Hey, this is Kirk and Kim. We are here at channel 4, Good Things Utah. We are your
lifestyle mentors. -Today, we're going to be talking about why it is time for you to
get a mentor. -We've always had mentors in our life. Always. -Whatever area of our
life we're not really good at, why would we try to figure it out by ourselves? So,
we find someone who knows more than we do. -At the next level. -Yeah, they know more
than we do to help us shorten that learning curve. So, pay attention, watch
closely. And I think today's the day you start finding your next mentor. -Alright,
feeling stuck are caught in a self-sabotage? Kirk and Kim Duncan from
3 key elements here to tell us how a mentor can make all the difference. And
when we say sabotage, you're talking about anything in life. Your marriage,
your relationship, your career, finances. -Yes. -The whole progress of you
trying to move forward and you can't. -You're stuck. -Yeah, you keep trying and
you keep trying and you keep trying it but for some reason, it does not come together.
That's what we mean by it's stuck or sabotage. -And what's funny is we tend to
and we're stuck, we go to people like our friends and family and people that have
never maybe been through what we what we're trying to get through. And we're
getting advice from people that really aren't qualified. -Qualified and a lot of
times too we can get in our own way. -We can. Yes. -So what are some tips maybe?
-Okay, so something to think about is you know, if you're stuck in a particular
area like, let's say and motivation. Well, look around you're gonna
find somebody who looks more motivated than you do. And so what that means is
that's the person to go to. If you see somebody who's only halfway motivated,
don't go to them for advice. -Is this an observation or you actually say, "What motivates you?
What makes you you?" -So, find the person then actually do a little interview on
them to see what they know and then ask them, "Would you be willing to help teach me
about what you do. What do you do in your life?" Because mentors have tested it and
tried it. -And these are people who may not even know that they are mentors,
they're leaders. -Exactly. Yeah. Yeah, so mentors don't really walk around with
the name on their pocket saying, "I'm a mentor." -They just are.
-They are. They can be great examples but instead of just being a great example, we
can actually go learn from them. -Has that ever happened in your life? -Oh, my goodness. -Find
a mentor and you... They really helped you? -That's... What's happened is you know,
now I know what I'm looking for. So, I seek out those Mentors. But I can go
back in my past and think of different people that that this person was a
definitely a mentor in my life. I didn't realize that it's time. But I can look
back on those moments. Now, we specifically seek out and we you
know, we get a list of what we want and we look for specific people that have
exactly what we're looking for in our life. Mentors can save you time, they can
save you money, they can cut down on stress. It's what our lives have changed
because we have had mentors. -That's a positive thing in your life. And yes,
you're looking for mentors and you both have actually become mentors yourself.
That's fantastic. -And for everybody who's watching, here's something you can do.
What you do, get a pad of paper. Draw a line down the middle. On one side, write
down what's working in your life. On the other side, write down what's not working
in your life. And now, these particular areas of what's not working, these are
the types of mentors you want to go find. And it's also going to help you solve
problems in your life because you're making sense of what's going on in your
head. But we make a list of what's working, make a list of what's not
working so you can get your head straight about where you're at. -There's something about
saying it and seeing it. -Yes. When it's all in your head, it's just
cluttered chaos and it's really difficult for us to make good decisions.
When it's written down, it makes so much more sense. What is an example of what's
not working? -Let's say I run out of money before the end of the month. So, if
you're struggling with money, you need to find somebody who's good at money. Don't
just keep thinking you're going to be like that for the rest of your life. There's
people who have figured out how to manage and work with money. And because
you listed your problems and you're clear about them, you can now start to
find answers for them. -This is just one of the many tips that you provide in a
webinar that you are going to be holding. Tell us a little bit about that. -Yeah,
what we have is we have a monthly webinar where anybody who wants to have
a mentor, I jump on for 2 hours every month and provide a 2-hour webinar to
teach people life skills about how to manage their thoughts and manage
their emotion. And it's one time a month for 2 hours. And while we're here on
Good Things Utah, if they click the link they can register for the webinar
on Monday. The next one is this Monday. And you have me as a mentor to teach you
life skills. -Wow, so valuable. It's called rich and
rewarding life online mentoring. Every month they can have you as someone
guiding them through life wherever they are stuck. Kirk and Kim Duncan, thank you
so much from 3 key elements. -Awesome to be here. -I just want to
mention you know, it's super important to remember when you are thinking about
having a mentor that you choose somebody that is really ahead of you. Don't go
asking for opinions of people that you know I've never been where you want to
go. It's so easy to fall into the trap of talking to friends or family that really
have never experienced what you're wanting to achieve in your life.
-It doesn't make sense to talk to somebody who doesn't have or do what you
want to have or do. So, find somebody who's good at what they're doing that
you want to be like them. -And that's taking you ahead. And here what we do is
we teach people life skills. And what we teach are literally skills that no
matter what goal you're going for, no matter what you're going for it
literally helps you improve your life. -We've improved our life. And how you... And
here's the main 2 topics: How you think and be able to manage your emotions.
Manage your thoughts, manage your emotions. Then you can get your goals. And
that's what we teach. So, if you would like to have a mentor, here's a very
inexpensive way to get a mentor. Is to jump in on our monthly subscription of
being mentored by myself, Kirk Duncan. I can be your mentor for $35 a month.
So, totally just enjoy it, love it. Click the link and register. And I look
forward to sharing with you life skills to get you moving forward to create
results. It's awesome. You're goin to love it.
You absolutely, you're going to love it.