Over the years, I've coached countless women in the amazing art of solo sex fingering yourself,
aka masturbation. And yes, I do have an amazing job! A lot of women come to me with a variety of
problems in the bedroom. And changing the way they finger themselves is in many cases a very
important part of the solution. So if you're a woman in need of some solid self-pleasuring
advice, keep watching! My name is Helena Nista and I make videos that help you have the best sex of
your life. And today's video is for women, for all the amazing open-minded ladies who want more in
their self-pleasure sessions: more pleasure, more satisfaction and a lot more orgasms!
So make sure to stay with me till the end of this video for a complete guide to fingering yourself.
Whenever I speak to a woman who is dissatisfied or frustrated with her sex life with her partner,
one of the first questions I ask her is about her masturbation practice. Does she masturbate,
how often, how does she do it, etc. This then tells me a lot about her relationship with sex,
with pleasure and with her own body. And depending on her personal circumstances,
we'll do different types of work and therapy in our sessions together. Plus,
in many cases I'd send her home with a homework to change the way she masturbates. Because you see,
your self-pleasure time gives you an amazing opportunity to awaken, cultivate and expand your
body's pleasure and orgasmic potential. You can masturbate in a way that is infrequent or quick
or always following the same routine. In which case you'll be setting your body up for quick,
uninspiring and unsatisfying sexual experiences with a partner. And by the way, that's how most
people masturbate. But you can also touch yourself in a way that includes teasing, that expands your
pleasure from head to toe and that leaves you deeply nurtured, blissed out and happy.
And that kind of masturbation sessions will be helping you train and condition your body
for much, much better bedroom experiences with your lover. So let me share with you
the step-by-step solo sex process that I prescribe to many of my female clients.
A lot of women complain that they don't feel a lot of pleasure when they touch themselves.
They rub and stroke their skin but this produces fairly neutral or un-arousing sensations. And this
is because you're not feeling your body as deeply as you could. So in order to wake up your nervous
system and all of its yummy, delightful nerve endings, you're going to start your masturbation
session with some full body movement. Put on some energetic music and start dancing, jumping,
shaking, stretching, etc. The more intense the movement, the better this will work. The idea is
to give your nervous system a sort of internal massage, that will leave your body tingling and
electric with energy. It's a little bit like the way you feel after an intense workout: vibrant,
alive and awake. After at least three minutes of energetic movement (or more if you like),
sit down, close your eyes and deepen your breath. This is the time to pay attention to your body and
to really notice all of those vibrations, all of that energy and aliveness in your body. Spend at
least another three minutes here, just breathing, relaxing and feeling. By doing this, you're
basically teaching your body to feel more deeply and intensely, you're training your nervous system
in the art of sending stronger signals between your nerve endings and the pleasure centers in the
brain, which is very important for your ability to experience deep ecstatic sexual pleasure. Next,
make yourself comfortable sitting down, lying down, whichever position feels best to you.
And begin a full body self massage. Include every part of your body: your feet, toes, calves, arms,
neck, face, scalp... but avoid your main erogenous zones for now: your breasts and your genitals.
And lovingly caress, stroke and massage your skin. At this stage you're not looking for
arousal, only for pleasure. However, if arousal happens - wonderful, enjoy!
Spend another few minutes here, delighting in all the yummy sensations that your body can feel.
Now it's time to include your breasts. In the Tantric tradition woman's breasts are said to
be a gateway to help full erotic and orgasmic power. Yet many women neglect their breasts and
nipples during their solo sex experiences. Start with slow gentle circles around your breasts,
going in one direction and then in the other one. Use feather-light touch on them,
hold and vibrate them with both hands. Use your fingertips and nails to stroke and caress them
in different directions. And don't forget your nipples! Massage them, roll them between your
fingers or even gently squeeze them and see how that feels. I teach an entire beautiful tantric
breast massage ritual in my online course for women Orgasmic Empowerment. And by the way, this
course goes into much more depth when it comes to growing, expanding and cultivating a woman's
erotic power, both through self-touch and in her partnered experiences. Now you're ready to touch
your genitals. Take your time, tease yourself, touch yourself slowly, gently at first. Keep
breathing deeply and slowly, drawing all of that pleasure energy out through your entire system.
Use your three fingers to separate your labia and stroke them up and down. Cap the entire genital
area and vibrate and massage it lovingly. Explore the vaginal opening with different types of touch:
light, firm, fast, slow, gentle, deep, etc. And most definitely don't forget the clit!
And again, I teach an entire ecstatic genital self massage in my online course
Orgasmic Empowerment. So if you're ready to take yourself to an orgasmic heaven,
make sure to register for my course as soon as possible. I've linked the entire program in the
description below. And finally, integration. After all the stimulation, movement, intensity, buildup
and wealth of sensations, it's time to allow all of that delicious charge in your body to settle.
Simply lie down on your back, close your eyes, relax your body fully and breathe. Just breathe...
This is the time when your body can do its work, this is when your nervous system is rewiring
itself to program in this deeper level of feeling, this more intense level of pleasure and arousal.
This is what the yogis called Savasana. The quiet time of absorbing and recalibrating your energy.
Give yourself at least a full minute here before you move on to any other activities. I really hope
that you're going to give this process a try! It's a very important and powerful experience that will
help you grow and expand your sexual potential. And if you're ready to really go all the way to
claiming the depth of your orgasmic power, then you should definitely check out my online course
Orgasmic Empowerment. It's a 7-week journey for any woman who wants to learn to orgasm easily,
who wants to activate fully her eroticism and become multi-orgasmic. And for the next
seven days, as a part of my Christmas special, the entire course is available at half price.
So make sure to grab the link and the discount code from the description below to step on your
own orgasmic path. If you like my content, please make sure to leave me a 'Like' and a comment
below. I make weekly videos full of simple tools, techniques and practices for a much better sex
life. Thank you so much for watching! Make sure to have an orgasm today and I will see you next time!