Vanessa 0:07 Let's talk about quickies.
So despite it being called a quick and there's actually a lot of preparation that needs to
be done in order to have a successful one.
So in this video we are going to talk about how to prepare for and how to execute a quickie
that both people enjoy.
Because to be honest, a lot of people tell us like I've heard about quickies, but I've
just never been able to have one that felt enjoyable.
Yeah, I
Xander 0:30 don't understand how you're supposed to do
it so that I'm actually satisfied.
Vanessa 0:33 Yeah, so actually, let us know down in the
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Xander 0:42 But if you're brand new here, we first want
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Xander 1:11 Alright, so quick disclaimer before we get
into it.
In this video, we're going to be generally speaking in heteronormative terms because
usually it is in male and female pairings where one partner and let's be honest here
usually the woman struggles to orgasm during a quickie and maybe asking that question of
like, how am I actually supposed to have a quickie that actually works for me?
Okay, so what is a quickie?
It is a fast and furious sexual experience.
Not like the movie Fast and Furious, but just getting it done quickly.
You're getting right down to the point.
There's probably very little foreplay, no bells and whistles.
It's like just trying to have an orgasm each of you as quickly as possible.
Okay, so
Vanessa 1:53 in order to have a successful Quickie, you
need to know the quickest way to orgasm for both you and your partner.
So we have a rule around here.
We like to say that everyone who wants an orgasm gets an orgasm every single time you
have sex.
So in general, quickies do work best.
If you each take responsibility for your own orgasm, you figure out what is it that I need
to have the quickest path to orgasm?
How can I take control of my orgasm in the moment, then?
So one of the big problems that comes up is that a lot of women don't know what that is
for themselves.
So that's why we mostly hear from women.
We're like how is this supposed to be enjoyable?
So we have a lot of women in our audience who struggled to get to any kind of orgasm
maybe have never had an orgasm, let alone like a quick fast one.
So if you are really intent on having quickies in order to get there, you need to become
familiar with your own orgasm figure out exactly what it is that helps you reach orgasm practice
through masturbation.
Masturbation is really the key to exploring, understanding and even shortening down the
time for your orgasm.
So that's the surprising trick behind quickies is that you have to do a hell of a lot of
masturbation first.
Xander 3:05 Alright, so if you're still struggling with
quickies or the concept of it, here's a big misconception that a lot of people have is
that a quickie must be intercourse.
But here's the thing, intercourse is not the most pleasurable activity for the vast, vast,
vast majority of women.
It's the equivalent of trying to bring a man to orgasm by just playing with his balls.
Like we wouldn't expect a man to have an orgasm this way.
Like he'll probably enjoy it for a minute but yeah, he's not going to come.
Right so like why would we expect a woman to have an orgasm without any clitoral stimulation
which is the area of her body that is going to give her the most amount of pleasure.
Vanessa 3:46 Okay, so here's the thing a quickie does not
have to be intercourse.
So a quick it could be the two of you masturbating side by side maybe it's using your hands on
each other a toy on each other.
It could be one partner giving the gift of a fast orgasm to the other partner so maybe
it's like today you get the Quickie tomorrow I get the Quickie you can trade off like that
quick Oh.
So if you are a woman who has never had an orgasm we are going to pop a free guide in
the description box for you down below called why you're not orgasming from sex this is
going to give you some really crucial information you need to understand orgasm during intercourse
like Sandra was mentioning.
So that wraps up our video on how to have a quickie
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