What Girls' Texts Really Mean
14.
“Whatcha up to?”- This text is simple and straightforward.
She’s asking what you’re doing at the moment and if you’re busy.
While she indirectly wants you to come out and hang out with her, she won’t say it
because she wants the conversation to unfold on its own.
This is her way of testing the waters and seeing if you’ll make the conscious effort
on your own to say, “I’m not busy at all, want to hang out?”
While you might think it’s much easier to be upfront and ask to spend time, she doesn’t
want to seem too eager or desperate just in case you actually are occupied with something
else.
If you respond that you are busy at that moment, then she can expect that you’ll probably
be busy for awhile and won’t waste her time sitting around and waiting for you to text
her.
13.
“Who is ___?”
Even in a text, you already know where this conversation is going, and you can probably
hear the sound of her voice too.
This means she was probably doing some snooping on social media or heard some gossip from
a friend about a particular person in your past or possibly in your future.
To cut to the chase, she found out about a girl that she sees as a possible threat.
Whether this girl is just a friend or an old ex, it means you better tell her the truth
and the current status of where she is in your life because if you don’t, you can
expect her to bring it up again.
Even though you reassure her that this girl might not be a significant person in your
life, she’ll still worry about it and keep an eye on her for a few months just to be
sure.
12.
“Haha” or” lol”- You send her a funny picture or tell her a joke and if she texts
back haha or lol, you might think the conversation is going pretty well.
But I hate to burst your bubble, but getting a text like this might be out of pure laziness.
I mean how many of us actually laughed out loud when we send lol?
Most of the time, these are just filler texts.
She might be trying to keep the conversation because she might not know what else to say
or it might just be a polite way to respond when she’s generally not interested.
These are quick responses that can be typed in a few seconds.
Obviously, there’s a big difference from getting a “hahaha” versus just a “haha.”
If you want to keep her interest, try switching up the conversation to keep her engaged.
11.
“We should hang out soon.”-During the early of stages of getting to know one another,
this text might come up a lot especially if you guys have busy schedules.
Most of the time, when we say “we should hang out soon,” we never make an actual
effort to go through with these plans, and it’s just a kind way of saying that they
miss you.
However, if a girl does say that you guys should hang out soon and follows up by asking
when you’re free, then she’s really trying to make these plans come true.
Now, that she’s made the initial step, it’s up to you whether or not you want to follow
through with her.
10.”
I’m fine.”- This text is a big red flag!
Also known as opposite day.
If you guys are fighting or if she’s had a bad day and you ask how she’s doing, and
she replies with “I’m fine,” she isn’t okay at all.
In fact, she’s just saying this because she doesn’t want to make a big deal of her
issues and worries.
But even to other people, this response is crystal clear that she isn’t okay, and even
if you try to ask her what’s wrong, she might just text back “nothing.”
While you might think she’s being stubborn by not being upfront and honest about her
emotions, she might be giving you short answers because she doesn’t want to start a fight
or she just wants to put an end to the conversation.
The best thing to do is to let her know that you care about her and give her time to come
around.
By letting her know that you’re there to comfort her in her hour of need is a good
way to show her that you’re there for the good times and the bad.
9.
Drunk Texting- Ugh oh, we’ve all been there.
Sometimes we indulge in a couple drinks or more that can make us go over in the deep
end.
When alcohol goes in, real honest and genuine emotions come out.
When a girl drunk texts a guy, it means he is on her mind.
When we drink, we’re more in tune with ourselves and we either start acting crazy, or we start
swimming in our feelings.
By then, we can’t control ourselves and end up texting how we really feel.
It might be hard reading her texts since there might be misspelled words or incomplete sentences.
But remember that she will be sober tomorrow and might not even remember texting you at
all.
So, you don’t want to make it seem like you’ve taken advantage of her in her drunken
state.
If anything, when she wakes up tomorrow, she’ll be embarrassed and apologize profusely for
her actions last night.
8.
“K”- A “k” response is the ultimate “screw you” reply.
If you guys are having a fight over text and she responds with this single letter, then
she’s fed up and done.
This type of response is rarely dished out, but when it is dished out, she’s hit her
boiling point.
It means that at that moment, she doesn’t care about your last response because she
isn’t too happy with you or she’s just responding just to respond.
Sometimes she might just respond with “k” because it’s the quickest answer.
While it’s probably the most annoying reply anyone can receive, the good part is that
this response only happens during extreme circumstances.
7.
“What are you doing later?”
When she asks what are you doing later, she really wants to know what you’re doing later
on because she wants to see if you’re free so she can hang out with you.
This means she’s giving you some leeway to clear your schedule and make some time
for her.
Of course, she won’t ask you to hang out directly because she wants you to make the
first move.
If you say you’re not doing anything tonight, then invite her to hang to hang out and when
you do she’ll feel like she’s on top of the world.
However, if you actually have plans with family or a friend, tell her of your plans but make
sure to schedule another day to hang out with and set a time and place.
6.
“Hey you.”- Alright, so this is basically her way of virtual flirting.
It’s a way to grab your attention instead of just texting the old and boring, “hey”
text or “what’s up.”
She thinks by texting “hey you” you’re more likely to respond.
It’s a sweet hello and typically reserved for someone she likes.
So if she texts you this, then this is a good sign!
It’s a modest, flirty and coy approach.
Now it’s your turn on how you want this conversation to play out!
5.
“I’m up for anything.”- So you guys make plans, and you ask her what she wants
to do, and she says, “I’m up for anything.”
So what do you do?
Well, this is her way of having you suggest something for the night.
While it might be easier to say, “I don’t know,” she wants to see what you’ll plan
instead.
Even though she says she’s up for anything, think about what you’re going to plan for
the evening.
Chances are if you say you’re going to take her bungee jumping, she might back down.
Stuff like that requires planning and lots of it.
But something simple as a dinner or movie, even going to the beach or a picnic will definitely
take her breath away.
4.
The single emoji- Emojis are an excellent way to spruce up a conversation!
But depending on your conversation, girls will use emojis for a number of things.
Some girls will use them as a conversation filler; they might not know how to respond
so they’ll use an emoji.
Some girls might be busy and will use an emoji as a quick response and will reply later on
when they have time.
Other times, some girls will use an emoji because they don’t know how to answer but
they also don’t want the conversation to end either.
It might also be another polite way of putting an end to a conversation.
They might have lost interest and are using an emoticon instead to get you to stop texting.
3.
“I’m really busy.”- It’s been a few weeks since you saw her last and you shoot
her a text to catch up, only to get the “I’m really busy” reply.
Now she actually could be busy.
She might have a test to study for, has a ton of homework, has her family to tend to
or might be slammed at work.
However, aren’t we all busy?
Being busy is one of the most common excuses used when a person doesn’t want to see the
other person again.
In order to find out if she’s actually busy or doesn’t want to see you, have her set
up a time and place when she’s free to hang out.
If she cancels or doesn’t follow through, then you have your answer.
Most of us would rather dish out the busy excuse because it’s easier to say that than
the truth.
But if she’s trying to set up plans and things keep getting canceled due to her busy
schedule, then catching up might take some time and effort if she is genuinely trying
on her part.
2.
“So how was last night?”- You got invited out to a party and went without her, either
because she was busy or had work or simply couldn’t attend.
Now, when she asks you about last night, she wants to see if there was anything she was
missing out on.
Even though the party might’ve been fun and you drank three beers, two shots and saw
a bunch of your old friends, this is NOT something she wants to hear.
No girl wants to hear that you were out having fun without her and it’ll make her wonder
what you did or if you hooked up with someone else.
1.
No response- Getting no response is also getting a response.
Talking to new people is always scary, you might get rejected, and other times you win!
The majority of the time, if she hasn’t replied to your texts, then it could mean
a lot of different things.
She might be shy, too busy, a bad texter or she simply isn’t interested.
Texting someone isn’t alway the best way to get to know someone because we can’t
decipher tone through texts and texting doesn’t show our personality.
Try texting her to set up a time and place to hang out and go from there.
Give her some time to reply.
However, if she doesn’t respond at all, don’t take it personally as it happens to
the best of us.
Girls who are interested in you will make it crystal clear, but don’t let texting
deter you away from moving on in the dating game.