Camille asked could you make a video on how to let go of the past I realize there is so much
I'm holding on to and it keeps on piling up as the years go by and I have new experiences this
is definitely something that most of us struggle with and that is how do we let go of the past our
past is made up out of all kinds of experiences of things that we enjoyed and things that we didn't
enjoy and a lot of times we have grudges and resentments and disappointments that form part of
how we see ourselves and how we see our past and the problem with this is that it colors the way
in which we experience and which we show up in the world today so in the video I want to take
you through some of the things that we can do to learn how to let go of the past if this is the
first time that you are watching one of my videos welcome to our community say hello in the comments
and subscribe so that you can get notified of my new videos that come out weekly I am Tertia
I'm an eft practitioner and I'm also a coach and I help highly sensitive people get unstuck
and break through the things that hold them back so that they can live better and feel better
grudges and resentments are things that really and truly hold us back and I think sensitive people
are in particular quite good at holding grudges because we remember all of the slights that have
happened to us and because we have such high standards that we hold ourselves to
and also that we hold people in our lives too if you know this about yourself if you know that as
a sensitive person you have a tendency to hold on to the past to hold on to grudges to really blow
up these resentments in your mind then this here is an opportunity for you to begin to heal that
because as long as you hold on to these grudges they are going to affect the way that you show up
today what happens is we end up putting ourselves in a victim mindset now the way that the brain
works is it shows you more of what you tell it so if you are going to continuously live in the
story of a victim if you are continuously going to go back and chew on your past and re-iterate and
relive and re-experience all of these wrongdoings and injustices and unfairnesses you're going to
see more of that show up in your life because you are training your brain to show you that
we continuously remind ourselves who we are what our past is about where we come from and this is
how we know how to show up in the world right but sometimes these stories become outdated
they don't serve us anymore they don't serve a purpose anymore and this is then when it's time
to move on and let go of this this victim mindset that we put ourselves in the short answer to how
do I let go of my past is it has to come from within it is a decision that you make you decide
that you are ready to let go and you decide that you are no longer going to be a person
who holds resentments and who bears grudges and a person who clings onto the past and then
when you get triggered you remind yourself and you remind your brain hey remember I am no longer that
person I'm no longer someone who gets held hostage and victim by the things that happened to me instead
here I am today and I get to show up in the way that I want instead of being ruled and governed by
my triggers and my programming which doesn't serve me anymore I'm changing that and if this was an
easy thing to do we'd all be doing it all the time right there wouldn't be so much information
there wouldn't be this video that I'm making for you there wouldn't be so much information about
surrendering and letting go and forgiving and getting beyond your past the truth is that it
isn't easy but it's not complicated it's quite simple to do as long as the willingness is there
now if we talk about forgiveness and letting go I believe that we forgive with our minds first and
then with our heart the two don't work separately forgiveness requires an insight forgiveness
requires a shift in the way in which we think otherwise you forgive someone but you never forget
what they've done to you and it's happened to all of us I think so to truly forgive I need to think
differently about something I need that level of insight letting go your past and getting
over yourself is a mindset shift and I'm saying getting over yourself because your resentments
and your grudges and your disappointments and your feelings of your trust that's been broken
it all lives in your mind our minds are so powerful but a lot of times we allow our minds
to rule our lives where it should actually be the other way around so what we want to do is to train
ourselves so that we are not ruled by our minds but that we come from a place of consciousness
where we are present and aware and conscious of our actions and our thoughts and our feelings
for most of the time so how then do we begin to do this and the answer is self-work the way into
to beginning to show up differently is you have to do the work now if you're watching my videos then
you are already on the path of doing self-work right I don't think anyone will watch these videos
if you don't have a true desire to change something and improve something and make
something different in your life so one of the easier ways to really become detached from your
past is to learn how to live in the present moment the present moment is right here and when we are
in the present it is very difficult for us to be fixated on the future or to be stuck in the past
now there are different techniques that can get you into the present moment and two techniques
that I talk about a lot in my videos and I'll put some links for you in the description
below are grounding and breathing techniques so let's talk quickly about grounding techniques
grounding is where you pull your mind out of the future and out of the past and out of the
flutterings you pull your mind and your attention and your awareness back into your body
when you ground yourself you have to lodge into your body because your body is in the present
moment and especially for us highly sensitive types we spend a lot of energy up here because
of our level of processing so we can disconnect easily from our bodies and we want to move into
our body so that we can become grounded so that we can become present and aware things like touching
plants or being in nature or even drinking a glass of water stomping your your feet on the floor
these are all things that you can do to ground yourself so that you can become more present
and then of course also using the breath our breath again is in the present moment
so simply by focusing on your breath that focus and attention is also going to bring you into the
present moment because that is where your breath lives often feelings like resentment and grudges
has an underlying foundation of anger and guilt and shame and frustration and when you work with a
therapist or a coach you can begin to clear this foundation walking around with these emotions
they might make you feel justified in holding on to your anger and holding on to your resentment
but they don't serve you they are a story that you can go beyond and move past as long as you
are stuck in anger and in fear and guilt and shame you are never going to be able to
fully find peace inside and feel better and live better it's always going to hold you back
so self-work where you begin to clear these things are also going to allow you then to move more into
the present moment and let go of the past so I'd like to know from you what of these resonated the
most with you and let me know in the comments below what helped you letting go is an action
letting go of your past is a conscious choice it is not easy but it is simple we don't have
to make it so complicated it really is showing up for yourself every day at least in the beginning
and reminding your brain that you are now someone else you are now someone who lets go
of graduates who lets go of resentments who lets go of the wrongdoings that have been done or the
perceived wrongdoings that you that you see in the world we have to be compassionate with
ourselves this is a journey your brain and your mind is already thinking in a certain way
because it's been programmed over a period of time so don't expect that the the act of letting go and
becoming a person who surrenders rather than holds on to to your past it is also not
going to happen overnight it is a process all of the work that we do here is the process I always
talk about the layers of an onion for each layer that you peel off another layer is exposed but
that is the journey of transformation that is the journey of of inner work and inner healing
there's always a new level that we can go to so I hope that you found this video helpful and
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