Hi and welcome back to Love English. Now, today we've got another love English
...talks! Love English talks. We're getting good at that! and today we are going to talk about LOVE!
Today we are talking about love and relationships, why not? yeah yeah our
views on this and of course a lots of vocabulary for you. Maybe a few tips on
how to find love and secure that ring ladies! Excellent, okay I'll do my best!
I think I just got lucky to be honest but yeah we're talking about LOVE ... let's go
right say but so a quick love test for you. How many different types of love can
you name? there's gonna be a lot of vocabulary here guys. okay, well of course
for the first one there is unrequited love unrequited love which is course is
the love that is not returned love you love somebody but they don't love you back.
Your heart aches! awful! I've been in that situation yeah. HOW? How could someone not love you back? Oh it did happen!
impossible! unrequited yes. Then is platonic which we use to me yes not
friendship love yeah when you love each other but you're strictly friends there
is no romantic love involved romantic love SIA is when you are in a
relationship with somebody and you are hopefully romantic with them you want to
have long dinners with business a baby oh maybe baby ha I think that kills the
romance but yes romantic love so we got from this one it love romantic love and
required love long distance is that possible long-distance relationship
unconditional oh good one yeah any real love is unconditional so true love is
unconditional true love yeah yes yeah true nut should
be unconditional but also the love between a mother and a child the father
and a child should be unconditional I would except it all with area basically
where there are no conditions it doesn't matter what that person does you will
still love them so uncle are very important and the truest of its kind
very hard to achieve though because would you love me if I ran off with your
husband
yeah I think of unconditional love that's
conditional love don't worry later I'm not going to do I think there are
different forms of love and it's and what's really interesting it is in
British English love is love the water that we use Vanya and its images more
yeah there's different levels so yeah a piano okay I can't speak Italian up
Tiamo when it's Italian and how did I say it
in tear and Taylor yeah and to buy your banner to achieve all your banner
yes I love you but for your friend it's yeah Tianna is your partner love yeah a
romantic love yes a romantic love how cynical yeah I have lots of different
forms of love lots of different types of relationships yeah um obviously we're
talking romantic I'm actually no distance yes I mention long distance
because that's the relationship that I was in yeah with my husband
no yeah yes yeah very difficult to make long distance work how did you make it
work later sky technology technology having an airplane helps because you can
you can communicate it was about communication yes that was that was this
one my tip number one oh there we go hard lady had communication
communication yeah for sure the other thing that's interesting about
how we use the verbal love is we say it about everyday objects
oh my goodness I love this tea or my goodness I adore this wine a door is
actually another word that we use a lot which we don't really use to say to
someone we adore you a man might say to a woman I adore you but it's very
passionate in English to say that over the top it is a little bit hot for us
cold British people but it can be said but we use love and a door for everyday
objects I'm gonna say adore this I love that so we've kind of sort of taken away
into the memory and hope that the words yeah yeah is used to freely sometimes
pinky as it took really I think we love ya has to be it happens over time it has
to be worked on and and I don't believe in
at first sight I don't believe do you believe in love at first sight no I
don't know I don't believe in love at first time I think I probably did when I
was in like in my teens and 20s I loved the idea of a soulmate the perfect one
and your eyes meet across the room and you just no but I don't think we ality
happens like that I think you need to get to know someone and I think at the
time you fit and you adapt and the more that you can fit and adapt to each other
I think the more likely you are to have a very deep bond and deep love yeah so I
think that's that's that's true in many ways there and I think they're falling
in love at first sight is actually more of a lust thing more of a you fall in
love the cool attractions yeah yes their lust is when you are very physically
attracted to somebody like me with I don't know George Clooney later watches
the video so I'll be in trouble yes so lust is a very separate thing but you
often get confused between the two alone yeah you think I'm gonna die if I don't
have that person often that's more lust than love love is something I think as
you get older you realize this later said it comes over time yeah what are
you guys thinking in your culture do you believe in love at first sight is there
a strong distinction between lust and love or are they considered quite the
same and what are the different kinds of love that you guys talk about do tell us
in the comments below so relationships can be difficult but as we said Laila
did get married last year this year oh is this here wasn't it time sorry worst
friend because I wasn't your bridesmaid so how would I remember I was in holiday
to get married I don't yeah and that technically a newlywed but
please we were living together doesn't really feel like that big of a
deal yeah as terrible isn't it my tips yeah tips later on keeping a
relationship working so is family I said a sensible when I said communication
yeah I said communications they're always talking about things I think
arguing is key not just because I'm argumentative but I think actually
arguing helps air issues that's a nice expression to air the issues marlene
open yeah to bring them out into the open so that there's not things that
you're not saying to each other that they can be discussed and then resolved
so when you're not happy about how so I know the dishwasher that's what I get
told off about I don't load the dishwasher properly or I'm messy we
argue about it we air it it doesn't really solve the problem because I'm
still messing with the dishwasher it's um I do you think arguing is helpful
people thinking that if they're in a relationship they argue that's a good
thing I think it just means they're not saying stuff mmm lots of things under
the surface this is a great word guys to bicker and this does of course happen a
lot of relationships and this is where yeah sometimes layer and I do this this
is where you're sometimes like well you didn't do it like that okay you said I
should do it I'm good and you go back and forth like this kind of just getting
it each other because a resolve and no it really really doesn't and some
couples that have been married for 40 years they often occur quite a lot again
it's a bad habits and they bicker I hope you were Francesca won't be like that
not yet look at you yes possibly yes I think that's I think the other thing is
compromise isn't it I think in any relationship like in later a nice
partnership you know you can't always have everything your way you have to
sometimes meet in the middle and two people are never going to always really
rely on everything so sometimes you got to come to the middle and compromise
find a compromise or make a compromise would be the collocations there so or
make your husband compromise yeah of course sighs we didn't talk about that
the fact that in a lot of cultures you know there is known living together
before marriage there is no sex before marriage you know marriage is the first
step yeah whereas in the UK culture we kind of moved past that in many ways and
often it's more dating yeah what would you say next okay you might
move holiday together maybe oh you have a nice holiday
um and yeah I live together and we thought house together before we
actually got married mm-hmm I saw that was quite a big
commitment finally together so some people also have children before
they get married or don't even get married at all we're not saying that
marriage is the only answer you don't have to be married to be an okapi
relationship some people feel that you should be married to be in a happy
relationship that marriage is extremely important and that may be a valid point
you know but other people feel that you know you can have a happy relationship
and be very committed to each other without marriage without the the legal
agreement of marriage and also I suppose it's religious as well the religious
ceremony and everything like that and again guys we would love to hear
your views what is the culture in your country what do you think do you think
marriage should come first or do you think that's a little bit old-fashioned
these days we are very curious to hear that and to be honest when it comes to
all that stuff I'm quite like on the fence I think it should be whatever a
person was come work for those people I think as long as you have the same
values and I got the same things yeah the key yeah yeah I think I'm I don't
mind either if I'm you know it it wouldn't be the end of the world yes but
do you feel different in your relationship now that you're married
not really might an extra jewelry oh she doesn't mean it really I like the idea
of two families coming together particularly with his family cuz they're
amazing and his friends and he's just have to tolerate what's gonna happen
there I think I definitely I've got the best deal I've got a mate Italian family
Italian mum amazing cooking Oh lovely yes very lucky you've got very nothing
good bargain there I have yeah guys before we go one thing you can say if
you have if your friends or your family think that your partner is impressive in
a sense they think that they are a person who ever has a good job or it's
good-looking or is just very nice good I strongly yeah
great minds yeah like yes a good catch someone good catch directly I was a good
catch he's a good catch yes very handsome
I'm he's very sweet yeah romantic this week um like I said great family amazing
friends good catch I think is referring to fishing there's no yeah it's a lot of
fishing the catch yeah a lot of idioms are related to fishing when it
comes to relationships are they oh yeah the idiom so when you are a single and
you're perhaps upset about a breakup perhaps you a relationship has ended and
you're very upset your friends may say to you they may comfort you with this
idiom which is there's plenty more fish in the sea
yeah yes plenty more people out there there's they're not the only person
that's for you so yeah that's a good piece of advice and you guys videomatic
expression I guess there are lots of idioms relationships I think we have got
very oh yes I have got lilies put one on love idioms we can do another one if you
would like to know more idioms to love and we are very happy to do that and
guys we're going to leave you with this thought from one of our most famous
playwright William Shakespeare you've probably heard of him
and his play Midsummer Night's Dream which is a romance started with the line
the course of true love never did run smooth do you think this is true is true
love simple is it easy to find it is it easy to achieve none of your thoughts on
that what do you think later but a minute look hard if it's true love then
it means you have to work for it to to make it work okay so now thinks you have
to work for it do you think you should just be easy and just fall into your lap
what do you guys think do tell us your thoughts so thank you so much for
watching and don't forget why not share some of your top relationship tips down
below what did we not say I'm sure there's plenty more tips so that some of
you could offer especially those of you that have been in long-term
relationships so thank you very much and we look forward to seeing you on love
English talks very soon have a lovely day guys bye