Hey Dan here and in this video I want to share one technique that can
dramatically free up space in your brain help you stay focused help you get more
done and this is for anyone who loves the possibilities who loves thinking
about the future specifically enfps this tends to apply a
lot I'm an ENFP myself and I also have experience with INFPs and ENTPs where
this can be really really helpful by the way if you're new here I am Dan this is
Dreams Around The World and my mission here is to help you become the best
version of yourself all while creating the most awesome life
possible for you and those you love and as you might guess today I am getting
sick and I am desperately filming this video so I have a video to put up on
Sunday and stick to my commitment to you guys to get three videos a week if in
the next video after this I sound even more like the Living Dead then I guess
the oranges and vitamin C is not working so if you're a future-oriented person
you're probably always looking ahead right you're looking at what could be
and the infinite possibilities and this is one of our ENFP superpowers and it's
also an intp superpower is figuring out all the possible options is being able
to sort of analyze everything look into the future make really good decisions
and we love that I recently have been booking a trip I'm trying to plan out
events for 2020 during the winter and so I've been booking a trip around Europe
looking at destinations that are sort of warm in February and March and so
there's I think seven or eight places I'm visiting and I had a lot of fun
planning this trip not just because I'm thinking like where do I get to go on
this business trip but also because there are so many possibilities and so
it's like this really fun process of looking at all the different options and
then how do they work together like do you fly here first and then here or go
the other way and how do you link everything up that's really fun to do
for my type for an ENFP it's an extremely fun process I find but here's
the problem is it eats up a ton your mental energy right the last few
days I've been having a little trouble focusing on other things as I have been
getting this done and this happens in all areas of life for us I to people but
not really kidding that planning a lunch can be one of the most draining things
for me because I'll start to think about all the possible restaurants and there's
too many possibilities it eats up mental space that really if you're just having
lunch with a friend it's not worth using that mental space on so what do you do
about this come to conclusive decisions this is one of the best ways to not only
reach your goals and get more done but just free up headspace and feel a lot
more grounded so a really practical easy example to start off with and then we'll
get into some more complex ones is just eating lunch at the same couple places
every day right there's a friend I used to meet for lunch once a week and we
would just always meet at the same place we're both busy entrepreneurs why
overthink it well I try to get the new fancy place with goat cheese balsamic
this this whatever we're just meeting for lunch to see each other so we met at
the same place every week it saved a lot of planning energy you know before we
text each other in the morning hey where do we meet for lunch I don't know what
do you feel like blah blah blah it wastes a lot of head space from
consistently doing the same thing in areas of your life where it doesn't
really matter is one way to free up some of that mental energy for things where
it really does matter you know planning an adventure or growing your business or
putting that energy into your relationship let's say and on the note
of relationships this is actually something that's made marriage make a
lot of sense to me and let me explain that because you know there's a lot of
different views on marriage especially in 2018 like does it really serve a
purpose you know blah blah blah and one of the things that does make a lot of
sense to me about marriage is that you're committing to something and I've
talked about this in other videos when you commit to an outcome
it changes your way of thinking right if you're in a relationship the way most
people can think most of the time of course it's not everyone all the time so
a lot of people if they're in a relationship on some level they're sort
of always analyzing things right they're always thinking like is this a good
relationship can I do better is this the right person for me do we have a future
you know some friends have talked to me about living with your partner and the
way a lot of people look at moving in with someone is like testing it's like
okay we'll move in together and I can test if I'm compatible with them and to
me this is like setting yourself up for disaster because you're going in with a
headspace of testing them where what do you do when you test you look for flaws
you look for what doesn't work you look for kind of bad things that's part of
the whole mindset going in right and so the opposite to that is looking at okay
I'm going to make this relationship work I'm committed to this so I'm never
second-guessing the relationship I'm never doubting if we have a future but
instead I'm just looking for solutions hey we have this problem cool how do I
solve it what can I do differently this is why there's some statistics that say
that living with someone before marriage doesn't actually increase the chance of
a successful marriage in some cases getting married first actually predicts
a successful marriage and relationship and that's including the people who live
together and then they decided it didn't work and then they never got married so
the people who actually live together first and got married they already were
filtered right and they still did not have a better chance of having a
successful marriage than people who just got married first we're committed and
then live together now sometimes this is really counterintuitive to us
freedom-loving types right I don't know an INFP or an ENFP who loves to be put
in a box and forced to do the same thing or to have a lot of structure we love
freedom we love infinite possibilities problem is when we have infinite
possibilities we literally just go insane like there's too much to think
about there's too many options it's really really overwhelming and so
something that I've been doing more and more is limiting my options when it
comes to booking a trip I like I have this trip coming up I mentioned I go out
of my way within a few days of deciding on doing this
to book the main flights because then I'm locked in and I have some structure
otherwise I'll be thinking for months like where could I go what are all the
options and it eats up so much mental space I find this with work as well I
sent out an email the other day about events I'm hosting in 2019 with the date
and locations and one of the reasons I sent out this email aside from giving
people a heads up you know so they can start planning travel and planning the
year is that until I sent that email I kept debating the dates like is this
weekend better than this weekend or like you know I had a plan but until it was
solidified I kept questioning the planet thinking about other options maybe I
could host this event in that city instead or maybe I could do it there and
that is not a good use of my energy and so one of my techniques is sending out
that email once I've emailed thousands of people about when these events will
be I can't really change the dates or change my mind now that that's set then
I can focus on planning the details of the events and doing the really cool
things so I'm not saying to limit yourself in life to just have this
boring routine life where you have no possibilities of change in the future
and all that I know that would never work for you it would never work for me
but what I'm saying has worked well for me is to make some commitments that
provide a structure for me to play with it I found this with creativity too I'll
maybe get into that in another video that when I give myself structure to
work in I'm actually more creative I get more done and I have a lot more fun as
well so don't look at decisions or structure as bad sometimes that's how
we're wired as r-type we don't want to be locked into something in my
experience across the board whether it's in relationships in travel and business
even in health committing to some things and making some decisions has freed up
so much of my mental space it's led to me having more fun having a better life
and ultimately actually feeling a lot more freedom as counterintuitive as that
sounds listen there's no freedom in your head going in circles there's no freedom
in overthinking things one way you stop that overthinking and have more freedom
is actually make decisions commit to things and
yourself some structure hope you found this video helpful hope my sickness has
not impaired my cognitive function too much here and I look forward to seeing
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