- We've got another question from a guy on social media.
It reads, "I was dating this girl for a few months
and told her I wasn't into her
and we needed to see other people.
Rather than take a hint, she started blowing up
my phone all day.
She double texts, stalks my IG page,
and when I don't respond, she FaceTimes me.
Now, I have told her multiple times,
"Chill, we're not together."
I have blocked her yet,
but I worry that if I do block her,
it will only enrage her further.
What do I do?"
Okay, Truth Team, what say you?
- Run like hell and shut down every
social media account you have
'cause that's a coock.
- So Vivica, that is actually the textbook definition
of a stage five clinger.
(audience exclaims)
- I get it now, okay. - That was it, that was it.
But here's the thing,
I think something is missing here with our
audience who wrote in because
he must be still giving her a little something
for her to be hitting it this hard.
I don't think he actually was honest with her
and said, "I'm done dating you."
I think he said, "We should see other people",
which what does that bring out?
The insecurity in somebody to try to win that back.
- I think some guys do that, but there are times
when you tell someone point blank,
"I'm not into you, I'm married, I'm in a relationship,
leave me alone", and they still do everything
that's in that post.
- Okay I gotta hear from the fellas.
- And that's when you call the police.
(audience laughs)
- Dropping these subtle hints are just not doing it.
I've had these stage five clingers.
There's one where I blocked her on everything
and then I got a Venmo notification
where she sent me a dollar just to send me a message on it.
And I was like.
They just won't got away. - Oh my god.
Okay so listen, I gotta share--
- You have to really just drop a bomb on them,
just let 'em have it, and be done with it.
- So you say drop a bomb, what do you mean by that?
- Just be like, no this isn't it, block 'em,
just be done with it.
You know what I'm saying?
If you don't want to talk to her,
just end it, block her on everything, and be done with it.
- Instead of saying, "seeing other people",
just say, "It's never gonna happen."
- Thank you, thank you, that's what it means.
That's what it means. - Okay now, Jared.
I gotta share a story real quick.
So the other day, this guy texts me a picture,
like oh I'm watching your,
he was watching a film of mine came up,
so he sent like a,
he had took a picture of it and sent it to me.
And I was like, "Oh".
And when I first saw it come up I was like,
"Oh God, what does he want?"
I honestly did.
So then, I hit him back, "Blast from the past for sure,
hope all is well with you".
Well that little, little inch, little inch,
and then he took a mile like intense.
And it was such a reminder, like dang.
How do I tell this guy?
He's like, "I wanna fly out to L.A., I wanna do this."
And I'm like don't spend your money.
- Here's where you went wrong.
Here's where you went wrong, Vivica.
You gave him hope.
- What?
But no, no, no, no, no, no.
By just saying, "Hope all is well with you"?
- I know, but sometimes people like that,
you've just got to totally, I think you were just saying,
ignore him.
- You just got to--
- She was just being a kind, gentle celebrity that she is.
Just saying thank you for acknowledging my film.
- [Vivica] Yeah.
- You just said yourself it was a blast from the past,
so if you knew it was a blast from the past,
you need to not.
- I meant the movie.
- She meant the movie.
- Oh I thought you meant him.
(audience laughs)
Right, but what I was assuming was
this was a dude from your past,
no longer messing with him or whatever,
I get what you're saying.
He was just trying to smoothly get in there,
hey, watching Two Can Play that Game.
I was wondering if we could play that game again, you know.
That's what I thought he was trying to do,
and am I right, that is what he was trying to do.
- Well, no, can I tell you this?
He's a nice guy, but he's just not my type.
- He knows now, Vivica, so that cats out of the bag.
- He'll watch this and find out, yeah.
- You just ended it, Vivica.
- Wait now, April is itching, come on April.
Tell me grown woman, tell me grown woman.
- April, am I right?
- Well yes, partly.
With a guy, you have to be very direct, very honest,
but you got to wrap it with a hug.
You're a super good--
- If you give this one a hug, he's gonna step in
like "I gotta change."
- I don't mean an actual hug, a verbal hug.
You're a super nice guy and I appreciate the interest,
but I am not interested in you romantically.
There's nothing for us on that plane at all,
but you're a great guy.
So if you start with a compliment about him,
acknowledging him and also thanking him for the interest
because nobody ever does that.
We get insulted or upset because somebody
is pushing the boundary or somebody is calling us a lot.
Let's acknowledge them first, pay them a compliment,
then land in the truth.
- [Vivica] Alright.
- After today, it isn't going to matter anyway,
you got rid of him.
(audience laughs)
- [Vivica] Real talk, Mary.