Do you want to know what drives a narcissists absolutely crazy? By the end of this video,
you're going to know what drives a narcissist crazy so that maybe you could turn the tables
every once in a while and drive them a little bit crazy since they're always doing that to you.
Hi, I'm Rebecca Zung, top 1% attorney and the best-selling author of the books Negotiate
Like YOU M.A.T.T.E.R. and Breaking Free: A Step-by-Step Divorce Guide, and I've helped
millions of people learn how to go from lives of drama, trauma, chaos, craziness, and I've given
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what drives that narcissist absolutely crazy. Well, the first thing is definitely boundaries.
Narcissists hate boundaries, but you have to do this. This is more for you, by the way.
Yeah, it drives them crazy, but this is for you and your own protection. And believe me,
I know and yes, I've had to deal with narcissists in my law practice, as opposing opposing clients,
clients, opposing counsel, judges even. But it wasn't until I had to deal with a couple of
narcissists in my own life that I started to put the pieces together on how to negotiate with them
in a way that actually gets you movement. I put together my skills as a negotiator
with my knowledge of narcissism and was able to figure out how to actually move
that lever. And so I do know what drives them crazy and boundaries is definitely one of them,
but you've got to create those boundaries. If you want to have any sanity, any shred of
your sanity left at all, boundaries is the first way and the only way. So what I mean by that is,
go no contact to the extent that you can. Don't allow them into your world,
into your life to the best of your ability. I've had to do this myself. One of the people
that I had to deal with was an extended family member. So those of you who are out there saying,
"But what if I have a family member?" I've had to do it. It's not easy. Believe me, it's
painful. It is painful. And especially for those of us who are empaths and narcissists often have
a relationship with empaths. And so it is hard. You don't want to hurt the person's feelings. You
don't want to appear like you're being mean. You want to feel like you're a nice person.
I get all of those things, but they don't have boundaries. So you have to create them.
They feel entitled to everything about you. I've often said in these videos, you have to respect
their boundaries, they don't have to respect yours. That's how that goes. But you have to
have steel boundaries, iron, cement, whatever the hardest substance you can think of is. That's what
you have to do when it comes to boundaries and that will drive them crazy. The second thing is
kind of related to boundaries, but it's even a little bit more of a step and that is rejection.
They do not like rejection. They especially don't like when their supply source is rejecting them.
If you want to know more about what supply is, check out my video on narcissistic supply.
And if you want to know more about what happens when a narcissist
is rejected or you go no-contact, check out my video on what happens when you reject or
go no-contact with a narcissist. That's something they definitely do not like
and it will drive them absolutely crazy. The next thing that drives them crazy as being wrong
or calling them out on their behavior at all, or showing them why they're wrong,
especially if you have proof. Here's the email, here's the text where you said this, or
somebody else said this. That's when they get super defensive. They really hate that. It drives
them crazy. They will start to deny, deflect, decide that it's somebody else. It's some other
thing. They'll devalue you. They'll go into all of their defense modes in order to prove that they're
not wrong, but they can't stand it. And so, that's something that definitely drives them crazy.
The next thing that drives them crazy is failure or losing. If they don't get
what they wanted to achieve, maybe they're even just playing a game, they're total sore losers.
But, even just failing at something, not achieving something that they wanted to achieve,
image is a huge thing for them. It means more to them than almost anything.
There is a hierarchy of narcissistic supply for narcissists. Some supply means more to them than
others. I mean, they need all the supply they can get, but they'll let go of certain supply if they
think it's going to threaten a different source of supply. And that, by the way,
is the key to creating leverage and what I talk about in my SLAY program. So SLAY stands
for a super strong strategy, create invincible leverage, anticipate what the narcissist is
going to do and being two steps ahead of them and focusing on you, your case, your position,
and your self-care and all of that. So that's what's SLAY actually stands for,
but figuring out what that supply hierarchy is, is going to be key for you in creating that
incredible leverage. And if any of this is sounding familiar to you,
give me a yes in the comments right now. So what else drives the narcissist crazy?
Exposing them, humiliation, people seeing them for who they are. They definitely do not want that.
Especially if it's in front of people that they respect or they like or they need that
particular supply source. That is definitely something they do not want. Another thing that
drives a narcissist crazy is you moving on and forgetting about them. They can't stand that.
They can't believe that you would have done that and they'll continue to check on you and
see what you're up to for years and years and years, because they need to know. They
can't believe that you moved on without them. That's the one thing you definitely do need to do
is get them out of your life as soon as possible. And that's what I'm here to help you do. So,
go no-contact, get them out of your life, forget about them and figure out a way to
move on and that'll drive them more crazy than probably anything else in the world.
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today's a great day to start negotiating your best life. I'll see you in the next video.
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