Nothing feels more devastating than looking at how cool is the other peoples life while
you cant even have a drop of that because you are simply shy.
Talking to strangers or in general to everyone around isn’t yours, maybe you are just genetically
not designed in such away.
We admire such people everywhere, in the streets, in bars or in instagram.
Time to time we dream about being that guy who feels comfortable doing anything that
comes into his mind, but then we realize that reality isn’t like that, it either happens
in movies or with people who are simply born with such talents.
But the truth is that, shyness has nothing to do with your genetics or talent, the only
difference between the extrovert and the introvert is their perspective of the world.
And if you just shift your perspective, you are going to instantly overcome shyness and
if you watch this video till the end, you will certainly learn how to do that!
But lets first understand why are we shy in the first place!
We are shy mainly for two particular reasons, first of all, we care too much about what
people think about us.
Of course peoples opinion matters because how they treat us is based on what they think
about us, so its important to project the right image of yourself, but in general people
usually don’t give a damn about the little things you do, because they are busy with
their life!
And Secondly, we are terrified about the consequences of our actions!
We start imagining all sort of negative outcomes if we want to do something we have never done
before and as a result of that we simply get afraid to take any action.
In fact, that happens to all of us, even the most confident person you have ever seen because
our brains always exaggerate when things seem uncertain, when you are not sure whats going
to happen next!
So in order to feel confident and overcome your shyness, you have to face the situation
from a different angle.
You don't usually feel shy when you talk to your friends for example, because you already
know these people and you certainly now how they are going to react, so there is nothing
uncertain.
On the other hand, when its a stranger, especially if its the opposite gender, you hesitate because
you are unsure of their reaction!
But what if you knew how they are going to react, what if you knew for sure that she
will react like your friends, would you feel shy approaching that person!
I don’t think so!
Remember, even your friends, at some point you didn’t know each other, and suddenly
you were this new kid in the class….you realised that you forgot to bring a pen, you
turn around ask her, do you have an extra pen, and you become friends, The process is
always the same, yes sometimes there isn’t a reason to get to start the conversation,
but you can always create one, it should not be super impressive and complicated, it could
be as simple as asking for direction, Even if you know the place around.
Whenever you start getting nervous, just freeze for a moment and make it clear to your brain
that this no different than hanging out with your friends, that change in perspective will
certainly calm you down.
Of course its easier to be said than to be done, but with some practice you will get
over it.
When you get into a restaurant, have a little chat with the waiter, part of his job is to
be nice, so don't worry about his reaction, just ask him about his favourite meal, or
what he would recommend.
When you get into the grocery, just comment on something when you with the cashier, that
will spark the conversation, people in general love talking, especially when its about themselves.
But if you are really a super shy person, start with something much easier like talking
more amongst your friends or going out more than you do now!
In short, keep in mind that, nothing horrible will happen if you talk to a stranger or say
something stupid, the next moment everyone will forget it as if nothing has happened,
with that perspective, you will certainly overcome your shyness!
and now its your turn, what do you think?
How do you overcome shyness?
Lets me know in the comments below!
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