- Is there something that you need or want
or feel like you should let go of?
And my guess is that if you can hear this right now,
then there is something that is trying to make its way out
so that you can allow something to actually come in.
So I've looked, just over the last like,
actually, yesterday.
Yesterday, I went through this process
where I was going through all my teachings
and I was looking at all the videos that I've made
and asking myself, what is the common denominator here?
What is the one thing that has changed my life the most
over the last couple years, even my whole entire story.
And I realized that it comes down to the ability to let go.
And anytime I have let go,
in a way, the universe has rewarded me
or given me a direct reflection of a new version of me.
Now, I think about it.
If you know my story, then seven to 15 years old,
the whole step-mom thing, after that left my life,
and I was 15 and my dad divorced her,
I kept attracting into my life,
women that were trying to control me.
Because there was a belief there.
There was a belief that I was holding onto
that said that women try to control me and therefore,
my reality was a direct reflection of that belief.
In order for me to let that go,
in order for that to change, I had to let that go.
I had to let that belief go.
And I also, I had to forgive my ex step-mom.
It wasn't easy because I had a lot of anger.
I think I had a lot of my identity around that,
of the victimization that I experienced when I was younger.
Like you know, this is what I went through.
And in a way, maybe that made me stronger.
But the thing that really changed everything
was when I let go of that positionality.
A positionality is kind of like a perspective.
I had to let go of holding onto that,
and when I did that ex-stepmom left my life.
What if the people in your life
are direct reflections of what you're allowing,
because you were holding onto
and attached to believing that's what you deserve?
Both in the good ways and the bad ways, by the way.
If you have people in your life
that are nurturing and that love you,
then there's an aspect of attachment there,
and that that may have actually been benefiting you.
The time we experienced pain in our life
is when we stay attached to things.
Attachment is the root of all suffering.
I have it written behind me right now.
And that's something that Buddha said.
"Attachment and desire is the root of all suffering."
And I think what makes the things that I teach
a little bit different than the mainstream
of what we learned about the law of attraction
is I like to focus more on the letting go.
Then just the focus on the Lamborghini
or the thing that you want,
or the manifestation of the relationship.
The letting go to me is even more powerful
because when you let go,
naturally the things come into your life that you want.
Now, I had to let in my own life
of believing and having the identity
of having ADHD and taking Adderall.
I had to let that go in order for me to become more zen,
to become more of a meditator.
And it's funny because we talk about identities
and our reality is a direct reflection of who we are being.
And it's a direct reflection
of how we view ourselves.
And when I was taking Adderall,
the prescription drug given for ADHD,
going to work, what I would do is go to work.
And then at the end of the day,
I have to smoke a lot of cannabis
to counteract the side effects of Adderall,
which were you couldn't eat much and couldn't sleep much.
Whereas the side effects of cannabis,
where you could eat much and you could sleep much.
And I felt so dependent on those things
that eventually I learned meditation.
As I learned meditation,
I was letting go of that old belief system
of me having ADHD.
I started to have this part of me that was like more zen.
More of a, I would sun gaze
and do these esoteric things and do mantras.
It's funny, my buddy Drew just sent me a mantra.
He's like, let's chant this and create a bridge
from this reality to that reality.
And it reminded me of when I was a kid,
or not when I was a kid, when I was 12,
in 2012, when I was like, I forget, still 20 something.
But back in 2012, or I was 18, whatever, 22.
And back in 2012, I was going through that
and doing mantras and all of this stuff.
And I started to acquire a new level of identity.
And you know, what happens to a lot of people
that maybe like are trying to lose weight?
Well, what happens is they go to the gym
for four or five times.
And at first it's resistant because they're literally
letting go of an old part of themselves.
And they're starting to do something that's uncomfortable.
But eventually that thing that's uncomfortable,
becomes comfortable for that identity.
And what happens is when that thing becomes comfortable
for their identity and becomes natural,
they are then not just someone that's going to the gym,
they are a gym-goer.
They've had to let go of the version of them
that's eating Cheetos
or whatever it is, sitting on the couch.
And they then wired in a version of them that is a gym-goer.
So letting go though, for this is the key.
I know that any time,
here's the things that we may remain attached to, okay?
There's a there's a list of labels I made.
We've got the types of attachments we have.
Are labels, that's one of them.
Some type of label, maybe a label is you are shy.
You're an extrovert, you're a class clown.
You're the joker, a victim.
These are all different labels
that can come with that of a form of attachment.
Now I'll get to that in a second.
The second one is a person.
You can be attached to an ex,
you can be attached to what your parents think.
You can be attached to your parents want you go to college.
You can be attached to other people's validation.
That was me for years.
For years, I was attached to other people's validation
on whether they liked me or not.
And that turned me into a people pleaser.
That's something else that we can be attached to.
Then we have that of a belief.
A limiting belief.
The belief that I can't do it.
I'm only meant to be working this 9 to 5 job.
I haven't figured it out yet.
I'm not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough.
These are all just beliefs, they're limiting beliefs.
But we stay attached to them
because it feels safe and familiar.
And maybe someone else told it when we were a kid
and we agreed to it.
There's a book called The Four Agreements.
And that book talks a lot about the agreements
that we make that are just on autopilot.
And if we let go of those agreements
the we create ourselves a whole new world.
The next one is an outcome, okay?
Outcome, attached to outcome.
How many y'all want to manifest something?
And you just so attached to how it's happening
and you're trying to control every aspect of it.
Well, guess what, when you do that too much,
it creates a ton of resistance.
Tons of resistance, why?
Because you're trying to control something
that could happen naturally.
Like imagine you're trying to control going on a date.
Yeah, it doesn't work that well
because when you're trying to control how
this person responds to you and how this is going.
Trying to control something that can only happen naturally.
When you let go of control,
you'll allow yourself to be authentic, to be natural.
Last one's identity.
I had to let go of the 9-to-5-job-going-Aaron.
and wire in the full-time-YouTuber-Aaron.
I had to let it go.
But I got a lot of safety from working that 9 to 5 job.
Not only did I get safety from working that 9 to 5 job,
but there was fear around quitting.
Because back in 2012, I went through a spiritual awakening.
I became very ungrounded
and I was totally against the currency system.
I was like, money is a system of control and all of this,
like kind of theory stuff.
And guess what, if you believe,
if you're attached to the belief that money is bad,
then are you gonna attract more money?
Probably not.
That's what happened to me.
I believed money was bad.
Within 2, 3 weeks of having this like strong conclusion,
I quit my 9-5 job selling women's shoes at Nordstrom's.
And I went through like six months
of just living with my mom in a house.
And then eventually, I mean,
it's a longer story as well,
but I went through this process
where I quit that job at Nordstrom's.
And I went through six months of a lot of judgment,
a lot of pain, kind of like the dark night of the soul.
And I did not want to get a job.
I didn't want to be in the 3D world.
I just wanted to ascend into 5D.
You know, like I said, I was very ungrounded.
But it was a mistake.
I guess you could say it was a mistake for me to quit,
to become that ungrounded.
So quitting, once I actually was growing on YouTube,
I let go of the 9 to 5 job going version of me.
I also had to let go of the perspective that like,
I need someone to tell me what to do to be motivated.
Like that's having a 9 to 5 job,
it's that we're told what to do.
You have to take initiative.
I had to take initiative.
And as I started to do that,
as I started to wire in me being this full-time YouTuber
within six months, I was able to quit.
One of the best feelings in the world
was going into that job and putting in my two weeks.
My last day was the Conor McGregor Mayweather fight.
It was a boxing match.
And I knew that it was going to be busy that day,
'cause it was in Las Vegas.
And that's where I lived and worked.
And I decided to work, made a lot of money.
And I opened that day so that afterwards
I could watch the fight.
And it was a very like celebratory type thing.
It was the last day I ever had a 9 to 5 job.
But I had to let go of the old version of me.
And it was kind of scary putting in my two weeks,
'cause I got so much comfort and like stability around that.
I didn't want to fall off the rocker again
and become that ungrounded version of Aaron.
But the reason, by the way,
the reason that we are so attached
to the past versions of us
and not only the past version of us,
but sometimes we may be attached to abuse.
We may be attached to like allowing other people
to treat us like shit.
Why would we do that?
Why? Because it feels familiar.
All those attachments that I point to over here
is label, person, belief, outcome, identity.
These attachments are normally replayed
from childhood dynamics.
So in childhood there are certain themes
and certain patterns of things we're attached to.
And if we were people pleasers,
then we probably as kids, had to please one of our parents,
or we had to be a certain way,
conditional way for us to receive love.
Now becoming aware of these attachments
is 90% of the transformation, 90%.
And people sometimes say, letting go is hard.
Letting go is only hard
if you believe that letting go is hard.
If you can allow letting go to be easy.
What is letting go being hard,
what is the payoff to that?
Because anything that we do that has a payoff,
it has some type of payoff or we wouldn't continue to do it.
So sometimes the payoff can be negative,
but we might be addicted to that negativity.
If we believe that letting go is hard, what does that do?
That keeps us the same.
We may associate a lot of pain with branching into the new
was stepping out of the known.
There's a quote by Anthony de Mello that says,
"it's not that we really fear the unknown,
we fear the loss of the known."
We're afraid of losing.
Losing what has felt so familiar and so comfortable.
Now, the reasons we stay attached
to different things though,
is a lot of times a form of addictive energy.
If you're attached to an ex who maybe it was very toxic,
maybe they gaslit you.
Maybe they made you feel not worthy.
I mean, look at the dynamics there,
they made you feel that way.
They didn't make you feel that way.
It's more so you allowed them
to impact you that way.
We get in life a direct reflection
of what we believe we deserve.
And that once again,
normally is a form of the childhood trauma,
the childhood experience that keeps that stuff on autopilot.
So everything in our reality,
there's some form of payoff for us to continue to do it.
If you go to the gym
and you enjoy the way it makes you feel.
Even when you're pushing through pain, sometimes.
You might be like lifting more than you normally could
and you pushed through a plateau or a barrier
and then it feels really good.
Well that payoff, that feeling
of even just waking up feeling strong
will keep you going, will keep you going there.
Now, when it comes to the things that we're attached to
understand, like I have these,
I have this board behind me
and on it there's these two stick figures.
Now one of the stick figures has these threads,
this little line that goes to these attachments,
the attachments are a 9 to 5 job,
validation, past pain, weed.
'Cause I was talking about my attachment to cannabis
that I used to have.
So the thing and the thread, all of this is reasoning.
It's the reasoning in the mind.
It's the beliefs.
It's the meaning.
And the meaning we have to the 9 to 5 job
is the 9 to 5 job gives me safety,
it's familiar, I'm used to it.
The meaning to the validation is that
if people give me validation, then I feel worthy,
I feel enough, I feel safe.
If we feel the past pain and we're attached to it,
sometimes we'll feel like it justifies
what we went through when we were kids.
We're afraid that if we let go of the past pain,
then we'll allow it to happen again.
These are a lot of times, subconscious things, some of them.
The cannabis, I'm afraid that if I let go of cannabis,
I mean, cannabis was something I did in 2012
for like a year, all day, every day.
If I would smoke, I'd immediately change my state.
So I was afraid to let that go.
But that was the meaning I gave it.
Now the key to letting these things go
is becoming aware of the reasoning,
becoming aware of the meaning
and then making a choice to let it go
and even switching the payoff.
When I started realizing that cannabis was actually,
I was numbing my emotions, not everybody goes through this,
by the way, I know cannabis for some people is very healing.
But I started to switch the payoff and I started to see
what is my life going to be like in 5, 10 years from now,
if I just keep doing this?
And I realized that when I did it, I got very lazy.
I didn't do anything.
I know some people are productive, but that was me.
I probably wouldn't be at a great place.
When I was working that 9 to 5 job,
I looked around my other coworkers.
Some of them enjoyed and liked working
selling woman's shoes.
There's nothing wrong with some woman shoes,
it just wasn't my passion.
But I looked around and I noticed
there were two or three other people
that hated selling women's shoes,
but they did it because it made good money,
they justified it.
And they were like 50, 60 years old, some of them.
Is that what I want my future to be?
I would remember that and it would refuel
and it would then help me to release that attachment
to then let go.
So today's message for you
is that there's some form of attachment you have
that may have felt familiar.
And it probably feels familiar
because it may be some form of childhood theme
that's continuing to move itself around.
But what is that thing, the thing that you feel attached to?
And can you just make the choice to let it go?
I'll tell you this.
When you let go of that thing,
you will allow in something even better.
Let go, let go to let in.
The secret of manifestation is that
when we let go, we then let in.
That's the secret to this whole game.
The key is letting go.
We were taught that you got to focus on the vision board
and visualization and all this other stuff.
But in actuality, when you focus on letting go,
you actually make room for it.
When I've been trying to control the outcome
of like how many people watch my videos,
videos doing well on YouTube and all this stuff.
Guess what happened?
I'd create resistance and people could feel
that I was making videos to get views.
It's a different energy when you're doing something
that is an end of itself.
That's what makes all the difference here.
Being present to the moment
and not trying to control the outcome.
Instead making things an end of itself.
Making this episode right now is fun for me.
I'm enjoying it, it's my passion
and you can probably feel that energy because of it.
If you could feel that energy,
can you like the video below
or share it on Instagram or whatever,
if you're listening to the podcast?
And from now on, I'm going to be doing Wednesday, Fridays.
I believe I'm going to be doing podcast style episodes.
If that's something you guys like or want,
then like this video, let me know.
Other than that, I hope you guys enjoyed this episode.
I'm going to be doing quicker videos for the podcast,
like 20, 30 minutes long.
And I'll still do some longer podcasts episodes,
but this is something that
I'm enjoying doing these different videos
and showing how to let go.
And there'll be a big focus on that moving forward.
So with that being said, hope you guys enjoyed it.
And as always, peace, much love and namaste.