I always emphasize to you guys that you really do need to pick and choose who
you're friends with and that different people are gonna serve different
purposes in your life and that's okay you guys don't underestimate the sort of
energy you can get from other people it really really does spread so if you're
hanging around and I hate to say it a bunch of losers if you're hanging around
people who don't really understand what you're trying to do that dampens your
energy if you're trying to be on one wavelength and someone else is on
another it just it won't work guys and for a long time I was sort of I'd say
lonely I would have friends I would have friends that I'd joke with but for a
long time there was people that were in my life but I couldn't really share my
vision with I couldn't I couldn't talk to openly about my goals and my
aspirations and you end up feeling quite lonely from that and it's something I
had to deal with for quite a while but look that's fine honestly I would rather
be alone with my own thoughts than with people who are negative braids what I'm
trying to do in my life because other those people are just scared that you're
gonna rise up and find no use from them anymore
don't get angry at people when they throw negativity so hate your way
because other energy they're just scared that you're gonna develop so much that
you find no use of them anymore I've seen that time and time again in my life
and it's something I've sort of had to move past so I know there's a lot of you
guys watching who you know you have friends who don't really understand what
you're trying to do don't get angry at them but also you don't need that in
your life cut that out immediately trust me being lonely for
the next couple months a couple years it's gonna be fine because there's
someone out there who loves what you're trying to do it loves that they love the
vision you have the drive you have the passion you have and once you meet that
person I swear the amount of energy you guys will bounce off each other it's
incredible and it's worth it many of you don't realize you are entering the
greatest five year window of your life if you're 20 years old what you do every
day for the next five years is going to determine the direction your entire life
heads towards are you going to live a life of mediocrity like 95% of the
planet or are you going to rise and fire up all cylinders
to live the life you have the potential of living this is a time where you have
so many opportunities in front of you
it's a time before you're married before you have kids and have to spend a huge
portion of your time and money on that it's a time before your hopes and dreams
have been sucked out of you you've still got this window of opportunity the next
five years and yet you don't realize all these huge opportunities dangling right
in front of you manage your time better study harder and take full advantage of
the opportunities you've been given the studying you're doing right now it's
easy when you go to class it's easy it's easy compared to what you're going to
face after you graduate when you go to class you have people making sure you
turn up you have people telling you what you need to do you have people telling
you what books to read what to write what exams you have how to study for
them when you graduate and you're out in the real world you have none of that so
when you start taking control of your own life when you start pushing yourself
without anyone else having to do it for you that's when you know you'll be okay
after you graduate and so it's time to get to your desk and
get to work no success is this big esoteric thing and a lot of time people
fixate on the micro rather than looking at the macro so they'll fixate on this
little problem was a little tactic that they need when really they should be
unplugging from the situation and looking at a bigger context as to their
life you want to start if you have a problem you want to start with clarity
there's a problem and what is the outcome what is the problem that you
want to solve get complete clarity with that so in here I remove things rather
than add them success is about removing the things that I don't need not about
learning or adding things to my life but then I go on to say what things are in
me up and this paper is generally just for me but I'm very very open I'm more
than happy to share the things that are kind of give me up right now so this is
like a very cool insight into my head and where my life's at right now so
first on that list is partying and in brackets sporadic sleep schedule so you
know what I'm going out to clubs or I'm hanging out with really cool girls like
I might end up in bed at like 4 5 6 7 a.m. and that's not very good for me
like I don't drink so that helps it but nonetheless it completely throws off
your sleep schedule and you definitely feel the effects the next day my phone
usage so I get the loss of deep work and then I also get FOMO which is fear of
missing out so obviously with social media like I will be in deep work blocks
then I'll check my phone in between in my breaks and I'll see my friends going
out having fun doing lost fun and crazy and I get this FOMO also part of that is
I've just got people hitting me up like trying to fill up my calendar and trust
me you want to keep your calendar as empty as possible to get real work done
so checking my phone gives me more reason to say yes to these people after
my friends to say yes and meet up if there are acquaintances or other people
or business people to send them my scheduler so they can book an
appointment or meeting with me the less I do
that the better then I break it down to two things which I think are having like
the biggest detrimental effect on my momentum and where I'm at right now
and those two come out to my full usage so really distracting me from that deep
work having that distraction of people trying to pull me away from my work and
then finally the fear of missing out
that and then below that I'd say the partying sporadic sleep schedule so then
I asked myself what is the one big Domino
Tim Ferriss uses this a lot if I solve this one problem the other one will just
eradicate anyways so kind of where I went with that was you know if I lower
my phone usage then I'm gonna get less fear of missing out and less fear of
missing out is gonna lead to less clubbing less partying less seeing
people at times that don't really work with my schedule or stop my momentum but
then on the flip side the less phone usage I have the increased deep work I
have which means if I get more deep work more better work done actually gives
more time to party more time to see some of the girls I'm seeing more time to see
old friends so for me that is like the one big domino that kind of has a
cascading effect on all the rest of this stuff so if we flip over to the next
page you have two action steps because if you don't apply this straightaway if
you don't make a change or even just a small little something right now then
it's never gonna happen the action steps I ask myself when does phone usage occur
most and the answer is whenever the phone is visible whenever the phone's on
the desk whatever it's around me I'm inclined to use it it's like trying to
go on a diet but stuffing your cabinet with like junk food you don't really
doing yourself a favor there the next question I ask myself is what is it
pivotal that I don't use my phone and I answer with before I finish my morning
routine so that's pretty much like the first 45 minutes of my day it's pivotal
that I do not use my phone I do not get my brain in that zone where I'm looking
at how's the business doing did this girl text back did my friend hit me back
what's my Instagram looking like what's my email looking like how are sales
doing like all this stuff it's just something I don't need first thing in
the morning but if you don't have discipline if you're not willing to
sacrifice for it if you're not willing to put in hard work none of that matters
I can give you as many tactics my coaches my mentors can give me as
protect as many tactics as they want but unless I put in good systems and
infrastructure it really won't mean shit be the person that putting in the work
it's putting in the hours that's putting in the study time while everyone else is
playing the short-term game dreaming and hoping that everything will work out in
the end you're going to be studying when you're in your early 20s this is the
time you need to work this is the time you need to get your head down and study
well you don't have all the baggage that you're going to have in your late 20s
and 30s right now is the time where you can grind at your full potential it's
harder for the 30 and 40 year-olds that have had to go back to university
because they wasted their education when they were younger it's harder to be
studying full-time when you have a family that you need to feed so if
you're lucky enough to be going through your education with no baggage with no
kids with no financial responsibilities with nothing dragging you down then take
full advantage of it the next time you need to study and you catch yourself
questioning whether to procrastinate a little more or to actually go and study
please recognize how lucky you are to be in that situation please recognize how
many millions of people would love to be in your shoes right now because the
sooner you realize how lucky you are the sooner you're grateful for your
education and the opportunities it is giving you rather than seeing it as a
burden on your life the more you will then take advantage of it
the more you'll be motivated the more you'll be inspired the harder you will
study the happier you will become the greater you'll become
you