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I had been single for about two years.
And how long had you been single?
I wasn't single very long.
I was single probably about three or four months.
And how long was your previous relationship?
20 years.
So you came out of a 20 year relationship,
and three months later you met this guy.
Yep.
It took a little bit of convincing.
Well, I just didn't want to--
I kind of knew his past a little bit.
What's she talking about?
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Around my town I was known to have--
date some women.
You're a ladies man?
Be single--
Yeah.
I was single for a long time.
What's your relationship history?
Engaged one time. Yes.
OK.
Why did I hear you were engaged more times than that?
Darrell!
Well, the first one I can't count.
It was a forced engagement, and I wasn't prepared.
Who forced you?
My mom.
A lot of the time I seek my mom's approval.
For that engagement, and the one that came next--
Wow.
It was more of her directing--
this is what I want you to do-- and me following.
We had some things in the past with his son's
mother that's broken our trust, and there
was infidelity with her.
At one point in the course of your relationship,
you went back to her? - Yeah.
They were sleeping around together.
Not-- no.
One time.
My mom and my aunt were--
To start a story about how you cheated with the words, "my mom
and my aunt," is interesting.
You haven't met my mother yet. TRACY MCMILLAN: Let me hear it.
So when you meet her, you'll understand.
OK.
So my mom and my aunt wanted to bring my son down
to visit my new place in Miami.
A couple of days before they're coming,
she tells me, oh, I'm bringing your ex--
the son's mom.
And while they were down there my mom had
plotted this whole scenario.
Y'all should get back together.
Oh, y'all look good together.
One situation, we all went to the beach.
So my mom comes and tells me and says,
she wants to go down into the water, but she's scared.
Could you hold her hand so she can go down there
and go in the water?
Her and my aunt were back taking pictures of us.
TRACY MCMILLAN: OK.
Wow.
Making it look like something romantic.
TRACY MCMILLAN: I got you.
And I had no idea this was happening.
Cut to how you ended up sleeping with her.
We went out, we were drinking, and it came from there.
And how did you find out about this?
I got a text with him in the water holding hands,
and their son in between.
And they're all holding hands like a big happy family.
TRACY MCMILLAN: OK.
Later on, I found out it was the ex.
Right.
I ended up calling her, and she spilled everything.
- Do you trust him? - No.
Not 100%. - OK.
Thank you.
Don't you want 100% trust?
Yeah.
But I think that relationships aren't 100%.
People go through this all the time.
I think when it becomes a problem
is when there's that pattern.
You continuously see a pattern.
Right.
Why don't we talk about who's coming.
Who's coming from your side, Darrell?
My mom, Sondra, my aunt, Kim, and my dad, Darrell.
For my side, my friend Diana is coming,
and my oldest daughter, Imani, and then my 18-year-old, Kiya.
I have five kids.
I think the only reservation they
would have would be me moving.
My oldest daughter, Imani, you know she has the kids,
and I'm a big part of their life right now in Pittsburgh.
So you're going to leave Pittsburgh?
Yes.
Your younger children, are they coming with you?
The 14-year-old is coming.
Yes.
We gave them all the option to come.
They are grown now.
And if that's what they choose to do,
to stay in Pennsylvania then-- - Right.
And how old is your son?
He's 6.
And what's your custody?
I see him when I come to Pittsburgh,
that one week a month.
TRACY MCMILLAN: OK.
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