she sweats, so she showers to get rid of the sweat.
Washes her face and body.
But she doesn't wash her hair.
J: Hearing that for the first time it seems unthinkable to us.
Ryo: More than that... filthy!
J: It made me wonder a bit...
But it isn't actually like that.
Her hair's completely clean, and it isn't a problem at all.
Ryo: Right. Right.
J: She doesn't use a hair dryer.
G: Yeah, I don't use one either.
J: Her hair dries naturally.
R: Because that's also bad for my hair!
J: Same for you?
Ryo: Same. G: I don't even have a hair dryer.
J: You don't have a dryer?!
Ryo: Yeah, we don't have one.
G: We had a male friend stay with us,
and he asked where our dryer was.
I had to say we don't have one.
J: I asked you that, too. G: We don't need it.
Ryo: What else...
She always, always wants to save money.
For example, when we moved and needed to buy furniture,
I thought we could go to Ikea or Nitori*.
[*Both inexpensive furniture stores]
G: It's way too expensive.
Ryo: No way!
Ra: There are also thrift stores.
Ryo: Right, thrift stores! G: We went there, too.
Ra: And Facebook groups.
G: Right! We have one in Tokyo.
Ra: We used that, too.
J: There are Facebook groups where people in the same region can
sell or give their used stuff to each other.
We also used thrift shops.
Ryo: Yeah, she likes used stuff, too.
G: Even for clothes. Ryo: Yeah, clothes too.
Ra: Yessss
J: You get like 80% of your clothes used. Ra: I buy almost everything used!
Ra: Yep.
G: I got these boots used!
Cowboy boots~
Ra: I got this, this, and this used.
G: Wow, that's a lot!
Ryo: She doesn't buy clothes or furniture new at all anymore.
Ra: Because it's too expensive.
G: I think that if you gave me a bracelet and told that it costs $200
I would be kind of like "Omg..."
But if you told me "It costs $200... But I got it on sale for $30!!"
I'd be really, really happy and I would love it!
J: Of course it depends on the person, but Grace and Rachel
always try to save money.
Ryo: Yeah. Lucky. I feel lucky.
Ra: I'd rather eat something delicious.
G: And travel. Ryo: Certainly.
Ra: Traveling is better.
J: They don't spend much on physical objects.
J: Well, it depends on the person. Ryo: Of course.
Ra: Right.
J: We talked about it before, but beards.
Ryo: Oh, beards.
G: I love them!
J: In Japan we have to be clean. Ryo: Every single day we have to shave.
G: It's so sad.
Ryo: Always shaving.
J: It's important to be clean and hygienic, so we all have to shave.
Ryo: Cleanliness.
J: But she likes me to have a little bit of stubble.
She even asks me not to shave on the weekends.
Stubble and five o'clock shadows have a bad image here.
Ryo: Like this? Ra: I like this amount. Stubble.
Ryo: Is this too much?
Ra: It depends on the person. [A lot of people] like beards like that.
G: Personally, I don't really like mustaches. But I like this.
J: Goatee.
Ryo: When I shave she gets upset.
Her ring starts coming off her finger like this...
"Wait a minute, Grace!!"
Ryo: She likes beards. G: I love them.
Ryo: That's why she even has one here.
G: I don't know if they can see it.
J: Exactly how much do you like beards??
Ryo: Beard-lover.
G: I have a beard.
J: It depends on the person, but it seems like beards like this and goatees
can be considered attractive? Sexy?
Ra: Yeah, sexy. G: Very sexy!
Ryo: It seems pretty common. Ra: Manly.
Ryo: Right. There are a lot of guys overseas who have beards.
J: They look sexy with beards.
In Japan, being clean and fresh is better.
Ryo: Yeah, it's the opposite. G: No-Shave November.
Ra: Right!
Ryo: Right. I did No-Shave November.
Also, going back to furniture.
If we go to the thrift store and they don't have what we want,
Grace will make it.
J: Oh yeah.
Ryo: So we go to a home center and she grabs this and that and then just HAMMER HAMMER
J: DIY (Do It Yourself) G: I love DIY!
G: It's fun. Ra: It's fun, isn't it.
G: And it's easy. Ryo: You do that, too??
J: She likes DIY. Ra: Yeah, I like it!
J: Well, I like it too so we go to home centers a lot.
Ra: And you feel proud of yourself. G: Yeah!!
Ryo: So you like DIY, too.
G: When I was a kid in Texas, my family made a tree house.
We built it with a little saw when I was ten.
Ryo: In trees?
G: Yeah, we made a tree house. I was hammering and using electric tools.
To me, that's very fun.
Ra: Right!
G: I'm sad we don't have power tools. Ra: I know!
Ra: In America, my family built our house.
G: Really? Ryo: They built it??
Ra: The whole thing. G: Woah!
J: And they're not even carpenters.
Ra: Right.
Ryo: Amazing! G: That's incredible.
Ryo: Wow. G: Much fun.
J: It seems like it's pretty common in America for people to make things themselves.
J: I was really surprised.
Ryo: I had the image of building stuff being a guy's thing,
so I was surprised that actually women like them do it, too.
Ra: I think guys are expected to know how to build and fix stuff in America.
Like cars and house stuff.
G: Plumbing.
Ra: Yeah, and here when I asked Jun if he knows how to change oil in a car or something,
he said "I don't know. You just take it to the shop."
I'm like "Why don't you do it yourself!"
J: Because we have the "shaken" inspections.
Ryo: Oh yeah. G: Right.
G: We don't have them in America. Ra: Yeah, not really.
J: We have to pay and have them fixed by professionals because of the law.
Ryo: It'd end up costing more.
J: It's normal to change things like tires yourself.
Ra: If you do it yourself in America, you save a lot of money.
Ryo: I really like that mindset/ G: For sure.
Ryo: "I'll do it myself so I can save money!"
Ra: Yep.
J: Saying "I love you."
G: I love you. Ryo: I love you, too!
J: We're used to it now. Ryo: Yeah, I can say it now.
J: We don't say "I love you" here. Ryo: We absolutely don't say it.
J: It took me a while to get used to it. Ryo: Yeah.
J: "I love you" and "Aishiteru" are a little different here.
"Aishiteru" is pretty weighty. Ryo: It's rare.
Ryo: If someone says it, it's like OMG.
J: It's like what someone would say with their last dying breath.
It's not something we're used to saying so freely.
Ryo: It's just not something we say.
J: Well for now these are some of the things we could remember.
If we think of anything else, let's meet up again.
Ra&G: Yep.
J: If we do, I hope you'll enjoy that video, too.
All: Thanks for watching!