Hello all I’m back with a new lesson, it's me Niharika and what are we gonna learn today?
Well polite ways to say, no. Do you find yourself saying yes when you really wanna say no. I'm
sure you do. Now we can't really please everyone so rather than giving in reluctantly, let's
have a look at some ways to say no. Now a direct no can really sound rude, so what are
some polite ways. Let’s have a look, now here I have some situations that we commonly
come across and how would you deny to certain situations, we have it over here.
So the first situation is when you have to deny a request. Now there are so many people
who would come and ask for help, okay. They would request you to do something or they
would request you to come with you somewhere. Okay now what would you do if you just can't
go. You can't really say a direct no. That would be pretty rude. So the expressions or
the phrases that you can use are, I would love to help you but... okay so this is the
first expression. Now for example, let's think of a scenario. Now probably there is a new
neighbour who has moved into your area and he wants some help to move his furniture and
you are busy with some presentation. You have a big presentation tomorrow and you really
can't help, you are very busy and he comes to you and says, her could you do me a favour
please? Could you help me to move the furniture? I'm new in here. And you really can't help,
so these are these expressions that you can use. I would love to help you but I'm really
busy right now. I'm so sorry. Okay you can also add an apology that you are really sorry
that you are not able to help. Another one is, I wish I could help you but I'm very busy
with a presentation that I have for tomorrow, okay. And the third one is, unfortunately
now is not a good time for me. So the person would really understand that okay may be you're
busy and that's the reason you can't help. So these are perfect expressions that you
can use to deny a request. Okay now let's have a look at another situation. Now people
do make offers for example uhh...may be a job is offered to you and you are not pretty
happy, that what they have offered. May be what kind of a role they have offered or the
money that they have offered. So you are not really happy with it and you would like to
deny it or probably someone has made an offer to pick you up or to drop you somewhere, okay.
So there are different types of offers from different people. Now how would you say no?
Let’s have a look. I appreciate the offer but this is not gonna work for me. Okay or
probably I appreciate the offer but I had something else in my mind. Okay so the opposite
person would understand that you are denying the request and probably you are also giving
a reason to it. Okay another one is, that would be great but... it doesn't really suit
my requirement. So probably you have been offered the job with little less pay and you
are not happy, then you could say, well that would be great. May be you are happy with
the role that they have offered you but not happy with the pay. So you could say, that
would be a great deal for me. However, I have some different plans or I'm expecting something
else, okay.
Next one is, thank you for the offer. So here you are thanking for the offer, okay the offer
that is made to you. Thank you for the offer, however this won't be possible for me to go
ahead with it and then again you can add an apology. I'm so sorry about that. Okay so
these are the ways that you can deny a request or may be deny an offer. Now let's have a
look at another situation.
Alright so we have situation for you here, when you have to deny an invitation. Many
times people invite you for parties or may be for a match or for a movie and you really
can't go. Uh... let's think of an example. May be your co worker has invited you for
a party and you really don't like this guy and you would not like to spend your weekend
with this guy for sure. So how would you deny this invitation? Let's have a look. That sounds
great but I have something else planned up. So you can start on a positive note, oh wow
that sounds great but you know what I have something else planned up for this weekend.
Probably you can say that I’m meeting my parents or I'm visiting a friend's house.
So you can add a reason to it. Another one is, I really appreciate the invitation, however
it's gonna be difficult this time. But I promise I'll make sure that I'll come the next time
you have a party. So here, you are once again thanking him for the invite, okay you are
appreciating that he has invited you for the party but again you don't really wanna say
no, so you can just give a reason, that I really appreciate the invitation, however
I have something else planned up. And the last one that I have for you here is, I wish
I could come but unfortunately I have to go visit my parents or you know you can say that,
you know you are being positive about the party that, aww really thank you for the invite
and I wish I could come but unfortunately I have so and so plans. So here you are being
nice, you are being polite and you are not directly saying a no and of course you are
giving a reason that why you are not able to make it to the party. So hope these expressions
help you the next time somebody makes an offer to you that you really don't wanna take up
or someone invites you and you really don't wanna go or probably someone requests you
say asks for some help and you really can't help that person so hope this is helpful.
I'll be back with a new lesson, until then you take care and have a great day.