I'm going to tell you what they are
and you're going to want to stay tuned
especially all the way till the end
because I'm going to save the best one for last.
So stay tuned.
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So you want to be able to increase
trust and I know that you don't feel like you do.
I know you can't stand dealing with them
because I mean really I know
but honestly you do.
You want to be able to increase trust
when you're dealing with them
because if they don't trust you,
they are not going to want to deal with you
and honestly you do want to resolve the cases
because you do want to be able to go on with your lives.
You do want to get them out of your lives.
You do want to be able to go on.
You want to be able to have a new beginning.
You want to be able to have a new future without them.
You want to be able to wipe them from the CPU of your life.
So that you can like breathe new air so
that you can have control of your life,
your destiny and is possible.
I promise you.
I've helped thousands of people directly actually do it and
you know, I use my SLAY strategy
which is creating super strong strategy,
creating invincible leverage,
anticipating what they're going to do
and being two steps ahead of them and focusing
on you, your position and your mindset.
and that's what SLAY stands for and you
want to be able to get them to trust you
and let me tell you with narcissist,
you're either for them or against them.
I mean they really see things in black and white
and so once the relationship starts to break down,
then you become public enemy number one
and so they're looking to see,
are you for me or are you against me and so you
when you're negotiating with them,
they're looking to see, are you for me or against me or for me,
or against me and they really see you as public enemy number one.
So you’re looking to look for ways to get them to trust you.
So these are going to be some ways to get
them to trust you during these negotiations.
All right.
So number one is something that I call
it's a very special and strategic way to kind of get a little something,
something that you want and you get to kind of give a little something,
something that they want in return.
Okay, and I call it sometimes fluff for favor vomit later.
The reason I say that is because you don't really like doing it,
but you do it sparingly
and strategically and it's a little way of
ethically manipulating the manipulator.
Okay.
So what does bartering look like in the real world?
Bartering in the real world is like an exchange of services
for maybe goods or something like that,
but in narcissist world,
what do they want?
Well they want adulation.
Of course.
I mean that's like the thing that makes their heart sing them out.
So you give a little adulation
to get a little something of what you want.
So you might say something like,
can you take Johnny to basketball practice.
You are so much better at playing the
game than I am or something like that
or if it's in a business setting,
can you take care of the quickbooks?
You're so much better at the program than I am.
Something like that.
You don't ever use anything about your say
anything good about yourself.
You don't ever use anything
sarcastic even in a negotiation setting.
Again, you just make sure you're saying
something good about them in exchange
for getting something that you want in return.
So that's bartering.
You're really so much smarter about,
what do you think about the economy?
What do you think about what's going on with this?
What do you think about?
What's going to be happening with this?
You know, get their opinions on things.
When you are asking their opinions,
It makes them think that you think that there's so much smarter,
and it makes them think that you believe that they have
the upper hand still, which is a good thing.
Let them believe that as long as they believe
that things will go the way you want them to for a while.
Let them believe that for as long as possible.
I think that's a good thing until you're
ready to unleash your leverage
you know that's the strategy.
So that's number two.
Number three
They're Liars.
Remember they lie about everything,
Everything under the sun.
They can't help themselves from lying
and that becomes fantastic leverage.
There's so many different ways that
you can use their lying as leverage.
Its beautiful.
They never think that you're going to end up
using their lies as leverage against them.
You can use their lies as leverage in so many different ways
and by the way, remember they lie about
things that are even easily verifiable.
They lie about things they don't even need to lie about.
It's so ridiculous but it's true
and by the way, I have a whole video
on how you can tell if somebody's
bluffing which you should definitely check out.
and if you definitely know that they're massive liars,
just put liars in the comments below because you know
that they are.
So that's number three.
Number four.
This is such a good one.
Number four is
Let them make the first offer.
Always good to see what their hand is.
Always good to see what they are thinking
and it gives them a sense of control.
Great to see what their thoughts are on things.
So those are four ways to increase
trust in negotiations.
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