- Ask a guy for tips on how to ask another guy out
and he might give you the following advice.
Step one, walk up to the guy.
Step two, ask him, will you go out with me?
Don't listen to other guys for dating advice, stick with me.
In this video I'm gonna show you how to ask a guy out
without being too forward or too awkward.
I'm gonna add some real special techniques
to help you make this happen.
Keep watching.
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Hey there, my name is Adam LoDolce with SexyConfidence.com
where I help the 21st century woman
create a love life that she absolutely freaking loves.
In this video we're talking all about how it is
that you sexy, single ladies can be empowered
to go out there and ask a guy out.
Now I know for a lot of you women
who might be a little bit older,
you know that the older you get,
the harder it becomes to figure out
how to be able to ask a guy out.
If you're in your 30s, 40s, 50s, and beyond,
an overwhelming majority of the men you meet
are unavailable.
In fact, 62% of Gen Xers are currently married,
and the rest it seems, are currently gay.
- So, you wanna grab a drink some time?
- Ah, I would, I'm sorry, but I like dick.
- So do I (sighs), so do I.
- Awkward.
So here's how to ask a guy out
and avoid any of that type of awkwardness.
Number one, ask him out on a group date.
For most women, especially coming out of a divorce
or some big relationship,
the biggest barrier to figuring out how to ask a guy out
is that rejection.
You might kick ass at work
or be known as that outgoing one with your group of friends,
but the idea of having a man turn you down
is just simply more than you can stand.
So this strategy is really good
if you can't get over that fear of rejection.
Invite him out to go out with you in a group of friends.
From the outside in,
it looks like you're just a bunch of platonic friends
having a night out on the town.
And if that's all he wants, just to be friends,
then you know what?
It's no harm, no foul.
You'll all go out, have an amazing time,
and yeah, you might be sad that it's not romantic,
but you know what?
At the end of the day, you still went for it.
On the other hand, he may accept your invitation,
and after spending some time with you,
realize that there's definitely a spark
between the two of you.
Either way, you win and the rejection is very minimal.
Number two, ask a guy out for coffee.
Now this is an amazing way to be able to ask a guy out
with really minimizing the risk of rejection.
Coffee is such a very safe activity
that few people would really turn it down
if they're available.
And if he's not into you, and he makes a big deal of it,
being like, "Oh, I don't like you that way.
"I'm seeing someone right now.
"I'm a celibate monk."
Then all you have to say is,
"Geez, it was just coffee, not a big deal."
Then he will get embarrassed for making it a big deal,
turning you down for what he thought was a date
and clearly it wasn't a date,
but you knew it was a date.
Coffee's a great, just low-pressure situation,
and there's no giant financial outlay,
there's nothing where you need to spend all this money
and have this awkward situation between the two of you.
It's just grabbing a cup of coffee
and you see if there's good flow between the two of you,
and if there's not, you know what?
No big deal.
Number three is use the, I've got an extra ticket trick.
Some of these tips I'm giving you
might seem a little bit cheesy
or like he'll see right through them,
but I'm telling you, they will work.
And this includes the old,
I have an extra ticket to this really cool event trick,
wanna go?
Maybe it's a concert, maybe it's a sporting event,
and I want you to really consider
the type of tickets that you wanna offer,
because, honestly, will he agree to go with you
to a Celine Dion concert?
Only if he really, really, really likes you.
On the other hand, if you have some sweet tickets
to the Boston Bruins, he's gonna be freaking pumped,
and he's gonna definitely go for it.
But keep in mind, if he can't go or won't go,
you're gonna be stuck with two tickets,
so make sure it's something that you actually wanna go to,
and have a backup girlfriend
who will go with you if the plan fails.
Number four, leverage your mutual interests.
Let's say you have a guy friend
who's just as into surfing as you are.
That sounds really (bleeping) cool.
This is an amazing opportunity for you
to turn just a regular hobby into a potential date.
You could just let him known, you know,
"I'm going surfing this Tuesday,
"I dunno if you wanna come join me."
If he does, awesome.
It's not an official date,
but it's a way for you to kinda get to know each other,
and yeah, you are kind of inviting him
on this questionable date.
Or maybe you're not into surfing
but you're into hiking,
you could invite him to go hiking.
Just some type of an activity is really a great way
to invite him into your life,
to allow him to see your life,
and see if there's any chemistry there.
Number five is buy him a drink.
Now here's another strategy
on how to ask a guy out on a date
that is very traditionally done by the male.
But, you know what?
Quite honestly, this is the 21st century,
you ladies can buy a drink.
I dare one of you sexy single ladies,
if you see a guy across the bar that you like,
buy him that Bud Light, send it over to him,
see what happens.
I guarantee this almost never happens,
so when this does happen, his mind is gonna be like,
(imitate explosion).
Number six, have a friend talk to him for you.
Now here's another scenario, if you're at a bar or a party,
and women have been doing this, literally,
since middle school, as far as I can tell,
but it still works.
Have your single wing woman
go over to the guy that you're interested in
and just start talking to him.
And, you know, she might point over in your direction
at some point in that conversation.
I'm not saying it's gonna work every time,
but you know what?
It has definitely worked in the past.
So I'd love to hear from you.
Have you ever gone ahead and asked a guy out?
How'd it go?
Leave a comment below
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how to be able to get out there, meet amazing guys,
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It's going to really walk you through
how it is that you can flirt with confidence,
be able to meet amazing guys.
Thank you so much for watching
and I'll speak to you, you sexy, single lady, next week.
Buh bye.