Highly principled and even skeptical in love, there’s no doubt that INFJs
set out high expectations for the people they allow into their lives. They’re careful, but
not always as careful as they’d like to be when it comes to romantic connections, and because
of that, some INFJs can’t relate to the feeling of being in a happy, stable relationship.. So,
we’re here to restore that hope! Welcome or welcome back psychos! Today we’re going
to be talking all about the beautiful things that happen when the INFJ finds a stable relationship.
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Number 1: They can quiet that possibility of being alone forever
One of the first things that happens when the INFJ finds someone that they truly get
along with romantically is the quietting of the rehearsed possibility that they may
just be alone forever. Sure, this seems quite obvious for most types, but for the INFJ who
has convinced themselves that they could be single forever at one point or another,
this feeling of not being so alone can be quite liberating for some INFJs.
And for others, it can be.. well.. terrifying..for lack of a better word. But all in all, it’s a
perspective that this introverted type can only reach once they’ve let their guard down enough
to allow someone in. And even if the relationship ends, INFJs absorb this feeling and idea of
partnership for future hope - even making room in their future for someone they’ve yet to meet.
Number 2: They actually accept favors and nice deeds
INFJs are the ultimate deed-doers and favor-givers.
They love to help people, and they love when other people help people.. But the paradox to it all
is that INFJs don’t exactly enjoy being helped themselves. In fact, this individualist type is
so reluctant to accept help that they would prefer to take the harder way out just to know they’re
capable of doing it themselves. This trait can actually become toxic in romantic connections
when it becomes the basis of a one-sided relationship. Luckily, a properly stable
partner wouldn’t let the relationship play out like this; regardless of how many kind gestures
it takes for the INFJ to finally feel like it’s okay for someone to do something nice for them.
When there’s an equal give-and-take, INFJs are able to show their appreciation and gratitude
rather than always resorting to selflessness as their means of affection.
Number 3: They finally feel like they can ‘argue’ properly
Like a calm river, INFJs love when their surroundings are in flow, steady and peaceful.
They’re not keen on stagnancy and they can easily become overwhelmed by choppy water.
This is most particularly when it comes to the relationships they have in life. INFJs never
want to be the pot-stirrer of a situation, and truly tries their best to be the mediator before
any pots get stirred. Unfortunately, when it comes to romantic connections,
a continuous peaceful flow may be too much to ask. In fact, INFJs have been known for their
passiveness when it comes to arguments and disagreements in romantic relationships, but
only because they feel like their viewpoints are being listened to solely for the reason of
being challenged. This may make it seem like INFJs are conflict-avoiding, when in reality,
this stereotypical listener is all about hearing other people’s viewpoints to discuss. And so,
when an INFJ finally feels stable in a connection, they don’t hesitate speaking their mind,
discussing things that they disagree with, and finding ways to meet their partner in the middle.
Number 4: They can do all the ‘couple’ things they’ve imagined
INFJs have a great idea of what a stable relationship is supposed to look like,
because that’s the only kind of relationship they long for in life. And with the knowledge of what a
proper relationship is supposed to look like comes the everyday things INFJs think couples should do
to maintain that connection. This is where their imagination comes into play.
Like most things in life, INFJs have thought-up what it would be like in a stable relationship,
what they would do with their partner, and the life they would want to build with them. The only
missing piece is the partner worthy enough to play out these desires. For some INFJs - despite having
been through multiple unfulfilling relationships - having a sense of security within a relationship
is the only thing that will allow them to truly want to invest themselves in the couple
aspect of things. Buying a home, adopting a pet, setting out for long-distance couple-traveling,
whatever it is, INFJs won’t feel it’s right until they feel truly stable.
Number 5: They experience a new sense of grounding
The only relationships that work when you spend hours on end in your own minds are
those of telepathy and imagination. Yet, when it comes to real-world relationships,
the habit of constant daydreaming and analyzing must come into balance in order for both partners
to be seen and felt. Luckily, this naturally happens to the analytical INFJ once they’re
deep connections begin to flourish. In fact, in the earlier stages of an INFJ romance, after the
nitty-gritty skepticism phase, they can feel a sense of presence and enjoyment in physical life
like they’ve never felt before. Having someone trustworthy to experience this physical realm with
is the perfect excuse for the INFJ to willingly take a step down from their imaginative duties.
Number 6: Their intuition stops yelling at them
Introverted intuition has its perks, including keeping the INFJ away from things that won’t
serve them in the long run. But despite the INFJ’s intuitive efforts, some people with this stubborn
type will go against their inner feelings for the sake of their rose-colored glasses.
Known for giving people the benefit of the doubt, INFJs can get themselves into some
pretty tricky connections that end up triggering a lot of internal conflict within themselves.
Rooted in their dominant introverted intuition, the classic head vs. heart argument takes on
a whole new meaning for the sensitive INFJ. Yet, when they’re met with a match that honors
their needs, this introverted intuition can become the INFJ’s most encouraging cheerleader.
Sure, they may have their times of skepticism and second-guessing,
as we all do. But for the most part, once an INFJ finds that stable connection, their intuition
becomes just a little more quiet and content in comparison to relationships in the past.
Number 7: They don’t feel ashamed of their need for solitude
A beautifully stable relationship may make the INFJ feel more grounded, but it doesn’t
mean they don’t still require their times of deep introspection and solitude. As a matter of fact,
I think many INFJs can agree that it wouldn’t be a stable relationship
in their eyes if their introverted needs weren’t met. Yet, these same introverted needs are the
exact habits that make an INFJ feel like they’re not cut out for the dating life.
With a natural sense of introvertedness and independence it can be difficult for them to
even imagine how their love for alone-time would jive with someone else’s lifestyle.
But, when there's a strong foundation, INFJs can take their time without the
other person being offended, confused or skeptical of the INFJ’s intentions..
Plus, when INFJs are given the freedom to rest and recharge when needed, they’ll be able to
show up as the best version of themselves, and that, my friends, is worth waiting for!
Number 8: They can share their wildest ideas
Curious and mysterious, the inside of an INFJ mind is filled with endless possibilities, imagined
scenarios and information they’ve absorbed through their extraverted feeling and sensing functions.
However, most people barely scratch the surface when picking an INFJs brain because this private
type likes to keep most of their deepest thoughts to themselves. However, when Mr or Mrs. Right
comes along with an open mind and the patience to allow their introspective partner to unravel,
they’ll be met with some genuine out-of-the-box concepts. Although most INFJs will test the waters
with a few contained ideas first, after analyzing their partner’s reaction, slowly they will begin
unleashing the very ideas they thought they would never share. It’s fair to say that not every type
is open to discussing metaphysics and the human psyche, but when a like-minded partner does come
along, it can be a serious game changer when it comes to mutual respect and understanding.
Alright PSYCH-Os, that’s it for today’s video. Let us know in the comments below if you’re in
(or have been in) a stable relationship as an INFJ. Also, make sure to leave us a like, share
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