You know, people can project things onto you
that have nothing to do with you and the path that you want to take.
So I just don't want, you know, the fear that other people have to stop you
from living the life that you want to live.
Hey, guys. Welcome back to my channel.
If you're new here, I'm Tiff, I'm an American living in Paris.
Here to help you live your life on your own terms.
And today I wanted to do a little quick,
get ready with me while also talking about a quote that I recently came across.
This is actually the final look.
I just finished getting ready, but decided to record the intro at the end.
So just doing a little quick get ready with me.
Just doing my makeup for the day.
I am by no means a makeup guru or anything like that.
So this is not meant to be a makeup tutorial,
but throughout the video, I will be sharing
some of the different products that I use.
And as I unpack this quote, you know,
when you want to live differently, it makes people uncomfortable.
All right, guys, we're going to see how this goes.
I haven't really done a get ready with me yet, and I'm also really bad
at multi-tasking, so we're going to see how this goes.
But I really wanted to make this video because I recently saw a quote that said,
when you decide to live differently, it makes people uncomfortable.
And I really wanted to unpack this with you guys and also
get your perspective on it.
So I'm just first setting my face with the Sacha Buttercup setting powder.
And also I had to do my
eyebrows in advance because there was just no way I'd be able to do that on camera.
But but anyways, yeah, so I saw that quote
and it really hit home for me, honestly and truly.
So this video is for, you know, anyone who is maybe thinking about, you know,
switching up their life a bit, maybe moving to a new country,
maybe quitting their job,
just doing something that's a bit outside the norm and is getting a lot of pressure
from other people, you know, telling them not to do it or telling them that it's,
you know, not the right decision or, you know, just other people projecting
their fear based thoughts onto you for you wanting to live a bit differently.
This is literally something that I personally have faced
in taking any major risk in my life, whether it was moving to Paris,
moving to New York, deciding deciding to leave my first job out of college.
It's like I've always faced
this type of feedback, and I really do think it ties back into this quote.
Now I'm about to use Estee Lauder Double Wear, Stay in pPace, Concealer.
Yeah guys in every major move that I've made, every risk
that I've wanted to take.
I've gotten that type of backlash.
Don't do it. It's not right for you. You should do something safe.
For the first point that I want to make around this is
I do think that sometimes when you want to take a risk
or live differently, it makes people uncomfortable
because they're coming from their own personal experience of
maybe it not working out or seeing other people
do what you're about to do and it not working out for them.
And I do think that that sometimes one makes them uncomfortable
and also makes them fearful of what you're about to do.
And I think it's hard because, I mean,
I think that everyone has their own path, right?
I think that just because something didn't work out for one person doesn't mean
that it's not going to work out for you.
And oh my god, there are so many quotes
about this how a lot of people just fear the unknown, right?
And I think that this is especially true when it comes to, you know, your loved
ones, your family who just really want you to succeed.
I think it does make them a bit uncomfortable when you are kind of
stepping into the unknown because again, they haven't experienced it themselves.
You know, they've seen people fail, or maybe them themselves have failed.
I do just feel like it makes people uncomfortable in that way,
and then they kind of project that onto you. Right.
So, you know, say you had this dream of moving abroad,
but you know, your mom ten years ago also wanted to do it, trying to do it.
It didn't work out.
Of course, she's going to be like, Oh, I don't know if this is for you,
and it's going to make her uncomfortable
of that decision that you're about to make. So.
So I just don't want, you know, the fear that other people have about what
you're about to do to stop you from living the life that you want to live.
Because again, just because it didn't work out for them
doesn't mean it won't work out for you.
And now I'm just using Fenty Shade Espresso for my contour.
So, yeah, I'll give you an example of this,
so when I was working in San Francisco and I was two years into my job,
I was not feeling it for several reasons
and I'll probably do an entire like career video for you guys.
But I had told a mentor like, Hey,
I really think that I want to move to New York City to work in PR.
And she looked at me and was like, Tiff it's every girl's dream
to move to New York City and work in fashion PR.
It's not going to work out for you.
And I was just like, Wait a second, what?
And I could have totally let her fears,
you know, just stop me from actually moving to New York City.
And I'm so glad that I didn't let it stop me.
Because for me, you know, living in New York City
was a really important part of my life.
I think it was the stepping stone for me to eventually move
to Paris, but later found out that.
And for my foundation, I'm just using Estee Lauder double wear stay in place.
The shade is deep spice, but I later found out
that she had always had a dream of living in New York City.
Like, when she was growing up, you know, she had like the New York skyline
in her bedroom and wasn't really able to make it happen for herself.
So because she wasn't able
to make it happen to herself, she then was kind of projecting that onto me.
And guys, as I'm sharing these examples,
this is not to throw shade or call anyone out.
It's really just to show you how you know, people can project things onto you
that have nothing to do with you and the path that you want to take.
So I want to be really clear on that.
So, yeah, so you know, I'm so glad that I didn't let that hold me back
from moving to New York, because if I had,
I wouldn't have that experience of working in PR in New York City,
which has helped me so much in my career and in me doing my own thing.
Now, ooff guys, I really don't know how people
do this. It's kind of hard to do makeup and talk at the same time.
But I'm trying. I'm trying.
OK, foundation done.
Then I usually put a bit more concealer
on after I put my foundation on.
And then I blend everything together
with my again, Estee Lauder double wear, stay in place powder.
So then the next point I want to make around this is
I also think that when you want to live differently, it makes people uncomfortable
because sometimes they feel uncomfortable that they didn't decide to do something
like what you're about to do.
That's definitely something that I've found, too.
And then again, they kind of project that onto you, you know?
So for example, again, say you want to quit your job
and you're talking to a coworker who might deep down
also want to quit their job but don't really have the guts to actually do it.
You know, sometimes they project that onto you.
So again, sometimes it has nothing to do with you
and what you're about to do,
but the insecurities that other people have, if that makes sense.
I'm just putting just a little eyeshadow on.
I'm using Too Faced's semi-sweet chocolate bar.
The shade is rum raisin.
So, yeah, I feel like that's another reason why, you know,
people get a little uncomfortable and kind of project onto you
what they're feeling.
So again, don't let that stop you. Do not let that stop you.
And then I think another thing that I want to bring up
is the fact that I think a lot of people to get uncomfortable
because they don't personally have faith in what you're about to do.
And I think that, you know, when it comes to that,
it's like you have to trust yourself more
than what other people are saying and have faith in yourself.
What color do I want to use? I think
maybe I think we're just going to mix a few colors.
That's what we're going to do. I'm always mixing colors.
So I usually use Too Faced Melted Mattes.
So this color is evil twin.
Then I think I'm also going to blend it with Drop-Dead Red, which I love.
And then maybe also put this one on here, too.
So and I'll give you an example. So I was at Howard.
This was my, I think, my junior senior year.
I just remember I had recently turned down a job opportunity
with like one of the big four accounting firms
and was interviewing for this job in fashion in San Francisco.
And I literally remember talking to a professor
about how excited I was and how the interview went really well.
And he literally said to me, like,
you are not going to get that job in fashion in San Francisco.
You need to look for a more
practical route to merchandising, like working at Home Depot or something.
And I was just kind of like, well, OK.
And again, I could have let him not having faith in me
stop me from continuing the process.
Or I could have spiraled into thinking that I couldn't do it.
Just because, you know, this professor didn't have faith in me.
But guess what, guys?
I got that job, and after I graduated, I moved to San Francisco to work in fashion.
And part of me also thinks that, you know, just people constantly telling me no
or people constantly telling me that I couldn't do things or I shouldn't
do things almost made me work harder for those things.
And let me know if
you guys resonate with that or if that's something you can relate to.
Because yeah, when I look at it through every single step of my journey,
every race that I wanted to take, people were like, You shouldn't do this.
That's not right for you.
You know, you need to have other more practical options
like people have been telling me this throughout my entire life. And again,
I think it comes down to, you know, their projections or their fears.
You know, they're not having faith. Oof. And
I don't think I can do this lip and talk at the same time.
So let me just do this real quick.
Yeah, so I say all of this to say, you know, don't let the fears of others
stop you from doing what you believe in your heart, you really should be doing,
you know, don't let it stop you
from feeling super excited about a major change in your life
or stepping into a new chapter or just genuinely doing something
that you want to do.
It just breaks my heart when I hear people say like, Oh,
I really want to do this, but you know,
I have a ton of people telling me not to do it.
I mean, I do think that you know weigh your pros and cons.
But at the end of the day, if it feels right for you
and you're doing it for reasons that you know will help you in the end,
the direction that you want to go in, then I say , go for it.
I say, go for it.
So, yeah, I just wanted to share that
just because I do see how that's been a theme in my life.
And you can let me know if you feel like that's been a theme in yours.
So, yeah, that's about it.
Just wanted to do a little quick, get ready with me
and share what was on my heart today. So that's a wrap.
Please let me know if this resonated with you at all.
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