hey what's going on my beautiful people this is your certified life and relationship coach coach
court and in today's video I'm going to be talking to you about your exes rebound relationship and
whether or not they'll come back to you but before I get into that if you haven't subscribed to the
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you'll be notified for the newest content so today I want to talk to you about your exes rebound and
relationship and if they're gonna come back to you or not this discussion was thought up kind of
kind of overnight because I started getting more comments about people and they're more mainly men
and their ex girlfriends being in rebound rebound relationships and they're wondering whether or
not this thing is real I had one guy that said somebody reached out to them or his ex reached
out to him while still in the rebound relationship saying that she missed him and I've been able to
break this down for my clients and kind of just decipher whether or not it's gonna work out with
the rebound and I buy a few different things first off is their personality type people who
have cluster B personalities or people that are basically you know not wired like and a
normal functioning brain you know those are your narcissist and your sociopaths but those are the
people you can exclude from today's discussion because their behavior is so sporadic and
unpredictable that this probably won't apply to them but for the rest of the people I can actually
help you guys out and you know you can figure out if they're going to come back or not by a
few different things past experiences attachment style and the length of your relationship there
that they all play a huge factor in whether or not they're going to come back or not I know a
lot of coaches right away they tell you to go no contact and that works but I feel people do it
the wrong way they do it more it's kind of like a manipulation tactic instead of a a way to improve
themselves and actually improve their value because when you do go no contact if you actually
follow that advice it's a it's good advice because the quickest way to get somebody's attention is to
remove yours but the way you have to go about doing it is you need to focus on yourself focus
on improving yourself and your value getting into your purpose and actually showing your ex
that you'd be better off without them or you want to give them that impression that you're gonna be
better off without them clearly you still have feelings for them if you're watching this video
but at the end of the day when you die it's gonna be one name on a tombstone it's gonna be yours and
your legacy is what you're gonna be leaving behind so when you are so fixated on one relationship and
you get yourself off-centered in life then it's gonna be to your detriment so work on yourself no
contact you're gonna need to improve yourself and and I've never tell people to close the door on
that person because I did this I made the mistake of like cutting off communication and removing
from Facebook burning bridges but if you really want that person back you have to move along as if
you're unaffected and if your high value because in your mind you should be thinking that your high
value in the first place that whoever will come into your life will be lucky to have you that's
the way that's the mindset that's that you have to think from the abundance mindset and not the
scarcity mindset attachment styles that's another way you can tell if they're gonna come back or not
the dismissive they will if they're in a rebound relationship they'll first off that kudos to them
because they have a hard time forming meaningful bonds with people in the first place because of
the way they were their past experiences in the way that their attachment style was so
they're in a rebound relationship you know kudos to them but they will start to feel your breakup
if you've been in a substantial relationship that was a substantial amount of time they're
gonna start feeling your breakup regardless and it's gonna be later on down the line it
won't be right away like the anxious attacher to the anxious attacher they'll feel it right away
and then they're able to let go later on down the line but it's actually the reverse for dismissive
because they like to as a defense mechanism as a coping mechanism they they really bury those
feelings and they'll probably distract themselves with the rebound guy but they will start to think
about you and start missing you later on down the line the anxious attacher what I learned
about their attachment style is they'll be the ones that kind of flaunt the rebound relationship
they'll put it out in your face they'll post lots of selfies and pictures and stuff with
the rebound guy on Facebook and Instagram they'll try to give off the illusion as if they're really
happy but that's actually kind of a form of manipulation that's what anxious attachers do
and it in the back of their mind they're thinking I'm not really posting this because I'm genuinely
happy I'm posting this because you know I kind of want to make give a little zine to my ex and
a lot of lots of time it works because when a lot of my clients reach out to me it's because
they are struggling with the breakup and they're starting to see their ex in rebound relationships
or their they've been cut off completely from their ex and they're just really in a panic and
spiraling out of control trying to figure out what to do next but in conclusion whether or
not your ex will come back it's completely up in the air I say flip a coin on it because you
don't know how humans are gonna behave they're way too unpredictable God gave us free will so
anytime I feel like I have somebody figured out they'll sometimes give me a curveball but the
best way to get them back is to continue to work on yourself stand your purpose find the purpose
because that's what's gonna make you get out of the depression and out of that funk that I know
you guys are in if you're watching this video and you haven't subscribed please subscribe I'm gonna
continue to release content like this and like and let's continue to discussion down in the comment
section the person with the secure attachment style now they're gonna be the ones who can
remain friends with you afterwards they're gonna be the ones who set clear boundaries like look
this is the way I'm feeling this is where I'm at right now mentally I don't know if we're gonna get
back together because I don't have a crystal ball but they're gonna be the ones that are able to go
through the breakup and not not get into a rebound relationship because they understand the value of
healing themselves and allowing themselves to give and finding himself again allowing himself
time to recenter their lives and get back into the things that they were doing before they were
in a relationship because what we tend to do is we lose ourselves in relationships we become like
our partner we start speaking like them we start eating the same things they eat maybe poorly and
we start even like having our schedule revolve around their schedule it's it's something that
we do subconsciously it's not it's not like we do it on purpose but especially the anxious attachers
they're the ones that really engulf their partner and become like their clone pretty much because
they don't want their partner to leave them because of differences so if you found this video
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