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an editorial or actually uh... a piece that was written by any trial in the wall street
journal
and she's a yell professor who is a huge advocate for something that she calls the chinese parenting
experience
so how adults e_p_
yeah
so her entire piece is dedicated to talking about how
chinese parents and she uses these
terms very loosely because she had knowledge is that you know sometimes parents are like
this
you know there are some armenian hands like this there are parents all over the world
at like the spec she says that the chinese
raise their children and
better way then westerners
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proposal
seven thousand pieces by ten years mothers are superior
own revolutionary she did she do it but then of course is the controversial piece and i
want to talk to you guys about what she says it
so she says that she has to go out or something and we as a
and uh... sees extremely strict with them so n c lays that down enlist of rules threat
that she has instead so let me tell you what they are
um... they are never allowed to attend a sleepover have a playdate b-school play complain about
not being in the school play
watch t_v_ or play computer games choose their only extracurricular activities get any great
less than a day
not be the number one city in every subject except jim or drama
uh... a lot of the acceptance letter
at the computer drama
that's got what it means that crap and they're also not allowed to play any instrument
other than the piano are violent opt so needless started so by the way i can tell you reviewed
it's so chinese
that there with the what's wrong with other extra
but what about the trial intel about on nobody knows she's in reality
she say
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but the people
there also
uh...
there also not allowed to not played the piano or violent over you know i would say so they
have to play that's absurd
object now obviously some of this make sense and solid interests it really obvious with
me i think it does
some of it does make sense at all clear line right but but some of it is crazy that so
denial of the lights
any t_v_ no t_v_ no games no games no computer games no t_v_ no playdates
you know and i got for babies social right
okay these kids will be wary of sars massive
you know
these camps
need to focus on academics and nothing else academics piano by elaine
dog thing about your life okay all right so
she she tries to explain why she believes chinese parents are better at parenting that
westerners abuses already wrong but go ahead of it
she says the chinese parents are unconcerned with selfesteem
so she feels that without westerners like to you know basically struck their children
sikha all try to make them feel good about themselves not hurt their feelings too much
west chinese parents are like scarlett
we don't care about your self-esteem we expect the best for me oh and you must perform
another reason why she thinks chinese parents are better is because uh... chinese parents
believe their kids over them the world okinawa really taxi so this is what she said she thought
she says of the reasons for this our little unclear but then she shares her theory behind
it
so she says that
she believes that at chinese parents feel that they worked really hard for their kids
they basically gave up everything to raise their kids so uh...
their children are expected to respect the baton
uh... being amazing everything mind school all in violin and piano and i was pretty much
it would be great by the way looked they cheered cc chinese but
idea to see something more specific ever chinese-american straight
because there's a lot of chinese cinema village in the military that that that don't demand
that you play the piano and the violin
but these are people who are
are ready over achievers who came here to the u_s_ who gave up so much to to change
so much
two foot you know and and give their kids so much and it's a lot of which is referring
to and also as i mentioned before she uses chinese parenting dot
raise very loosely
alright hotmail dot let me get to it birthday
so if your things that agree disagree angry on the expectations you know i mean that's
my thing
on demand the very best right
uh... you know i don't know i don't think i'm gonna micromanage but i could be wrong
because our job corps shank talking to my car and i know that has worked for me
the homework like that's your business not my business i might have spent all my doing
your homework
is your job to get the a i don't care how you get greg that's
so that i think
who knows i could be wrong right so i love the high expectation straight
but if you don't allow for playdates this era your cancer donato such lies of people
and i got news for you snow process was a lot of people
or just import if not more important in the business world and success
in everything
as all the other acura all but i havent also biology tapestry kaka
expect that somebody was what u and on you it senator
is not just that you're have lower quality of life
you're gonna have lower success so she's wall ok now at the same time
if you had this it kind of a in a more balanced approach
where you know you expect better of the kids look i think they didn't get the some somewhere
that's that's agood you know a look at it for me it was interesting in different is
that in turkish parenting for some reason
you know you would think that it was very simple and it doesn't always but they've got
switched and kids in turkey think their parents or them everything
writing
and and let me tell you something that there's a disastrous results uh... it lisa lazy too
as well as well uh... nothin managed with my parents are vision data
they are the every right on federal live but it's my opinion
all generation of perceptive like that
and it's terrible
so i'd get her motivation nitrite
but at the same time some degree of doubts of that dot he she lacks any and all bound
okay she makes it too far and speaking from personal experience
a lot of her parenting methods where you know used by my own mother right and i think all
of her positive
parenting methods were used by my mother for instance she talks about how you should not
allow your child to give up doesn't matter how bad they are at something
it doesn't matter how much they hated right
kids are not the named joyce something until they're good at it and in order to get that
something it takes hard work
and not so my mom did with me when he came to dance
in the first couple years and that's i despise it i couldn't sports announcer in the back
during one death all until quite awful you know what you know what the baboon my self-esteem
for like two seconds and then i decided to come from all these other kids on the dance
but better than that
and i did yourself this is a tricky thing 'cause i want my kids of
think that they can do anything right ended their good enough
at the same time sort of paper that was subsequently that is that the other thing about uh... right
not only that his self-esteem
right so icy there
you've heard of every second uh... yest u limitations away you waiting for
but she actually the kind of interesting take on it she said western parents
uh... believe that their child doesn't have self-esteem in the most
billeted and give it to them right
and buy stock in the ego demat giving them false praise
you know that you don't want to feel bad about themselves you know and soccer games everyone
is a trophy doctors spelled that way and see all that nonsense
and she says that the chinese parents
they believe that their kids
had selfesteem so they can say things like hey
fatty you have to fat lose some weight
you're being leave you work harder
you know there's no reason to not get that a
that and they look against its too far but there's a movie set about that
by having the high expectations and cracking the whip a little bit
and not coddling a trial of a i'm not even saying you got a hit it right now no that's
all i mean by about uh... you can deal with tilted toward the more
you know that's proper time
but don't say hate daddy and me aaye re idea mess the kid out brian christie
it's an extremely straight on the other hand
if my kid comes to me is the day uh... i lost the game with what you can probably anywhere
i would say pam matter
it a little bit from but with all the way to avoid probate did in it
it's not like in the world was
but you don't get rewarded for this is not our world works
she's being domino and respected by the piano on the violent what that's your by strategy
thinks piano and violin are lovely she's imposing that on the kids
but in reality in order for them to really so that's that's something they love
and if and if they're into it in the work really hard right if they don't they're not
they won't
so you have to let the kids fly it was like being again for use the example of turkey
eight d two exams every school really well you know the business don't do it well you
go to sociology
it's correct is the right he had to be able to pick your own major because no help you
to excel in that major right now but if you force them into certain instruments of certain
things
they must do what you're not helping them you're hurting them and again if your goal
is for them to succeed you're doing them disservice generally the pay twenty thirty percent less
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