Hello, my wonderful friend! Today's video is on the no contact rule,
3 powerful secrets you must know today. Like right now.
What is the no contact rule? Does it work? Should you use the no contact rule after a breakup or to
get her back? These are all good questions. And in this video, you're going to get the answers. And
let me just say, it's going to surprise you. Like a lot.
You're about to discover 3 powerful secrets that are going to help you
whether you thought about using the no contact rule or not.
And I may or may not have a bonus tip for you at the end of this video.
So make sure you stay with me until the end.
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Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men and creator of Attracting Lasting Love Academy.
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Many people try to use the no contact rule to retract someone or make them
miss them or get their attention again as they pull away.
If you're struggling with any of those things, make sure you also watch this video
on how to make her chase you, and it's not what you think, and this video on how to make her want
you more. Both of those are going to help you so much. I will put links in the description below.
So let's start these secrets off by talking briefly about what the no contact rule is.
It's basically what it sounds like.
No contact of any kind. This means no social media interaction. This means avoiding seeing them
in person, obviously. This means no texting. All of those things. It means absolutely no contact.
Now some people say 30 days, some people say 60, some people say 90,
it varies. But basically, it's just having zero contact with a person on purpose.
And this leads us into our first secret, our first powerful secret for the no contact rule.
This secret is that you should only,
only use the no contact rule if you don't ever want to talk to or see this person ever again.
The truth is, the no contact rule can be an incredible tool. If you've been
in a toxic relationship, if there's someone who's just unkind to you, you just don't enjoy them,
you don't want anything to do with them anymore, whether you've dated them or not, the no contact
is perfect. It's exactly what you should do in that situation.
This is the only effective way to use the no contact rule. Many people try to use it
for other things like reattracting. We're going to talk about that in just a moment.
The problem is that most people think that the no contact rule
is a fix-all. That it will make her want you again.
It's the "Perfect solution to get your ex back." Many people think that it'll make you less needy.
But the truth is, it's just a band-aid. It's not getting to the root of the problem.
You're not addressing what made you needy in the first place.
This means if you do get back together,
that neediness cycle is just going to start all over again.
The reason why is because you haven't gone to the source.
You haven't fixed what has made you feel needy in the first place.
How to not be needy is something I teach in-depth in my Academy. Some of the best strategies
I share with my clients there are things like building your confidence and your self-respect.
You only really feel needy when you feel desperate, and when you rely on someone else
for how good or bad you feel about yourself.
So building your confidence and self-respect is going to help you so much with this.
I also teach my clients there how to move the relationship at the right pace
and not give your heart too soon.
You deserve to protect your heart. Your heart is incredibly valuable. And when you
understand how to do those things naturally, well, then you don't have that neediness,
and you're not going to carry it into a relationship.
So remember that the no contact rule is not a cure-all.
It's not going to cure you of neediness. You need to get to the root of the problem.
Another big mistake people make with a no contact rule
is they try to use it on people they were never in a relationship with.
People that maybe they tried to approach, and it didn't go well, or they tried to attract,
and it didn't work. And they think that using the no contact rule on them is going to work.
That is not the solution. And this leads us to secret number two.
Secret number two for the no contact rule is to focus on attracting her instead of ending contact.
If she's attracted to you, if she sees you as the person she wants to get to know better,
maybe even wants to spend her life with, she's not going to pull away.
If you're interested in her, cutting all contact
is not going to make her interested in you. It's just not.
As a matter of fact, if she thinks you're playing a mind game with her,
it will ruin any chance you have with a high-quality woman.
Many people will try to get her attention,
and if it doesn't work, they'll end all contact. But what this does is it doesn't make her want
you more. Instead, it makes her think that you understood she wasn't interested and moved on.
So the solution is to learn how to attract a woman in a way that makes her want a lifelong
relationship with you. To make her so attracted to you that she wants to spend her life with you.
Because usually the reason women will turn a man down is because
they aren't attracted to him emotionally.
Even if they're attracted to him physically, if she's not attracted to you emotionally,
and if something has happened in the approach or when you've been talking to each other
that's made her feel uncomfortable, the attraction is over. She's done.
So if you instead learn how to attract her emotionally, as well as physically,
and how to make her always feel safe with you, that right there is your game changer.
That's the solution you're actually looking for,
instead of ending contact, which isn't going to work anyway.
That's your ultimate solution and the fastest way to avoid heartbreak and serious embarrassment.
If you haven't yet heard about my Academy, this is where all of my coaching is done
and where I walk you step by step through exactly what you need to know
to find the love of your life and melt her heart forever.
You'll learn how to attract her emotionally, physically, and make her feel safe with you.
And how you can create a foundation to build the relationship of your dreams.
If you're tired of exhausting mind games that just make you feel empty inside,
it's time for you to finally learn how to be successful in love.
I have a free masterclass I've put together for you
that will teach you more about what you'll learn and why it works.
If you're serious about a happy, lifelong relationship, you
need to watch it. Just go to coachmelannie.com/masterclass.
I'll also put a link in the description below and a link in the pinned comment.
You owe it to yourself to finally have the secrets, to finally have the keys
to a loving, lasting relationship. So make sure you watch that free masterclass today.
Our next secret about the no contact rule is that you deserve a relationship without drama.
I want you to always remember something.
Always remember that you matter, that your feelings matter, that you deserve respect.
You deserve to feel safe in a relationship, and not feel like you have to play those silly games.
A relationship where you have to "play hard to get" and "end contact" and "pull away" is
an exhausting, empty relationship. There's no closeness in a relationship like that.
The only time the no contact rule will get a woman's attention
and reattract her is when she's a toxic woman.
High-quality women don't play mind games
because they respect themselves and they respect you. They don't have time for mind games.
However, what a lot of people don't understand is that the no contact rule and mind games of
this sort can temporarily get the attention of a toxic woman.
Why is that? It's because all she cares about is her ego.
I cannot tell you how many times I have seen this.
She doesn't want it on her record that you rejected her. So she comes back, gets your
attention again, because she's got to have this list of guys who like her, and then she dumps you.
You don't want that. Playing that game is only going to attract women like that.
This is why so many people say that the no contact rule to reattract and
all of those things work. When in reality, it doesn't work for a high-quality woman.
You want to skip all that drama. You want to learn how to not be needy from the start,
how to attract her emotionally from the start,
so you don't have to worry about all this. That sounds much less stressful, right?
I want you to imagine something for a moment. Can you imagine
looking into her eyes and knowing she's crazy about you? Looking into her eyes and knowing she
knows everything about you and absolutely adores you. That's what you want, right?
Many people are afraid that this kind of relationship isn't real
because they've never experienced it.
Let me tell you, 100%, this kind of relationship
is real. And when you know how to find it and create it together,
you can have it too. This is again what I created my Academy to teach you how to do.
Bottom line, please never feel like you have to settle for a relationship with
drama because you don't. You deserve a loving relationship without the drama.
I have a quick question for you before we get to our next secret. Are you enjoying
this video? Should I maybe make some more videos that have kind of this myth buster type feel?
If that's something you would enjoy, comment
"yes" in the comments below to let me know that that's something you're interested in.
If you have any specific ideas of what you would like me to address,
leave those ideas in the comments as well. One more time, if you would like
more videos like this one, comment "yes" to let me know.
Okay, are you ready for our bonus secret?
The bonus secret for the no contact rule is that she wants you to be the one.
Sometimes it can feel like men and women are against each other, that we're on opposite teams.
In reality, though, we have the same goal. We just want to love and be loved.
Assuming, of course, we're talking about high-quality people, not toxic people.
That's a whole nother story.
When we're talking about genuine, high-quality people, and
most human beings are genuine, we just want to love and be loved, right?
The reason it's sometimes doesn't feel this way is because toxic people do a lot of damage.
It can sometimes feel like everybody's toxic. But in reality, it's because toxic people cover
a lot of territory. They hurt a lot of people because that's what their lives are surrounded
with. That's pretty much all they do, is they just go around hurting other people.
And once you've been a victim of a toxic person even once,
they have conditioned you to be that victim over and over and over again. Which is why,
again, I teach the skills to start repelling them, so you can attract a high-quality woman instead.
So if sometimes you feel like you're just surrounded by toxic people,
understand that it's not because everybody's toxic, but those toxic people do a ton of damage.
Another reason why we can kind of feel like it's "him against her" in relationships is because
relationships are incredibly frustrating when you don't really know how to get what you want.
When you don't see the whole picture, it's incredibly confusing, right? When you do see the
whole picture though, it's simple, and one of the happiest, most enjoyable things there is in life.
So, my wonderful friend, if you're tired of feeling like relationships will never work,
if you're tired of feeling like you have to bend over backward and you have to settle and you have
to give and give and give to a relationship, and you're instead ready for crazy awesome, wonderful
love, it's time for you to learn the secrets that allow you to have that kind of love.
It's time to learn the secrets that unlock the door
to more happiness than you can possibly imagine. I'm here to share these secrets with you.
To learn more, watch that free masterclass. Just go to coachmelannie.com/masterclass.
Again, I will put a link in the description below and a link in the pinned comment.
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[blooper beep] [singing]
That's my intro song for today. I wrote it myself. I bet you couldn't guess, right? [laughter]
I have a secret. My foot's asleep. [laughter] It's very distracting. That's what happens when
you're short and your feet don't reach the ground. [laughter] Now you know. Moving on.
To find the love of your heart and- Your heart? [laughter] Find the love of your heart.
Boom, mic drop. Okay.
Okay, are you ready for our bonus secret? [pause] [laughter] Me too.