Hello there.
For the sake of understanding today,
I want you to think of your skin like it is a container,
and inside that main container,
there are many smaller containers.
Some people have more than others.
inside each of those internal containers,
is a person.
A person with its own personality,
its own experiences, its own beliefs,
its own way of seeing the world,
its own preferences.
Essentially, each aspect within you,
each person is its own ego.
You are not a singularity.
You are multitude.
You can stop thinking of yourself,
as a single person,
in order to grasp the truth of how your life,
in this human embodiment, actually functions.
Integration vs Self Identification.
We call each little container person a "part".
These parts are in various stages of growth and development.
They have different relationships with each other.
People are not born this way.
These parts are created through trauma.
A person fragments themselves to cope with the world.
We allow certain people out of their little containers,
and Into our body,
so they come forward and begin to animate us.
Now, when this happens,
we think that we are that person,
who has come through us.
We think that those beliefs are our complete beliefs.
Those perceptions are our perceptions.
The way they feel is how we feel.
Essentially, we identify
with each one that comes through us.
For thousands of years the standard practice has been
to decide which parts of self,
and specifically one part of self,
it's acceptable, the most acceptable,
and then to identify fully with that.
And to disallow all other parts
from being acknowledged and from coming forward.
This is called
selective identification.
A Guru is a person who has decided
to identify with only one part of himself or herself.
In the beginning of their disciplined practice,
if any of these parts within them,
come forward that they do not fully accept,
that does not align with the one persona
that they have selected as appropriate,
they ignore it.
They invalidate it.
They simply shift all of their focus,
towards how that one part feels towards the circumstance
that is arising.
They asked for that one perspective to come forward,
and they act in accordance with that one perspective.
This is their discipline.
They do not honor the truth and reality
of any other part within them except the one
that they allow to be the only "you" that exists.
The discipline of self-abandonment.
But like it or not, these parts they deny,
are also them.
Now the sad part is,
with a guru,
their identity is made up of their concept
of what an enlightened being is.
Whether or not that's actually
a reflection of truth.
So let's say that your concept of a guru
is somebody who's constantly forgiving,
who does not feel anger at all.
Someone who enjoys the world,
who has constant positive focus.
If you experience something
or the guru experiences something in their life,
that isn't going right,
and they feel the aspect of themselves that's angry,
that part of themselves, has to be denied,
rejected, disowned, banished to the dungeon.
They have to selectively identify instead
with their concept of the persona,
the part of them that is in that state of guru hood
(their concept of guru).
"I'm not angry."
So we will jump to that perspective.
At first, it will feel a bit fake.
They will be putting on a show.
The show of:
"I feel no anger towards them at all."
The show of:
"I'm in a pure positive state of forgiveness."
But after a while,
they will begin to identify so much with this part,
they will mistake it for the totality of themselves.
Now the problem with completely identifying selectively
with one ego,
is that you cannot acknowledge any other aspect within the self.
this is when it becomes highly dangerous.
Why?
Because, everything that that person does
has to be explained through that one persona.
So let's say you've got an aspect of self that's a pedophile,
but you can't actually acknowledge
that there is that aspect of self.
Maybe a self that's trying desperately to get in its own innocence
through children.
This is how a guru can have sex
with a bunch of little kids, for example.
They can do that because they have an "excuse",
that falls under the category of the one ego
that they have selectively identified with.
An ego that says, for example:
"I'm healing them by doing this."
To put it mildly,
Guru is perhaps the most selectively identified person that exists.
Which is why the time has come for the guru
to no longer exist,
in the form that it has existed in, for thousands of years
(through selective identification).
The rest of the egos within them starve.
They are not just suppressed,
they are literally denied to the point that they are imprisoned
in a dungeon, and the guru throws away the key.
The Guru has no conscious access to them after that point
the guru becomes one-dimensional,
and the outside world begins to reflect that.
But from the outside most people around the guru,
don't understand why so much in the guru's life is falling apart.
How can people be so cruel?
How can this kind of stuff be happening to them?
It's because all of those things are a reflection of what they have buried.
Those parts that they do not allow,
to have any part in their embodiment.
For example, many people including gurus,
that cut themselves off from the unacceptable parts of themselves,
have made the child parts within, unacceptable too.
After all, children do not control their emotions like a guru should.
A guru cannot be a guru they're out of control for emotions.
And so you will see the guru's own actual children in life
become lost to them.
They may die, they may be separated from them by their spouses,
they refuse to see them, and the list goes on and on.
All of which, is an outer reflection of the way the person's
own inner children parts,
have been cut off and lost to them.
All of these parts of self,
they need to be completely integrated.
They need to be brought closer to one's being and allowed
to merge, in a way where a person becomes unified.
Now many of you have heard the saying:
which wolf do you want to feed?
It's one of the most famous spiritual principles in existence.
Do you want to feed the negative wolf or feed the positive wolf?
Those of you who feed the positive wolf,
and ignore the negative wolf,
don't actually understand that the negative wolf is part of you.
You are starving a part of yourself.
You are selectively identifying, you are not integrating.
I have been teaching authenticity.
Now, let's take authenticity to the next level.
Authenticity is not who you as one being,
separate of all these parts, are.
Authenticity is who all of these parts are.
And also, none of these parts are.
That is who you really are.
Authenticity is enabling the spectrum of selves
to decide together on an essence.
The unity.
This is integration.
So why don't people do this already?
They don't do it because it's infinitely harder.
Selectively identifying with the persona
which doesn't feel pain, in certain circumstances,
is a hell of a lot easier,
then trying to weave into your being,
an aspect of self that does feel pain.
Another way of putting this;
It is infinitely harder to integrate a persona which is in pain,
than it is to banish that person to a container,
and then to a dungeon.
So, for thousands of years,
the standard practice for the Guru has been,
Selective identification,
and they teach their disciples selective identification,
until an entire school of thought is formed
around, selective identification.
So in christianity, it might be: "Become like the christ".
It's not acceptable to be anything other than that one persona.
In buddhism it's: "Become the buddha".
So it's not acceptable to allow any other aspect of self that is not the buddha.
This is an outdated form of consciousness.
So the next state in the game,
was essentially dis identification.
Becoming none of them.
Owning none of them.
Integrating none of them.
Teachers have come and they have taught this discipline,
but in this discipline, there is no self.
It is self-less-ness.
It is basically taking one's self out of the game of life.
And so the universe has asked for the next step in the game.
And this is it;
The universe wants to see embodied united selfhood.
The conscious game of life.
You can use disidentification, one of three ways:
Either you can use disidentification
so as to identify selectively with one persona,
or you can use disidentification,
to unite with none of the personalities.
The state of pure beingness.
That is not identified with a selfhood.
Or, you can disidentify
so as to use that disidentified essence
to create a unity through all the multiplicity of cells,
so as to become a unified embodiment.
Now, I will warn you that it is very difficult,
to practice dis identification,
to create genuine integration,
in a world that believes that selective identification,
is the way to goodness, the way to rightness,
the way to happiness, and the way to health,
When you begin this process of genuine integration,
which trust me, I will go into in depth,
over the course of my career.
You are not going to have an easy time,
because your ego judges you, next to other people.
It exists in a state of comparison.
When you compare yourself
to somebody who is selectively identified,
you will feel yourself wanting.
You're going to feel the aspects of you
that are not in that perfect state of health, happiness or joy,
that their selective persona
is currently experiencing.
But I have an analogy for you;
Let's pretend that you were to get into a high speed car crash,
70 miles an hour, you roll your car on the highway,
and every single bone in your body is shattered.
Maybe you could amputate a limb.
And by amputating that limb,
you wouldn't have to go through the painful process
of the bone healing.
All the fragments coming together again.
You would be out of pain quicker
What the universe is essentially asking of you
on this multi-dimensional level,
is to be the person who gets in the car crash,
but who enables all the fragmented aspects of self
to come back together, instead of to amputate.
When you are in pain during this process,
because you're comparing yourself to other people,
other "gurus" other spiritual teachers,
who seem like they are in a better place than you are,
it is usually because you're comparing yourself
to someone who is selectively identified.
They are not in a process of integration,
so of course, they seem like they are healthier.
It is because the persona they have chosen to see the life through,
to the exclusion of all their other parts,
isn't in pain.
Now here's the difficult part;
The people who are selectively identified,
will be expecting the same thing of you.
They'll tell you that as easy.
As easy as switching into the self
that feels happiness all the time.
As easy as forgiving.
As easy as letting go.
As easy as being present.
Because they're selectively identified.
If you plan to integrate the aspects of selves
that are in pain,
who don't hold the enlightened perspective of the
"guru self",
you will probably be in pain longer,
But here's the thing;
You might, just like that victim, whose limbs were shattered,
be in pain longer than someone who amputates.
What you will end up with at the end of this, is a unified self.
The selfhood in a state of wholeness.
The truth is that these cells within, when integrated,
will merge as one, and in doing so,
so will the universe at large.
It is what the universe meant when thousands of years ago
humanity conceptualized of there being a father,
the adult, the sun,
(which is the inner child)
and the holy ghost (the higher self),
All become one.
The secret is that the seed of each
is contained in the other.
So for example, by cutting oneself off from the inner child,
one cannot fully access the higher self.
One can only act in a way,
were according to an identity,
a selected identity,
they seem like they have reached the state of the higher self.
And so I am here to tell you
that the age of selective identification is officially over.
The new cal from consciousness,
is to consciously, allow these fragmented aspects of selves,
the various parts,
to merge into one essence,
(the divine singularity).
Which was the universe's real plan
for embodiment in the first place.
Have a good week.
Subtitles by: Tanya Duarte www.tanyaduarte.com