um tiff's trying not to kill us right now i know i'm trying to this could
be the last video ever posted so i hope you've all enjoyed tiffany take time to
enjoy the victories in between so therefore it seems like there are
my 17th scam call of the day
gotta love these scammers they're they're obviously feeling no stress right now
i've been having these thoughts lately that i've been coding for almost five years professionally
and it's been great but i feel like there's so many other skills that are not fully being
utilized and i feel like i got the coding thing to a point where i'm super happy with it you know
it's a huge challenge at first now i'm like in a good rhythm and i don't know i just want to use
other skills and that's something i'm working through and figuring out for myself
um i love coding and it's something that on the side i will do forever and you know build little
projects and you know if you go to my tick tock for example there's tons of little different like
we build hangman together we build different projects and anyways this is where my head's
been out lately and i've just been trying to work through it i feel like i'm in the next stage of
growth and evolution and just trying to figure out what that looks like
but uh before we dive into it and this vlog even more make sure to hit that subscribe
button for more tech and coding related videos and i guess let's just start this day let's go
okay so we are going out for dinner right now and i thought it'd be really fun to introduce you
to my secret weapon so some of you have met paul before some of you haven't he's holding the camera
and what i mean oh you got it we got a seat belt situation hold on
like 20. living on the edge here driving through our neighborhood hold on oh god
the camera's all over the place it's like the blair witch project here hold on oh my goodness
okay let's do it all right um so anyways so in my last vlog i was talking a little bit about
imposter syndrome and stress and really how i navigate that and honestly almost everything i
all my emotions and my feelings i like paula is my boyfriend but he's also my therapist
i feel like you should get paid extra unpaid therapists just for the record books there
please everyone so i wanted to i thought it'd be an interesting video to kind of walk through
with you just how i navigate stress and advice from paul on it so i'm not right now but the past
few weeks i've been having a lot of stress just at work and personal life and stuff like that
and it's just like consumed me and i feel like you have been giving me some really good advice
well why thank you i try i mean i think a lot of the advice i give you is a product of me being
you know substantially older and having done a lot of different careers and jobs and had businesses
and had losses in my life had real trials and tribulations so i think when you're younger
you you don't have as much of a you don't have as much of a road map to um compare to yeah so
you know for me it's like i've seen a lot of the situations you get stressed out about i've seen
them before and you know it's everything's always going to be okay you know you always have to uh
remember that i think one of the biggest things i'm kind of interrupting you here but one of the
biggest things for me and i think a lot of people often feel is almost like is it ever going to get
better am i ever going to get out of this or like making a mountain out of a molehill and
i guess how do you deal with that when something so something comes up and he just overwhelms you
how do you kind of break it down and make it manageable
yeah i think that the way i do it is you know i really break it down to the most
smallest components and it's like you know am i going to go to jail for this am i going to
die from this no no and no so the answer is you know is anyone i care about or love going to be
hurt by this no sometimes we get so caught up in the day-to-day hustle of trying to succeed
in our job or our career or our business that we kind of just go from problem to problem yeah and
we don't take time to enjoy the victories in between so therefore it seems like there are
sorry we were so rudely introducted by in sorry uh really interrupted not introducted
by uh my 17th scam call of the day gotta love these scammers they're
they're obviously feeling no stress right now yeah exactly but back to what i was saying is
you know is this going to matter in the long run yeah somebody once told me when i was young
is this going to matter next week next month or next year yeah you know and don't like for example
if you work for a corporation right and you're trying to do a great job but sometimes there's
people in roles that work with you or maybe they're impeding your ability to get your
work done or if it's a team type environment you know you can't take all that home with you and
put the weight of the company's problems on your shoulders because it's gonna seriously diminish
your sense of self-worth and your sense of accomplishment and what i was saying before
i was so rudely interrupted by the scammers um you have to learn to not just be waiting
and looking for the next problem yeah and that's a pitfall that a lot of us tend to fall into and um
it's not you know it's not a good thing because you you kind of are so busy worrying about
problems you're just like oh a couple little good things just happened here and i didn't even really
stop to enjoy them right yeah or my mother like my mother says stop to smell the roses
you know so it's really important to just try and slow down and i have a technique
that i kind of have created and i think it's my own i didn't get it from anywhere but i call it
you know 360 360 degrees introspection or reflection so i like to take a problem or a
situation and i like to picture myself rotating around that problem from a 360 degrees yeah i
think i've told you this before i don't know and basically i'm giving away all my trade secrets
here now she's going to be coining this as tiff and tech material yeah exactly um yeah like 360
degrees meaning i like to look at a situation from all angles and what are all the possible outcomes
you know good bad indifferent whether it be in a relationship our health business
friendships and you know the older you get you start to learn to kind of
listen more and talk less you know a wise man once told me
you have two ears in one mouth because you're supposed to listen twice as much as you talk
and it always stuck with me right and i you know i've been quite the talker a lot of my life and
not in a bad way just a very fun outgoing chatty guy yeah but as i've gotten older
i find myself wanting to kind of engage with an abundance of people and i keep my circles smaller
and i try to do more and work more with the people that i've really gotten to know and trust them
yeah quality over quantity almost yeah yeah i agree but back to the stress stuff i think
the best advice i give tiff and the best advice i can give anybody watching the channel is you know
no matter how bad it seems you know the sun is going to come up tomorrow yeah and if it doesn't
then you don't have to worry about it and the reality is you can't get today back so
just enjoy yourself and it's not going to be easy all the time it's not going to be
uh as i like to say rainbows and unicorns all the time but you just have to realize that you know
a friend of mine has a tattoo and i think it's a famous quote it says it too will
pass yeah and basically it's true you know when you're at the beginning of a problem or a storm
you think the storm will never end and then when the storm ends or you're in the middle of the
storm sometimes when it calms down you're like yeah this isn't as bad as i thought it was yeah
and i think too it's so important because it's something i'm learning is throughout life no
matter throughout any stage in life it's i used to be okay i used to always be like
okay if i get through this problem i'll be so happy or if i get through this next stage
i'll be so happy always thinking that i had to achieve this next thing to get happiness
right and i realized through being with you and through our conversations that it's
learning to handle stress and handle tough situations in a better way and be happy in the
moment still because there's any stress throughout your entire life 100 and you know i've noticed
with you sometimes you're lately not always but you've been bouncing from problem to problem
and not really just realizing that hey some really good stuff's happening here and i know there's
some great things going on in your life and uh you know me being one of them but you know it's uh you
know and we just have to all nobody's perfect we all got to slow down and we all deal with things
in a in a different way and yeah but you know um tiff likes to make me sound like i'm so smart but
a lot of it is just me uh being around the track more than one or two times over my course of my
life yeah yeah um that's true but the wisdom like i don't know the advice and insight in the way
you look at problems is that to me that is not an age thing it's just through having so many unique
experiences yeah maybe you're right i mean i've always been pretty i've never changed the way i've
looked at things yeah i've always had this kind of 360 kind of mentality um but yeah
tiff's trying not to kill us right now i know i'm trying to this could be the
last video ever posted so i hope you've all enjoyed tiffany tech and uh well
and on that note i just really thought it'd be good to get like while we're driving i i
was doing in the start of this vlog i was talking about how he's feeling stressed lately and stuff
like that i was like you know what i'm going to share with everyone my secret weapon and
you know just there might be a new channel starting soon called paul in grave no stop does
everyone like my sunburn i was out golfing today and uh if you're wondering it's not high blood
pressure it's uh it's a sunburn okay so i was able to successfully park paul's in getting dog food um
but i just wanted to wrap up this video i hope you found it insightful and valuable as well as far as
really how to break down a problem with stress and just navigate it and it's going to be okay
it's something that i feel like i'm going to save this video and watch it all the time when i am uh
having those moments because they definitely come and go and i think paul's right though just like
through different experiences and over time you just learn how to deal with stress or deal with
problems better and just go to look at it as a fun challenge so thank you all for watching if you
have any other questions for myself or paul around this subject though leave in the comments and i'll
make sure to pass on questions to him and answer them in the comments for you see you all soon
you