NEW RESEARCH SHOWS THAT YOUNG WOMEN WHO ARE OUT LEARNING
THEIR MALE COUNTERPARTS FEEL A LITTLE BIT EMBARRASSED OR
ASHAMED ABOUT IT.
THIS IS SOMETHING THAT KIND OF STRIKES CLOSE TO HOME
BECAUSE I HAVE EXPERIENCED SO MANY FRIENDS WHO HAVE TRIED
TO HIDE HOW MUCH THEY MAKE OR TRIED TO MINIMIZE THEIR SUCCESS
JUST SO THEY DON'T MAKE PEOPLE IN THEIR LIVES UNCOMFORTABLE.
IN 2015, THIS IS A PRETTY INCREDIBLE STAT, 38%
OF AMERICAN WIVES ACTUALLY MADE MORE MONEY THAN THEIR HUSBANDS.
FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO ARE LIKE YOU SEE THAT?
YOU SEE THAT THE FEMINISTS ARE DOING?
IT'S IMPORTANT TO KEEP IN MIND THAT JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE
MAKING MORE MONEY THAN THEIR HUSBANDS DOESN'T MEAN THAT
THEY ARE SWIMMING IN CASH.
ECONOMIC DOWNTURN IN 2000 AND HE WAS STILL FEELING SOME OF THE
RAMIFICATIONS OF THAT A LOT OF MEN LOSS OF JOBS AND IS STILL
TRYING TO BUY THEIR WAY IN THE WORKSPACE WHEREAS WOMEN ARE
USUALLY WORKING MID-LEVEL JOBS.
THEY'RE NOT SUPER WEALTHY IN THE GUTS OF MAKING NOTHING.
DON'T GET THAT TWISTED.
WAS INTERESTING THOUGH IS THAT ASHLEY FORD WHO WORKS FOR
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LOOKED INTO THIS BY TALKING TO A LOT OF MILLENNIAL WOMEN
JUST TO HEAR WHAT THEY THINK AND HERE'S WHAT SHE SAYS THAT THEY
FEEL ANXIOUS, EVEN RESENTFUL TO LIKE THE TRADITIONAL TRAJECTORY
OF MEN WHO EARN MORE PERSONAL FINANCIAL PROVIDERS, MOST
OF THESE MILLENNIAL WOMEN EITHER BELIEVE OUR LEARNING THEIR
PARTNERS IS TEMPORARY, OR LIMIT THE IDEA THAT IT MAY NOT BE.
FORD SUMMARIZED THE UNIVERSITY OF CHICAGO BOOTH SCHOOL OF
BUSINESS FINDING SAYING THAT IN THEIR SAMPLE, THE STATUS
ACTION INCREASING COULD LEAD TO DIVORCE ONCE A WOMAN
STARTED TO EARN MORE THAN HER HUSBAND.
THERE ARE SOME NEGATIVE RENOVATIONS TO IT AS WELL.
I HAVE MANY HYPOTHESES AS TO WHY BUT I WANT YOU JUST KIND OF
JUMP IN.
LISTEN, I'M PASTE THAT I OUR MY FIANC…E BECAUSE I WANT
HER TO EARN MORE THAN ME SO I DON'T HAVE TO WORK AS MUCH.
DO YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN?
I WANT THAT TO HAPPEN.
THAT'S BECAUSE YOU ARE CONFIDENT THAT YOU ARE NOT
AN INSECURE MAN.
I AM ALSO SUPER LAZY.
IT WOULD HELP ME.
I KNOW THAT IS NOT WHAT WE'RE TALKING ABOUT HERE, AND
ABOUT IS NOT THE ISSUE, THAT IS MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE.
THE NORM IS WHEN YOU WATCH LEAVE IT TO BEAVER, THE MAN
GUESSWORK AND THE WOMAN STAYS AT HOME AND IT IS WEIRD, IT
FEELS WEIRD TO PEOPLE I THINK BECAUSE IT IS DIFFERENT
FROM WHAT THEY HAVE SEEN.
I THINK THAT A LOT, SOCIETY FOR VERY LONG TIME HAS TOLD
MEN THAT THE ONLY WORTH HER ONLY VALUE THAT THEY HAVE IS
EARNING POTENTIAL WHICH I'VE NEVER BOUGHT INTO.
I THINK IS COMPLETE BS.
I THINK THERE'S SO MUCH MORE TO A PERSON.
FORGET GENDER FOR A SECOND.
THERE'S WAY MORE TO
PEOPLE THAN HOW MUCH THEY EARN.
I REMEMBER HAVING A CONVERSATION A LONG TIME AGO WAY BEFORE
I MET MY HUSBAND WITH ONE OF MY MOMS FRIENDS AND I WAS
TELLING HER ABOUT MY AMBITIONS AND WHAT I WANTED OUT OF LIFE
AND SHE WAS LIKE YOU WANT TO LIVE IN THIS NEIGHBOR NEBRASKA
HAVE HOUSE, YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO MARRY A RICH GUY DIALOGUE
AND BE ABLE TO DO IT ON YOUR OWN.
JUST STOP WASTING
YOUR TIME WITH THESE GUYS WHO ARE NOT GOING TO BE WEALTHY.
THAT NOTION IS PART OF THE PROBLEM.
THAT IS WHY SO MANY MEN WILL FEEL BAD ABOUT THEMSELVES
WHEN THEY SHOULDN'T JUST BECAUSE THE PARTNERS MAKING MORE
MONEY THAN THEM.
BUT I WILL SAY THAT IN A VERY WHITE SUBURBAN CUL-DE-SAC RIGHT
LIVED THERE WAS A MOMENT WHERE MY NEIGHBOR PULLED ME ASIDE AND
WAS LIKE JUST SAYING THIS THING, JOKING, YOU CAN MARRY MORE
IN A MINUTE THEN YOU CAN MAKE IN A LIFETIME.
THAT'S EXACTLY TRUE YOU ALSO MARRY SOMEONE THAT YOU
DON'T LOVE SUE CAN GET MONEY.
SOMETIMES YOU FIND BOTH.
SOME RICH PERSON YOU CAN LOVE.
MAYBE IT'S BECAUSE THE SUPER RICH, BUT I LOVE MONEY, SO
BY THE TRANSITIVE PROPERTY I CAN LOVE SOMEONE WHO HAS MONEY.
BY THE WAY, LET ME GET THIS OUT OF THE WAY BEFORE WE
CONTINUE ON, THE RESENTFUL STUFF THAT COMES ABOUT IS NOT JUST FOR
MEN.
I DON'T WANT TO PUT IT ON THEM.
THE WOMEN SURGICAL RESEMBLE AS WELL AND SO ONE OF THE REASONS
WHY IS BECAUSE PEOPLE ARE LUCKILY EVOLVING AND CHANGING
WHEN IT COMES TO CHILD REARING AND TAKING CARE OF HOUSEHOLD
DUTIES BUT STILL RELY ON WOMEN'S YOU ALL THE WORK SO IF A WOMAN
IS EARNING ALL THE MONEY, THE MAJORITY OF AND ON TOP OF IT HAS
ALL OF THE RESPONSIBILITIES IN THE HOME THEN YOU START TO
GROW A LITTLE RESENTFUL.
WOMEN STATED THAT AS WELL DURING THIS INTERVIEWS.
SOME MEN DON'T, I AGREE WITH YOU WITH THE WERE THINK THE
THERE WAS A PERIOD A FEW YEARS AGO WHERE THERE WAS SO MUCH
PROPAGANDA TELLING WOMEN THAT THE MORE SUCCESSFUL THEY WOULD
BE, THE MORE THE POTENTIAL FOR THEM TO BE ALONE.
REMEMBER NEWSWEEK THAT AN ARTICLE AND EVEN ESSENCE
MAGAZINE DID ARTICLE A SET IF YOU ARE A WOMAN OF COLOR
AND YOU ARE OVER 30
AND YOU ARE NOT MARRIED, YOU PROBABLY WILL NEVER GET MARRIED.
THE CONSTANT PROPAGANDA THAT IS ALWAYS BEING PILED ON WOMEN.
THERE ARE SO MANY THINGS THAT WE HAVE TO DO.
WE HAVE TO OVERACHIEVE.
WE HAVE TO BE SUBMISSIVE TO MEN, WE DON'T WANT TO BRUISER EGOS.
WE HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF THE HOME AND HAVE A JOB AND NOW WE CAN
MAKE MORE THAN THE GUY BECAUSE, THOSE OF THE THINGS THAT ALWAYS
BEING TOLD THE WOMEN AND I'M NOT SAYING THAT MEN, THE GENERAL
POPULATION OF MEN ARE PERPETUATING THIS BUT I DO THINK
THAT IT IS A CONSTANT TEAM OF ALL THE THINGS THAT WOMEN HAVE
TO KEEP UP WITH ALL THE TIME AND I WILL TELL YOU, IF MILLENNIAL
WOMEN ARE FILLING THIS PRESSURE, IMAGINE THE GENERATION
BEFORE THEM WHERE IT WAS UNHEARD OF FOR A WOMAN.
I LOVE THAT YOU BROUGHT THAT UP.
MY HUSBAND IS CUBAN, AND AN OBVIOUS TALK KNOW THIS A
TALK ABOUT IT ALL THE TIME.
IN CUBAN CULTURE,
MUCH LIKE OTHER LATINO CULTURES, THERE IS THIS MACHISIMO
THING GOING ON.
I HAVE EXPERIENCED IT WITH A LOT OF LATINO GUYS AND WITH
CHRISTIAN, IT IS NOT A PROBLEM BUT I DEFINITELY SEE IT WITH
SOME OF HIS ELDERS AND IT IS KIND OF INCREDIBLE BECAUSE
IT IS A VERY OLD-SCHOOL WAY OF THINKING AND I THINK GUYS
AND YOUNGER GENERATIONS ARE NOT LIKE THAT AT ALL.
I THINK THEY REALIZE YOU KNOW WHAT, WE DO NEED A DUAL
INCOME HOUSEHOLD WITH THIS CURRENT ECONOMIC SITUATION.
IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE ANYMORE, YOU CAN'T EVEN HAVE A
SINGLE EARNER IN THE HOUSE.
YOU NEED TO HAVE A TOOL INCOME HOUSEHOLD AT THIS POINT FOR
THE VAST MAJORITY OF PEOPLE IN LESS YOU ARE IN SILICON
VALLEY MAKING THE BIG BUCKS.
THIS WHOLE THING OF THE WOMAN, HOW SHE FEELS ABOUT
MAKING MORE THAN HER HUSBAND, THE TIPTOEING AROUND IT
WOULD BE, KIND OF IMPLIES THAT MEN ARE STRONG.
MEN NEED TO FILL STRONG SO DON'T HURT THEIR FEELINGS.
THEN YOU SAID MEN HAVE FEELINGS WHO COULD GET HER.
IT PAINTS MEN BOTH A STRONG AND VERY WEAK.
I JUST THINK, MORE OF MEN THAN THAT.
I THINK, LOOK, SOME GUYS MIGHT BE INSECURE ABOUT IT BUT I
HAVE SO MUCH MORE FAITH IN GUYS AND I HAVE FAITH THAT THEY
ARE NOT GOING TO HAVE THE EGOS BRUISE JUST BECAUSE
TEMPORARILY, MAYBE NOT, THEIR PARTNER MAY BE MAKING
A LITTLE MORE MONEY THEN THEY ARE TAUGHT IS A PARTNERSHIP.
YOU SHOULDN'T THINK OF A RELATIONSHIP IS A COMPETITIVE
THING WHERE YOU ARE COMPETING WHETHER IT IS A MAN OR A WOMAN.
LET ME SAY SOMETHING, WHEN YOU ARE IN A
LONG-TERM, COMMITTED, MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP AND YOU WERE
LIVING TOGETHER IN YOUR PLANNING ON BEING TOGETHER FOR THE
LONG HAUL, IT DOESN'T MATTER WHO THE HELL IS MAKING THE
MONEY, IT FEELS GOOD.
WHEN A DIRECT DEPOSIT COMES IN, I DON'T CARE IF IT IS
CHRISTIAN OR TYT, I AM HAPPY BECAUSE VERY ABLE TO PAY
HER BILLS AND THAT IS ALL THAT
MATTERS.