What's up my man? Matt Artisan here from The Attractive Man coaching team and in today's
video i'm going to show you why you aren't getting the kind of dates that you want with
the women that you're really attracted to and how to in a sense run your dating life like
a business or engineer it like a well-oiled machine so that you know exactly why you're
not getting the dates with the women you want you know exactly what to work on
so that you can easily attract your perfect 10 out of 10 woman sounds good all right let's begin
now think of your dating life like this like a business in the sense that a business has
four parks can you guess what they are what are the four most common quadrants or
divisions of a business well of course you have to have a product or a service
you gotta have a product or service in the case of dating that's you you're the product you're
the product and the service you're gonna perform a service to her okay you get it
okay product what else how do you get the product out into the world people have to find it through
good job through marketing you gotta have marketing your dating life also has marketing
of course we'll talk about that in a second what are the other two think about it for a second
what are the other two you got product you got marketing you gotta have a strategy for the
marketing when it comes to business that strategy could be facebook ads it could be writing a book
and creating a book funnel okay but your dating life you need to have a strategy how are you gonna
meet those women strategy how are you gonna meet them okay and then finally you gotta have sales
you gotta have sales you gotta sell your product or your service so
in dating you're not selling you're not collecting money from her but you're converting so i'm going
to call it conversions because literally it's this it's practically the same thing right if
you're a salesperson you're on the phone you're converting that prospect into a customer so i'm
just going to call it conversion or you can think of it as escalation conversion
conversion right turning it from a phone well first of all from meeting her into getting
her phone number phone number into date date until into a relationship okay so now you have
should we use a different color i think it's gonna be ugly let's stick to black so when it comes so
product marketing strategy sales okay so let's talk about product first because that's the most
important thing you could have amazing marketing which is your online presence your body language
speaking all that you can have a great strategy great conversion but if you suck as a person or
you're just not your best most attractive version of yourself yet not your higher self that you're
striving to be not your most confident masculine attractive version and you're full of insecurity
shame guilt self-doubt etc you can have great marketing and you'll get dates she'll like your
profile like wow this guy's really hot and then she'll go on a date with you and then
when she meets you well the product she's gonna have buyer's remorse she's gonna want a refund
on her time she's not gonna be happy he'll be like that was a waste of time i want my money back not
the chance this guy tricked me so if you think about it for a second pick up old school pickup
people are still teaching pickup it amazes me um is marketing is all marketing strategy
and conversion it actually is all of this right there's a lot of companies out there still that
only focus on marketing strategy and conversion say this do this look like this act like this
dress like this and you'll get success the problem is you will get dates but the problem is
she won't like you for you because you just put on this marketing mask and she realizes it was all a
sham in fact i once knew a guy who studied eight hours of pickup routines and material
and he was good on dates like he could sleep with women but then after the second or third
date when he ran out of material and they actually started realizing who he is he was this insecure
guy they he wouldn't get any more dates like they would lose interest in him and he actually
became suicidal so this is really important this is like 50 this is like more than 50
this is like 90 of the whole thing okay you got to be a good honest genuine person so what are
the pillars of being the best version of yourself when it comes to dating i'm looking at my notes
authenticity is one authenticity authenticity
i think that's how you spell it i think that's a c that's a c and an s whichever one it is
okay so here's the thing a woman does not want to make meet the fake version of
she you she doesn't want to meet the pickup version of you
she doesn't want to meet the cool guy on instagram that has all these amazing
pictures and then in real life you're a total douchebag she wants to meet just the cool calm
awesome version of you the real authentic version of if the real authentic version of you is
a crappy guy man you'll meet crappy women cool you guys can have crappy kids and have a crappy life
it's true but most of you guys at least like literally 99 of guys who join our coaching
program are good honest men they are just not being their authentic self they think they are
but really they're wearing a mask of insecurity a mask of nice guy trying to act really nice and
pleasing and supplicating to women to try to get validation and get what they want
women are not attracted to that pushes them away you're putting them on a pedestal they want to
meet the real genuine you that's why we teach guys how to be vulnerable and how to
take off all those masks and peel off the onion of insecurity and all that baggage all that emotional
mental baggage that they're carrying it's literally like walking up to women with like your
leg attached to a chain of guilt and insecurity and pain from the past that you haven't let go
of yet you need to let that [ __ ] go that's what we help you guys with okay
so authenticity and the point of this all is to rate yourself rate yourself where you stand on
all these things so you don't know yet but once i write it all out i want you to rate yourself
how good of a product are you do you think you're a 10 out of 10
nobody's really a 10 out of 10. we're striving to be there but where would you rate yourself on
each one of these and then you'll figure out shut up teddy you'll figure out where you're lacking in
your dating life okay so we got authenticity next we got shut up teddy we got playfulness
throw the market okay we're not using the black anymore i didn't hit him don't worry
i don't abuse dogs right just got him it got well teddy shut up there's nobody there
okay so playfulness how fun and playful and just laid back down to earth are you
are you having a good time in your life are you enjoying everything do you enjoy where you're
working do you enjoy the life that you've built for yourself if not build a different life i know
that takes time but work on that you need to have joy this is this is beyond playfulness playfulness
is like with women right when you show up on a day you want to be fun and playful and flirty okay but
you also have to have joy in your life you got to be a positive person and have a positive mental
attitude if you're an uh negative person she's gonna lose interest in you unless you're going for
negative women then you guys can complain together i hate you so the next thing is leadership
and switching to blue again this is going to look very odd but you can blame teddy leadership
action taking action are you going for what you want i don't mean just leading
her that's obviously important on the date are you leading her are you like waiting for her
to take the lead that's she's going to lose interest if you do and leading your friends
and leading others but really you don't need to lead others to be a leader you need to lead
yourself to positive action are you taking taking action when you see a beautiful woman
do you walk up to her do you start a conversation with her do you get out of your comfort zone
on a regular basis or do you stay inside your comfort zone and you hide and you're scared
and you see a beautiful woman and you're like oh i want to talk to her but i don't know how
that's why we're here obviously that's what my team is here to coach you to do
if you join our mentorship program and of course we help you as much as we can in these videos
there's a good chance i'm gonna knock this over by the way so stay tuned for that
because it happens very frequently okay so i'm not gonna spend too much time on each thing
right i'm just giving you the the overview of your dating life so you know exactly like
what you need to work on in your dating life okay and just like one of these changes can
drastically improve it drastically improve it okay so like you change your strategy which i'll get to
after marketing you change your strategy or you add a new strategy there's three that i recommend
all of a sudden you get three times the amount of dates and it's very easy to change or add to a new
strategy very easy okay so your marketing is how you present yourself to the world
so that would be your online profiles including dating profiles online profiles
else think about it what else is how do you market yourself how do you present yourself
to women well you have to say something right so it's the we'll call it messaging
but that also includes the words you say when you walk up to a beautiful woman and you start
a conversation with her what you say okay it's not the thing that matters the most but
it doesn't matter you have to say something and i've said things that should not work but because
i had these things i was very authentic playful and i was taking the lead it actually worked
you can read my book to find out some of the awful things that i have tried just for the sake
of trying it i wanted to try everything all the bad pickup lines the good pickup
lines one time i went up to a girl and i said what's the worst pickup line you ever
heard because i'll go say it to somebody what an idiot what a stupid thing to do
but i did that and she goes man i don't even want to say it but she goes you know the worst pickup
line ever heard do you like squirrels because i'm gonna nut in your hole cringe beyond belief but
i used it i said it i said okay i'll go say it to somebody i said it to the hottest girl in the club
and it worked in the sense that she did not slap me or sh or uh pour her drink on me she actually
said i love squirrels i was like what what do you mean i don't think you heard the punchline and i
repeated it she's like yes i heard you but i do love squirrels i was like why didn't you slap me
or pour your drink on me and she said because i could tell you're just having a good time i can
tell you're just having fun playfulness and i wasn't seeking any validation or anything
even though it was not really an authentic line what i was saying but i was presenting her as my
authentic self so anyways i digress also my body language was probably not sucking too much and so
even though my messaging was pretty bad the way i presented it worked in that sense okay so rate
yourself on those three things and then that would give you your overall marketing how well is your
marketing your presentation how do you present yourself to the world and of course to women
next we have strategy okay i've made a whole video on this called dating funnels and basically
there's three dating funnels that i recommend or strategy that would be your online approaching
and events
like i said i had made a whole video on this so i'm not going to spend too much time on it i'll
link it down in the description but this is huge because most guys only do online dating they don't
approach except for bars and clubs guys do go to bars and clubs get drunk and then approach women
i did that for a long time i still meet women at bars and clubs i just don't get drunk when i do it
but you're competing against all the other guys so don't do that and online dating you're also
competing against all the other guys that are online but you should not be doing it yourself
you need to first optimize these are called dating funnels you want to optimize your funnel so that
you're getting a lot more leads in the in the top of the funnel and converting a lot more to
the bottom of the funnel which is going on dates so that means you're getting a lot more matches
when you're swiping and a lot more phone numbers etc okay you need to optimize all of that you need
to have the best pictures you're competing don't just throw up some random pictures and hope you
get dates you need to actually spend some time and think about it that's what we help you guys with
so online and then of course i created a whole video how to outsource it so that you don't do
any of it you should not be spending time swiping don't do that come on you're better than that
unless you're in a third world country and you're you know 16 years old and you have no money yes
of course do that but if you're in your 30s you're like a doctor or something come on man you should
not be sitting there swiping get somebody else to do that pay somebody in the philippines or india
to do that i'll show you exactly how to do that i'll link that video down in the description too
so that's how you optimize online dating approaching is meeting women in everyday
situations you see her walking down the street or at the mall or here at the beach i guess you
can't see the view but it's beautiful i'll show you maybe at the end of the video but that's
where you're approaching women and there's no competition because nobody has the balls to do it
that's why everybody just sticks to online dating and then events is amazing i can't even go into
it right now but basically all your leads again watch that video that i created on dating funnels
but the essence of it is all your leads that don't turn into dates i hate to work use the word leads
it sounds very businessy but this is again how to run your daily life like a business it is what it
is um and your approaches your prospects that's a little bit better of a word prospects that don't
turn into dates you add them all to your events funnel and you get 10 times more dates you show
up to your own event with 10 girls and maybe it's just you and a buddy one time i went bar hopping
with 14 girls and it was just me all met up at my house went to a couple bars and then after party
at my house i'm gonna shoot for more of that like a bigger group than that i'm gonna shoot for 20
next time so stay tuned and i'll probably make a video about that or you can see it on my instagram
but the point is like the events funnel is a game changer so watch that video trust me it's
really really good watch it after this video don't don't don't click out yet so then conversions this
is very simple this is your escalating this is turning approaches or online dating and getting
numbers so it's getting your numbers dates numbers into dates and then dates into relationship
relationships so how good are you on dates how fun are you are you able to go for the kiss
and make it feel romantic so you can see all of this is going to depend on who you are
product you or you're not gonna be able to be very good at this yeah you can get numbers without it
but you're not gonna be able to convert dates into relationships if your product sucks okay
so there's a very holistic approach pretty much nobody out there helps with all of this there are
companies that only focus on you and your identity and inner game this is really like inner game
focused right there's companies like tony robbins it's all about inner game transform your inner
world because it will affect your outer world right your inner world affects your outer world
world your psychology affects your physiology all that stuff it's absolutely true this is the
most important thing but this still matters even if you're this confident awesome person
but you're not getting out there you're not going to get a lot of dates right you need to have the
right strategy you need to present yourself the right way oh this is also style i forgot about
that that's important style you need to have good style even if you're a good looking guy
but you dress like crap you're not gonna you'll do okay but you're not gonna do as good as you could
and if you're an ugly dude but you have good style you're gonna do a lot better with good style trust
me and then convert converting converting you know once you've once all this has worked and you're
getting dates you're getting numbers and dates you gotta take things to the next level right intimacy
so rate yourself where do you stand on each of these quadrants where do you stand right now
feel free to put it in the comments down below be honest right authenticity be honest
if you don't want to share it that's totally fine but be honest with yourself so you know exactly
what you need to work on and of course me and my team are here to help you we want to help
you level up and become the best most attractive confident version of yourself essentially become
your highest self and if coaching is something that's just not in your means right now i totally
get it so i want to give you one more resource my book that i wrote to help you know how to
communicate with women the right way because men and women are very different we're like opposites
and most guys communicate with women in a way that turns them off and pushes them away instead
i want you to be able to spark attraction and build a deep connection with her within seconds
or minutes of meeting her and so that you never have to worry about what to say and the right
words just flow out naturally so download my book man there's a link down in the description and to
the right of the screen in a second and it really helps you with being the best version of yourself
it's going to help you with the approaching strategy it's going to help you with your body
language and even converting numbers into dates dates into relationships intimacy and more so
check out my book man download it let me know what you think my name is matt artisan from
the attractive man team go watch the video on dating funnels so you know how to optimize your
online dating profile approaching and put all of the girls that are not turning into dates
add them to your event trust me man it's pretty fun to show up to an event where you have 10 women
and it's just you and maybe another friend you can get a lot of dates from that and you create a
ton of fomo on your social media so go check that out and i'll see you in the next video down below!