Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com. There are a few
things that women wish men knew in the bedroom. However, they are not very vocal
about it and some women aren't even able to be able to know exactly what's
going on. However, I have my very secret weapon Caitlin V Neil sex and
relationship expert here to teach you the 5 most important things that
women wish men knew so you can be awesome with your next girl. Caitlin take
it away. Hii I'm Caitlin V Neil sex and relationship coach and my friend Tripp
has invited me here today to talk about a subject that is very near and dear to
my heart and this is 5 things that women wish men would do in bed. Why is it
important that we go over this? Well women myself included are not always
great at telling you what we wish that you would do or learn or get better at
in bed. Sometimes that's because it's not the right time in the heat of the
moment. Sometimes we don't want to say hey a little bit less, a little bit more,
look at me. Sometimes we just don't hurt your feelings and sometimes we just
plain don't have the words. For a lot of women it's really challenging
to describe exactly what it is that they're looking for. So today I'm gonna
teach you 5 of the main things. Alright, without further ado number one
thing that almost all women wish that men would do in bed is make eye contact.
That's right. I'm not talking about so much eye contact that you're like
staring me in the eye. But enough especially at those crucial moments like
during foreplay, checking in every so often, when you first penetrate or enter
to like let me know that you're there with me, switching positions. You can
learn so much about a person through their eyes and what they're expressing
with their eyes. And if you're burying your head in her chest then it could
just be any guy. It doesn't really matter who it is. I could be any
woman. You're not looking at me. How do I know. You're not even looking at my face.
How do I know that you're there with me and I get it sometimes it's like
I have to look away to distract myself or looking in her eyes is really intense
I totally get it sex is intense eye contact matters
number two so down it takes the average woman 20
minutes to reach orgasm it takes the average man between five and seven that
means in order to make up for the disparity in time there you've got to
slow it down that means more foreplay that starts
with light touches maybe incorporates through a whole body
also when you start having penetrative sex going slower from the very beginning
allowing your body time to warm up and really get used to having a foreign
object inside of it guaranteed that moving slowly throughout the entire
process will get more orgasms more joy more pleasure as the end result number
three thing that women wish men did more invent is use your hands there's so much
that you can do using your fingers not just on the inside of her vulva but on
her entire body right using your hands to caress and lightly touch and get her
aroused and touch her face and pull her hair you know using your hand your hands
are your greatest tool they really are not to mention that the g-spot which is
a really sensitive really delightful space on the anterior or inside tummy
side wall of woman's vagina it's super sensitive it feels really great to be
stimulated and it's way easier to stimulate it with your fingers making a
come here motion then it is to stimulate it through a penetrative sex also during
oral sex using your hands which I know you're thinking it's cramping like neck
hurts I know but trust me the sum of those two parts your mouth and your
hands multiplies to equal way more than either one of them alone so use your
hands use them all over use them everywhere and learn what she likes when
it comes to using your fingers so that you can use those as an additional tool
in foreplay to last extra time to get her warmed up or to get her to a g-spot
aka squirting orgasm number four let us know that you are enjoying yourself this
may seem really obvious but a lot of men especially men that I've been with don't
make a lot of noise or ammo or let me know that what I'm doing is working so
if you're silent and you're so focused on her plight
her moaning her feedback then you're not letting her know that you're also having
a good time and just the same way that it matters to you that she's having a
good time it matters to her that you're having a
good time this is a give or take right we're there to please each other so let
her know that it feels good and she will be more into the experience she'll like
when you give her feedback than she knows what's working for you and she can
do more of it I'm not saying that you need to put on a full pornstar style
moaning and heaving right I don't you don't need to do anything that is beyond
your comfort zone but doing something little moans biting your lip making eye
contact right and just like letting her know that that feels good right there
will do wonders for your sex life it also takes a lot of pressure off of her
to always perform right to be the one who's the center of attention to be the
one who's being pleased right let her know that your pleasure matters too that
you're touching her for your pleasure and she'll be able to enjoy her
experience that much more and now number five the fifth thing that women wish men
would do in bed is ask questions check in and communicate a lot of men think
that they are somehow supposed to know everything there is about sex before
they ever start right they watch porn they talk to older brothers or cousins
or even dads and they get this idea that they should know everything and there's
nowhere to go for help well that is nonsense you should ask questions ask
her questions do you like this pressure do you like when I touch you there do
you want me to do this did you want me to do that again it doesn't seem that
you are liking this what can I do differently work with her as I said at
the beginning of this video a lot of women have trouble coming up with the
words to describe what it is that they want and need in bed be patient be
communicative tell her what works for you ask her what works for her don't be
afraid to ask questions asking questions doesn't mean that you're a failure it
doesn't mean that you don't know how to please her it means that you're so
invested in please singer that you're willing to
communicate about it and do the hard work to figure out how to do it right
and that my friends is the mark of a great lover and don't forget that
there's plenty of help out there you don't have to know everything no one
does in fact that's why Tripp and I made a blog post the link is posted in the
description that is our epic guide to sex I went through and compiled all of
the major mistakes that men make in bed and put them into one post so that you
can study up get exposed to different and new ideas and then take that
information to your woman to your wife to your girlfriend and work with her to
figure out exactly what works for both of you so that you can have the most
spectacular sex life of all time again I am Caitlin V Neil sex and relationship
coach visit me at my website below I work one-on-one with men just like you
to help you become amazing lovers and don't forget to click like and subscribe
peace