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regular basis so you're in the personal development you're into improving
yourself you want to be the best version of yourself that's too vague that's part
of the problem with trying to improve yourself to develop yourself and not
really knowing if it's working because that idea of just improving yourself is
not clear enough not specific enough so what happens when you start to chunk
this down and get very specific about where in your life do you want to
improve so being the best version of yourself okay where in your life do you
want to be a better version or what would the best version of you look like
and sound like now you can go with that there's the swish pattern' which is very
effective and uses that concept of using an image of the ideal you and that could
be very helpful but when you're really getting down to how do I know that I'm
improving how do I measure this you have to get specific about where in your life
you want to improve and the areas of you that you want to improve you you have to
get you have to hone in on that and chunk that down so it might be your
career so what would be being the best version of yourself in your career and
what would improvement look like what would it sound like what would you be
doing differently if I were to watch that movie of you improving in your
career what would I see what would I hear this is where you start to get very
specific and when I say specific I'm talking about connecting with sensory
based experience until you do that it's very very conceptual and if it's really
conceptual and unclear it's really hard to measure and it's really hard to know
if you're actually improving once you can be more specific about the different
areas where you want to improve and I'm not saying at all that you need to only
have one you can have three four or five areas of your life where you want to
improve you just need to get more specific and chunk that down and see it
and hear it like what is the sensory based experience not just a conceptual I
want to be better or what does better actually look like so once you have this
specific stone and you know where in your life you want to improve you know
what that looks like you know what that sounds like you need to reach down deep
into your unconscious and find out what's motivating this what is your why
that's a common way of phrasing it what is your big why to me it's values its
what are your values and for most of us for most of us this is deeply
unconscious what's really motivating us a lot of times is very very unconscious
so you want to go in there and ask yourself with each one of these what's
important to me about improving in this area or doing this or doing that what's
important to me about this and what is it what is this going to do for me and
you just keep asking these questions and you go deeper and deeper and deeper and
then you go to the you would lead you to these really high level values like
happiness peace joy passion creativity and when you start doing that and you
start connecting these high level values of yours to the area of your life to the
activity to what you see in your mind to what you hear in your mind this just
loads this with so much meaning for you and it will also get you motivated
you'll want to move in this direction because it's exciting the idea of
fulfilling your values living your values this is what pure motivation is
about and once you have a visual and the auditory and the kinesthetic attached to
all this meaning look out this is when things start to get really interesting
your life starts to improve rapidly the next thing you need to do is have a way
to measure your progress if you're not clear about that if you say well I don't
know how to measure my progress and what it is that I want or where I want to
improve then you're not very clear about what you want to improve go back to step
one which is getting clear and getting specific about what it is that you want
it should be very clear at this at this stage stage three which is being able to
measure your results so let's say you want to be the best version of yourself
and the best version of yourself is someone who is physically healthy well
if you just say something like well I want to eat better I want to eat
healthier again that's way too vague what does that actually mean what are
you actually going to eat how many meals a day are you going to eat or are you
going to track calories what kind of foods will you be eating that maybe you
weren't you're not eating now so getting very specific about that it
down to like what how much what do you want to lose what do you want your blood
pressure to be out what do you want your cholesterol to be had these are the type
of specifics that I'm talking about when you're this specific it's easy to
measure you go get your cholesterol your your your blood sugar your blood
pressure test and see where you're at right now
talk to your doctor where where it would be what would be a healthy levels and
all three of these for you between where you are now and where you want to be
that's how you measure the progress very very simple if it's weight you weigh
yourself on the scale today you know how much weight you want to lose and then
you know if I'm weighing yourself daily or almost daily how to measure your
progress so again with the measuring your progress and this is essential you
need to have a way to measure your progress otherwise you don't know if
you're improving like I said being very specific will make measuring your
progress very very easy and again if you if you're not sure how to measure the
progress you're not clear enough go back to step one last but not least is when
do you want this so you want to set sort of a deadline sort of a timeframe you
got to be careful with this one because you can if you if you try to squeeze
something in that is really not going to happen like
it'sit's you would all have to overwhelm yourself push yourself too hard or
you're not really aware of what it takes to get the kind of kind of improvement
that you want this can take longer and then when you initially set out to and
it can feel discouraging if you don't do it in the time that you set so you want
to set a realistic timeframe and you also want to have give yourself some
room to breathe on this one if you're if you're trying to improve in a way that
you've never improved before you're doing something completely new you're
gonna have to give yourself some room to breathe on this because it could take
longer and you don't want to discourage yourself so be realistic about this one
but you want to have some sort of timeframe some sort of deadline because
otherwise there's no urgency and you're not likely to do it
so set a timeframe of when you want this and the other piece that most people
miss on this one is think of an exit plan and you might be taking an exit
plan why would I want to exit improving myself and the reason for this is how
long do you want to keep this up in this area so there's all these
different ways in which you can improve yourself and all these areas in your
life where that you want to improve if you only stick to one two or three
you're kind of neglecting other parts of your life you're neglecting other parts
of you so you want to get you want to have an idea of how much you want to
improve in a certain area and then know exactly where that is so maybe it's lose
the twenty pounds well if you lose twenty pounds and that puts you right at
the weight you want to be and what your doctor says is healthy you don't want to
keep losing weight you need to stop you need to exit that plan exit that
strategy and move into a maintenance plan then the plan then becomes how do I
maintain my weight not how do I lose more weight so what happens for a lot of
people is they lose they lose the weight they don't have an exit plan they don't
have a strategy now they know they don't want to lose any more weight so they
they just kind of let go of a plan they end up gaining all the way back because
they don't have a plan they don't have a strategy they just know that they need
to stop losing weight so that's a good example of exiting
okay I need to stop losing weight maintenance how do I maintain this
weight how much do I need to eat what do I need to eat how much do I need to
exercise to just maintain this so the same goes for every other every area of
your life where you want to improve know how good you want to get or how much you
want to improve that area and then say okay at this point I exit and I go into
a maintenance plan at this point I exit and then I go to this other area of my
life that I need to improve and then go work on that so have it so know when you
want the improvement you would know when you want to be how good it is you want
to be or how much you want how much improved you want to be and then exit
and switch to maintenance plan or go to another area of your life have something
that there is a have an end point at some point and then know what you want
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