Hey guys, welcome back thanks for joining me for another video if you are new to my channel, my name is Stephanie
I am a life and relationship coach if you are a subscriber
Welcome back. Thanks for joining me for another video
so this week I want to dive into something that is really near and dear to my heart because I am someone who is
empathetic and highly and pathetic and I'm also someone who is highly sensitive and that is
Fatigue and why we often become so exhausted
every day day in and day out because we had this amazing gift so
For me years ago, I would always complain that I was tired
I was tired and I didn't really understand why I was felt so exhausted
And then once I started learning about and passed and highly sensitive people and I knew okay
I was definitely one of those people I started understanding like oh
This is why I'm tired and I started to learn how to basically manage my life a little bit better in order to help me
to have more energy and not feel so
Emotionally exhausted and drained day in and day out now before we get started if you are in the Boston area
I will be in downtown Boston and back Bay on October 13th
I will be doing a seminar called
Empower yourself if you are in the area and you would like to meet me and purchase tickets to the event
I will link it down below
I'm super excited about meeting you guys. We already have a ton of people coming and it's gonna be a really great event
and it's gonna be my way of
Really meeting you guys for the first time and learning some really important life skills that will help you to be mentally and emotionally
More healthy than you already are so I am super excited about that
So again, if you aren't interested, I will link everything down below for you to go and purchase your tickets. So in the meantime
Let's get right into this week's video
So one of the things with being an empath is you don't have to be an impact and be someone who is highly sensitive
But most often someone who is highly sensitive is also someone who is highly empathetic as well
so the first thing to understand and we all know this about impasse is
You absorb other people's energies. So for me, I didn't really
Understand how severe that was until I really started diving into this type of work and understanding like wow
Like I really do get very drained and exhausted
After listening to something watching something on TV being around a certain personality
And it really really affected me
so like we always like we know about impasse is that
You carry not just the load of yourself which at times that's a load in itself to carry, right?
But you also carry the load of other people around you
So when your best friend is talking to you about something that she's going through you are in it with her like you are feeling
What she is feeling on that level to a certain extent, but you're very very invested in
situations in people in circumstances you feel just very deeply so
You are the healers
You are the natural givers you are the people that will always help a stranger on the street
Who will see when I was a kid?
I would see roadkill and it would just like
torment me
that this poor animal got hit I mean and I would feel it on such a deep level and I remember my mom like almost
being like oh my god, what do I do with her when she's feeling like this because she often didn't know how
How to help me through what I was feeling because she is not someone who is highly imperfect or highly sensitive
so because you have this amazing beautiful gift and which makes you such a loving and caring and giving person
It also has a drawback in that like I said in the beginning while you're carrying your load throughout the day
You're also carrying the load of everyone else
So the difficult part about having this amazing gift is this isn't something that you can shut off
This is something that just comes naturally to you
And so it becomes a matter of learning how to manage yourself and manage this gift
Versus trying to kind of shut it off because it's almost impossible. It's never going to happen
So most impacts and highly sensitive people also have really poor sleep habits
So most of us have very active
That's me I have a very active brain
It doesn't ever want to really stop and most of us kind of do but I do think that there are some people that have
more active thinking than others and
Usually we are one of those people so because we have these active brains
It is difficult for us to get a good night's sleep
So for me personally, I know that I am an extremely light sleeper. I hear the birds chirping
I hear the branch breaking off the tree. I hear Ryan moving around way down the hall
I mean, I just wake up for any little noise
I also am a person and you guys comment down below if this is something that you struggle with - but I remember
mostly all of my dreams
so I will either be up in the middle of the night and I'll be kind of
Conscious to the fact that I am dreaming and I'll very much be aware of it
Or I will wake up in the morning and be able to tell you exactly what happened in my dream
I mean by mid-afternoon. I might start to forget that some pieces of it
But when you are remembering your dreams it is because you're not really in a deep
Restful sleep and you're very much still awake
So because this is how I sleep it is I don't often get a good night's sleep now
There are a lot of things that you can do to help yourself to get a good night's sleep and we're gonna get into that
Later on in the video
But that is something that a lot of highly sensitive and empaths
really really struggle with so comment down below if it's something that you struggle with - so the first thing that I want to get
Into is learning how to manage your day and this is important for anyone regardless of being someone who's an empath or highly sensitive
It's just about learning how to take care of yourself. It's just about learning day in and day out. What do I need today?
What do I need to give myself today? And that's a question that I try to ask myself a lot throughout the day?
What do I need to do to give to myself today to help myself right to take better care of myself?
What do I need do I need to make it a point to put the phone down?
Later on tonight at 10:30 and maybe do a meditation
Do I need to go for a walk? Do I need some physical exercise? Do I need to eat a good meal today?
Do I need to spend time with Ryan? Like what do I need today?
That will really help me to take care of myself. Do I need to listen to some motivational speakers?
Do I need to read a book do I need to practice self parenting today?
and that's the thing that I'm really gonna give myself today is being
really conscious to the things that I'm thinking so managing your day is
Trying to give yourself as much as you can every single day what you need in order to?
Mentally take care of yourself and emotionally take care of yourself
So one of the things that you have to accept with that is that you cannot save the world every single day
So not every person in your life that's going through something
Requires you to get involved in their life and their situation and take on that problem as if it was your own
so learning how to set boundaries is really really important learning how to say no to people learning how to put yourself first because
You know, I always say putting yourself first is not a selfish thing
but even more so with someone who's an impact because
because you are that natural giver and you want to help and help and just
Heal people and help people and make the world a better place. It causes you to feel very very
exhausted throughout the day if you have this huge weight on your
shoulder of you trying to save everyone and help everyone and do everything for every single person in your life and
Never doing it for yourself as well. So the next thing is
rest and I know we kind of touched on that with sleep, but really what rest means is and it kind of goes into
Self-care managing your day giving time for yourself. But rest to me is
Taking a snooze. It is closing your eyes for 15 minutes
It is shutting off social media and technology and just kind of like being still for a minute
I know that a lot of impasse and highly sensitive people love alone time
so again
I want to hear down below if you are
on a long time
Person and you need that quiet so I know for me when I'm home either from working or Brian's gone
And I'm getting some alone time
I'm very rarely even have the TV on it's almost like I'm just doing things throughout the house, and I'm just by myself
And I'm enjoying myself that I don't even want to hear anything because it's like another distraction
It's another noise and it allows me to not fully rest and recharge
so let me know down below if you guys struggle with these same things as well the next thing and I think that this is
really important is
Starting to decipher whether the energy you're feeling is yours or someone else's
So so often because it's very easy for us to take on energies that we sometimes don't understand
You know
Why was some of my feeling depressed why all of a sudden do I feel really stressed out?
When you might have just gotten off the phone with someone who's going through something themselves
And you didn't realize that you just took on that energy and now it's drained you and now you're living in the space
That that person was living in so being very mindful of like I'm feeling this way right now
But is this really my stuff or is this someone else's for me?
I that was like a game-changer because I realized wow. I actually don't feel
Depressed I feel depressed because I just was with this person all day long and they're going through something really difficult
But I actually feel fine if I really am truthful and authentic with myself that I feel pretty good
But I might feel crappy because I just was in this
situation or I was just around this person or I just heard this story and it really really
Affected me the next thing and this is like really basic
but when I tell you it's huge and I actually
Really want to get more into this stuff not necessarily going into like a whole new nutrition thing towards my coaching
but I do think that it's so important especially because I am someone who is highly sensitive that
you are what you eat, so I am very
Very affected by caffeine. I am affected by lots of sugar. I am affected by certain foods
not just
Environments and you know things like that
Crowded places we tend to like take on energies and it could be a little bit of an overload for us but really the foods
That I eat a thousand percent affect my mood if I'm not getting enough fruits and vegetables and you just food in me
Especially magnesium and I talked about this a lot on my channel. I take magnesium
Not daily, but I would definitely say three or four times a week. I actually buy it
You can buy a whole foods you can get it on Amazon
It's in a powdered form. I'll actually put the here it is
I'll put it right here for you to see um
But I buy this stuff and I put a teaspoon of powder in a large thing of water and I drink it throughout the day
Magnesium is a very very important vitamin because it actually calms your nervous system down
so if you're someone who's highly sensitive or someone who's empathetic and you can tend to be like jittery if you have coffee or
You know you just take on the world. Sometimes it really really affects you learning how to
Regulate your body naturally or just give your body really what it needs in order to
regulate itself and help itself
For me that was really huge when I started learning about nutrition and learning about like what are the things that work for me?
And the things that I know I need to incorporate in my day to day diet
and the last thing that is really huge is knowing your limits and for me, this is something that
Yeah, I try to do I really try to do but I am also a doer and a task person and
I do have my own business and I love what I do and I love being with my son and I I just love
life sometimes I guess and so I want to like do and be and go and all of these things and by the end of
The day I'm completely wiped and exhausted on like x 10 level
So knowing your limits knowing what you're capable of giving yourself that a long time giving yourself that time to rest
Learning how to balance your day a little bit and manage, okay
Today's gonna be a stressful day at work that I'm a hundred percent
I'm gonna give myself some time later on tonight
or if I can't give myself some time later on tonight because
The kids have this and I have to go here and this is this or whatever. I'm definitely gonna do it tomorrow
I'm gonna give myself a Zen day. I'm gonna go do acupuncture. I'm gonna go for a workout
I'm gonna do some cooking and baking in the kitchen like whatever it is
Whatever the things are
For you that help you to unwind and kind of get back
And really like feed your soul right and like get back to calm and peaceful place
so
I hope that you have enjoyed this if you did don't forget to give it a thumbs up, and I will see you next week