I do what I think is right in the time.
And when I was studying this story over
the last few days,
every time I looked at that house,
when I looked at that house,
I thought that's how she looks on the inside.
I thought that,
you can't do that
if that isn't how you look and feel on the inside.
Nobody would consciously choose this.
No. Nobody,
nobody would consciously choose to live that way.
Nobody would say,
this is how I want to live.
This is how I want my child to live.
I mean nobody would do that on purpose right?
So that means something is going on.
There's some intervening variable that's going on here.
And, and by the way,
I don't think it's isolated.
I think I know what's going on.
And I, I think it's you.
And I think it's you.
And I think people live something long enough
that it becomes kind of their new normal.
You've been this disheveled for a long time.
When did it start?
I would say it,
probably started initially
when I was eight years old
and I was molested by a group of boys
and an adult man that I should have been able
to trust.
I've said I really believe you generate
the results in life you believe you deserve.
And this may be the best example of it.
The most graphic example of it I've ever seen.
At eight years old a gang of boys get her down
and she didn't want to say it
because she was saying,
I know this is a family show but they were brutalizing her.
And then this serial killer he,
he targeted her
and got her friend by mistake.
And she knew that after the fact
that he was meant to kill her.
And now she lives,
that's supposed to be me?
And that's,
so now she's got survivor's guilt.
And then she gets in all these abusive relationships.
And then she gets in a helping profession
and she tears her shoulder up trying
to lift a patient.
And it wasn't like a phony worker's comp.
She had three surgeries from that.
I mean, it's just it never ended.
That's what I said.
Other than that,
everything went pretty well right?
And she said oh yeah it was spectacular.
And so she's,
I just think it was a perfect example
of how she feels inside.
And I've often said anger is
an outward manifestation of hurt,
fear, or frustration.
Look behind the outward emotion
and ask yourself what's behind it?
And that's what you have to do here.
Look behind the outward manifestation
of her life and ask yourself not what,
but why?
Not what is it this house look like,
but why would anybody choose to live that way?
Because that's what they think they deserve.
Because if this happens to you
and you think well,
okay, so what am I now?
They've done this to me and so I'm now dirty.
I'm now bad.
I'm just trash.
And so I look at your manifestation
and you live in trash.
I said, what did you say to yourself?
I was just trash.
So she lives in trash.
She lives like trash.
And until she changes that
there's no help.
That's why I think she's got a,
she's gotta heal those wounds in herself.
And her parents,
they, they're in shock.
They, we've got to help them.
And so it's a,
it's really a family situation.
So, you know, to,
to deal with all of that
in an hour long broadcast is a lot.
But I think we covered a lot of ground.
And I think I saw light bulbs coming
on over their heads.
And so that's when I go home thinking okay,
that was a good day. (audience applauding)
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