- Hey everybody, happy Thursday.
And I know, I look very different, oh my god.
I got my makeup done in a pre-trial run for the wedding,
so I feel like I look very weird.
And does anybody else feel this way?
Like when you have makeup on, it's like,
I don't feel like I can touch my face.
And I just feel uncomfortable.
Cause I never wear makeup, so anyway,
that's why I look so done-up, ta-da!
Which makes me wonder how other people do it.
So if you wear a lot of makeup, let me know.
How do you do it?
Cause I feel so odd.
Okay, without further ado, today is Thursday,
and it's Twitter Thursday, and I'm on
Twitter answering your questions.
So if you have a question Next Thursday ...
And I try, if you ask them during the week,
to like compile them.
But sometimes I'm out at my office
or I'm on the road or something.
And I'll forget to write them down.
So it's easiest if on Thursdays,
you use hop on Twitter and use the hashtag KatieFAQ.
That way I can find your questions and get them answered.
So today I have one that asks 'When can you say
that you have hit rock bottom with your eating disorder?'
And, this is a really tricky question
cause it's different for everyone.
Obviously with anything it's kind of ...
It just depends on our lifestyle and
what we expect out of our life.
I usually say to my clients when I ...
Usually when I think my clients have hit rock bottom,
I'll say something to the effect of
"Do you think we should start considering in-patient?"
And to me, that is, that happens when our life
has become so unmanageable that we're,
that I can see you slowly spiraling out of control.
So if you're having trouble doing anything
except for your eating disorder,
or if we're talking mental health ...
If you're having trouble doing anything,
like if all you think about is self-harm,
or if all you can do is sleep because you're so depressed,
because your depression's taken over you.
Or you're so anxious you can't get out of the house.
I think that would be rock bottom.
And I would start looking for assistance.
Cause we all need extra support, right?
It's hard to do on our own, we really can't
So I hope that answers that questions.
And I know you've been waiting two
weeks so thanks for your patience.
So number two, 'How can you figure out if you are ready to
tell your parents about your mental health problems?'
I think it really depends.
A lot of times we're forced into it because we need their
assistance whether it be financial or to drive us there,
or both, or you know, a bunch of different reasons.
So for that, if you're gonna need them to help
then that is usually when we have to start
journaling about it and start preparing ourselves
and start figuring out how we wanna tell them.
But if that's not the case, if we don't
live at home we don't have to tell them.
I think you'd be ready to tell them once
you feel like you're out of the crisis zone.
So if we feel like we're going to therapy and
we're working on things and it's hard but
I don't feel my ups and downs so strict.
Like it's not so chaotic, I guess is the right word,
it doesn't feel so chaotic in our daily life.
Obviously we'll have chaotic moments,
but when you start to feel calmer about it,
and more steady, that's when I would
start looking into doing that, okay?
Number three, 'How can I stop comparing myself to others?
I want to use my desire to be successful in a positive way.'
And this is a great comment, and I know it's really hard,
and I know this particular person, and I'm not
gonna say what his name is even though I
know some of you are fine with it.
But, it honestly takes mental restructuring.
So something that I even do myself.
So I'll just make this a personal experience.
As a human being we compare ourselves to others
and we judge other people and we judge
ourselves based on other people
and there's just a lot of ...
I have a video, an old video, "Equations Calculations"
it's called, check that one out cause I talk
about that a lot, cause that happens all the time.
And the best way to do it is to start noticing.
Because what I do personally, is when I see myself ...
Let's say a lady walks by and I'm like
"Ugh, I can't believe she wore those pants with those shoes"
or some bitchy comment that I come up with
cause I'm in a bad mood or who knows, right?
I compare something, I judge somebody.
I start noticing it so I say to myself,
"You know I'm feeling really negative lately."
I've got to notice when I'm being negative.
And when I say that, when that lady walks by,
I think to myself "No. She got up, she got out of bed.
She put that together, and she's trying hard.
She's working on her own fashion sense.
Just cause it doesn't come in the form that I like,
doesn't mean it's not fashionable."
And I almost negate my negativity, okay.
And then I smile and force myself to say something nice.
Like, Anne, those are cute shoes, I'd wear those shoes.
Or, whatever it be.
So I know that that isn't a 'yes, this is how you do it'
but it's a slow progression the same way way that we
talk ourselves out of our eating disorder voice,
that comparing voice is kind of that ED way
and that perfectionist, like you said.
You want to use that desire to be successful
in a positive way, so we have to start
turning it positive by negating all of the negativity.
Does that make sense?
Let me know, I almost said your name.
Let me know below if that doesn't answer your question.
I'm happy to do it again and give you more detail
if you're needing something more specific okay?
Now number four, 'Is it normal to come out of a session
and think "I shoulda said this, but I was just too afraid
in case they though I was crazy."
Yes, that's very normal.
Don't worry, we all think that whatever's going on
in our mind and in our lives, and things we think
and do and say are totally off the wall crazy
and we don't want people to think that about us.
We all think that, but truth be told,
we all think a lot alike and do a lot of the same things.
So that's why group therapy is so great and
even going to AA or NA or if you're
a family member of an alcoholic there's Alanon.
Going to things like that, if that's your struggle.
I'm just giving this as an example.
Obviously there are tons of other things, or ED anonymous.
If we go to groups like that, it can actually ...
It opens our eyes to that and I think that's
one of the best things you can get out of group.
Is like "Wow, I'm not alone, I'm not crazy."
Because you aren't and that's kind of why
I created this channel and all this stuff.
Oh my gosh, my eyelashes are like sticking.
This is, I'm gonna have to take this off.
Anyway, so I hope that answers your question.
Keep asking questions, keep using the hashtag KatiFAQ.
Leave your comments below, like it if you like it.
Or if you love it!
And, make sure you subscribe to my channel
because I'll be putting out Q and A's
I'm getting married on July 13th.
So, things are getting a little hectic,
and if you're missing me, and you're like
"Kati I haven't talked to you in awhile."
I'm sorry, I'm just like maxed out.
Yesterday I was so exhausted, I felt like I'd been
hit with a tranquilizer dart after I ate dinner.
I was like "And, I'm done,' so bear with me
as I get through this, but we'll get through it
and then I'll be an old married lady.
But then I'll be back and I'll have more time.
So, I'm not forgetting about you.
I just have meetings and makeups to get done.
And things to pay for and just to pick up
and blah blah blah blah blah.
But I love you all, I'm thinking of you all.
I'm saving things to do later,
like videos to watch and I'm still here to support.
And our community's here to bleh,
Our community is here to support.
That is a mouthful.
But anyway, I will see you all tomorrow
for Facebook Friday so ask your questions.
And if you can use the messages, I think you can
put a title in it, maybe not.
But at the very first line if you can't put a title
put KatiFAQ so that when I'm scrolling through all of
my questions and all of those messages,
I can know which ones are for the Q and A, okay?
I love you all, have a great day
and I'll talk to you soon, bye!