Alright ladies and gentlemen, you know what this video is all about….
Getting back together with your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend.
In fact, this is going to be a must-watch video if you are trying to reverse a breakup,
because I’m going to tell you why you absolutely MUST ignore a few pieces of very common bad
advice.
Why should you listen to me?
Well, my name is Brad Browning, or as some like to call me, “Breakup Brad”... and
I quite literally do this for a living… for over 10 years I’ve been helping people
from around the world get a second chance with an ex.
Currently my YouTube channel has around 170,000 subscribers and nearly 30 million views….
And my best-selling comprehensive program, The Ex Factor, has sold a little over 100,000
copies.
So, clearly I must be doing something right…
hopefully you’ll agree after you watch this video.
Now, like I said, I want to tell you about some very common things that many people are
going to tell you when they learn you’re unhappy about your recent breakup and trying
to win back your ex.
In fact, I’m sure most of you will have already heard a few of these pieces of advice
from friends and family, which is why you really need to pay close attention to what
I’m about to cover in the next couple of minutes.
Before I begin, let me quickly mention that when people tell you most of the things I’m
about to talk about, they’re doing it with the best intentions.
The simple fact is, though, that the strategies and tactics you need to use to get your ex
back are generally very counter-intuitive…
so, what you THINK would be a logical strategy to get your ex to take you back is often actually
going to HURT your chances and do more harm than good.
That’s why it can be very dangerous to listen to advice from anyone who doesn’t know what
they’re talking about… in fact, even a lot of the so-called “breakup experts”
on the internet don’t have any experience or any real clue what they’re talking about.
Some do, but a lot of them are just looking for an easy cash grab, so just be careful
who you listen to.
Anyway, let’s dive into the first piece of advice you should ignore.... and that’s
when someone tells you that you shouldn’t try to get back together with your ex, or
that your ex wasn’t right for you.
Again, this is usually something that friends and family will say because either they want
you to avoid having your heart broken again -- as though that’s always guaranteed to
happen if you get back together, which it definitely isn’t -- or because they’re
not particularly fond of your ex.
And again, these are fairly normal opinions that your closest friends and family have
a right to voice, but they don’t know what goes on in your head, or how your relationship
was behind closed doors when they weren’t around.
Simply put, no-one else can tell you whether you SHOULD or SHOULDN’T be with someone….
It’s YOUR decision, no-one else can make that kind of call for you, because they simply
don’t know how you feel inside or what you really want out of a relationship.
Granted, it’s definitely wise to ask yourself whether your ex is the right person for you
before you start winning him or her back… but if you already know that’s what you
want, you can tune out anyone who tries to talk you out of it.
It’s your life, and no-one else is in a position to tell you how you feel or what
you should want.
For anyone still struggling to figure out if you can or should get your ex back, try
taking my free quiz tool, it will give you some helpful advice and evaluate your odds
of success.
The quiz is at BreakupBrad.com/Quiz…
it takes about 5 minutes, and you’ll get the results within a minute or two of completing
the quiz.
Again, if you want to take the quiz, go to BreakupBrad.com/quiz.
Now… moving on….
The next piece of common advice you’ve probably already been hearing is to “tell your ex
how you really feel about them”.
This is often a line that parents will use, and essentially it’s usually their way of
saying, “all you can do is tell your ex how much you love them and hope for the best”.
Well, no offense to all the people who’ve said that to you since your breakup, but they’re
all telling you to do the EXACT OPPOSITE of what you should be doing if you want to win
back your ex.
Spilling your heart in front of your ex or writing them a sappy love note is almost always
a sure-fire ticket to failure, so please NEVER listen to anyone telling you to do so.
Look, there may come a time when being truthful about your feelings for your ex might be OK….
but for now, you need to avoid doing anything like that, and in fact you need to be doing
the opposite.
You need to make your ex think that you don’t give a crap about the breakup, and that you’re
the kind of amazing catch they’d be crazy to let walk out of their life.
To learn more about how to fundamentally change how your ex thinks about you and your relationship,
which is the first step to making him or her come crawling back to you, watch the full
instructional video on my website, BreakupBrad.com…
I talk all about this psychological technique that’s crucial if you want your ex back.
Watch that full video at BreakupBrad.com.
Another thing people may tell you is that you should only start dating again when you’re
really and truly ready….
You know, the whole “take your time, don’t rush into any new relationships until you’re
ready” argument.
Now, again, I think this piece of advice is almost always given with your best interests
in mind… but it’s also just… wrong.
You should start going on dates and hanging out with members of the opposite sex as soon
as possible!
Even if you don’t want to be with anyone else, and dating is the last thing you feel
like doing right now, it’s always healthy and it’s a very powerful tactic for getting
your ex back.
And even if the jealousy and other benefits that come from openly beginning to date new
people doesn’t make an impact on your ex -- although, it generally does, but on the
rare chance that it DOESN’T -- it’s also going to keep your mind off your breakup,
help you start to move on, and might even lead you into a new, even better relationship.
Regardless of how things pan out, you should ignore anyone who tells you not to rush back
into the dating game… as soon as you can, get yourself out there and start hanging out
with new people and going on dates.
OK, I’ve got one more to share with you here before we wrap this video up… sometimes,
you may hear people tell you to get revenge on your ex.
Now, I don’t want to generalize here, but the people who tell you that type of thing
after a breakup are often the same people that end up in unhealthy relationships full
of drama, jealousy, cheating, and nasty breakups.
OK, sure, maybe your ex did something terrible to you… and maybe you’re still mad about
it.
That’s fair.
But if it whatever they did was so bad that you’re now determined to get back at them
and seek vengeance, then you probably need to think twice about getting back together
in the first place, don’t you think?
And quite frankly, even though I’m not here to preach morality to you or talk you out
of trying to get revenge for whatever your ex did to you, I also know that it almost
never works out in the end.
At best, you’ll get a few days of satisfaction from it, but more likely you’ll just end
up looking petty, burning bridges, and feeling the same as you did before.
So, my advice -- and yes, it is safe to listen to my advice, at least when it comes to the
topic of breakups -- is just to forget about trying to get back at your ex, because it’s
just not worth the effort.
So, YouTube, now it’s your turn to ask me your questions…
Maybe someone you know has given you some advice on how to win back your ex, and you
want a second opinion about whether you should actually do whatever they’ve suggested.
Maybe someone else has told you something that contradicts what I’ve said in this
video, and you want my take on it.
Whatever your question or comment, please leave it in the comments below and if you’re
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Now that this video is just about over, it’s time for you to start taking control of your
situation and begin the process of changing your ex’s mind about your breakup… the
best place to start is at www.BreakupBrad.com, where you can watch my full how-to video and
learn the psychological techniques that will have your ex begging you for a second chance.
Find that video, plus information about my best-selling Ex Factor program, at www.BreakupBrad.com.
And lastly, a sincere THANK YOU for watching and supporting my channel here on YouTube…
I look forward to chatting with you all in the comments below.
Talk to you next time!