a woman's intuition is never wrong
or is it is your husband lying acting
shady and maybe you think he's doing
some things that he shouldn't be doing
we're going to talk about that in just a
minute but don't do anything rash before
we get there my name is kimberly holmes
i am the ceo of marriage helper and at
marriage helper we have worked with
thousands of couples
thousands of which their marriage has
been affected by an affair thousands of
people who are suspecting sometimes
rightfully so that their husband was
having an affair and he was it doesn't
mean that their marriage was over we
have seen thousands of marriages saved
even when the husband has had an affair
so there is hope i just want you to know
that on the front end but i also know
that you're probably freaking out right
now calm down we're gonna get there i'm
gonna tell you some things that you can
do and i'm also gonna tell you the real
things that you should look for if you
think that your husband is cheating
before you jump in that car and start
following them around town just chill
out we're going to get there but first i
want to tell you about this free
marriage strategy call that we are going
to offer you and marriage helper i'm
going to be honest with you we are the
experts at saving marriages when there's
been an affair or when there's currently
an affair this is something we have
helped so many people out we have an
amazing success rate at it over 70
we know what to do we understand why
affairs happen we understand how to stop
them we understand what you can do if
your spouse is having an affair to
actually
save the marriage and attract your
spouse and bring your spouse back to you
to bring your husband back to you and to
make sure that the affair never happens
again there is hope there is hope there
is hope and in this free marriage
strategy session that we have you can
speak with someone on our team on our
client relations team and understand the
things that we can offer you our
coaching our courses and our workshops
that have an amazing success rate for
you i'm going to tell you how you can do
that at the end of this video so here's
the thing just because your husband is
lying and acting shady does not
necessarily mean he's having an affair
so
stop
google shopping for
all of these things that's what i call
it when people go on google and are like
searching these terms and they're
finding all this terrible information
it's just raising their anxiety i have a
friend who calls it google pain shopping
you're going on google and you're just
shopping for pain because that's how it
feels you get more anxious it gets worse
it's not the best thing to do i'm going
i'm gonna tell you the truth
but i also hope that it lowers your
anxiety a little bit because once you
know what's going on then you can know
how to fix it just because your husband
is lying doesn't mean he's having an
affair it could mean
that your husband's a habitual liar
although that is rarely the case
it more than likely means uh if your
husband's lying
that maybe he's scared of telling the
truth and we have a whole other video
about that so i'm not going to go into
that today but we can actually make it
to where we teach our husbands to lie
because if we're not a safe space for
them when they come to us and tell us
the truth then they're not going to keep
telling us the truth so just because
they're lying doesn't necessarily mean
anything shady is going on go watch that
other video after this one to learn what
that means here are the things that you
should actually be looking for if you
think that your husband might be having
an affair i had a friend who several
years ago her husband was in an affair
she didn't know it at the time though
for two years
for two
years
she realized she was watching her
husband would go on these trips
he'd be gone for weekends he would say
that he was going to do like work stuff
but it always like it all it never
really truly lined up so he would be
gone a lot he would go and be out until
2 or 3 a.m with his friends and she
would she would say i i mean he's just
out with his friends and it just happens
to be four nights a week
and i think she always kind of knew what
was happening because she would never
press the issue i think she was scared
of what she would find if she if she
pressed even further but there was a lot
of missing time all of a sudden
for two years missing
time the other thing that happens is
missing money so this same friend
didn't have access anymore to the bank
accounts and when she could see some of
the bank account statements that came in
there was a lot of just chunks of change
that were going for hotel stays while he
was out on these work trips right like
so thousands of dollars
a month and then she was saying what's
happening with this there was always a
story there was always a cover-up story
to try and hide it but there was missing
time missing money
and missing trust what i mean by missing
trust is all of a sudden her husband put
passwords on everything
put passwords on his phone
changed his passwords to social media he
no longer trusted her to see what was
going on behind those doors and so all
of these things together
really should raise red flags that
perhaps your husband
whether it's an affair or not he's
probably doing something he doesn't want
you to know about and maybe you should
consider what that means now this does
not mean as i said before that you hop
in your car and you start chasing him
around town the last thing that you
should do is start accusing your husband
of having an affair
a better thing to do would perhaps
instead
be to ask your husband
where he is
hey where are you going when you're gone
all of this time where is all this money
going to
why have you changed the passwords to
your phone and again yes your husband
might lie to you in this because if he
is having an affair he doesn't want to
get caught
but
short of hiring a private detective and
putting a gps tracker on your car which
you should not do and i'll get to that
in just a minute but short of doing that
you can't force your husband to tell the
truth you can begin to pave the way for
truth to come out but here's the thing
truth is always going to come out it is
always going to come out that your
husband's having an affair some way or
another he's going to admit to it the
other woman's going to contact you
something's going to happen and it's
going to come out you just don't want to
be the one to force everything to come
up
more than likely most of the time we
want to try and make it to where
other things can happen we have other
videos that can explain this eventually
you may get to the point where you do
want to confront your spouse and ask him
is he having an affair
we have a video that talks more about
that but really before you do that what
you should absolutely do is get with one
of our coaches get in our save my
marriage course because those are the
things that are going to
make sure that you are grounded enough
before approaching this situation and i
know that you want to do it today
i'm more than likely you are more than
likely the person who's saying i can't
live like this anymore something's wrong
i need to talk about it i need to figure
out an answer i get it but if you
accuse your spouse
if you accuse your husband
and you don't have the evidence to
support it
it's probably not going to end well so
i'm asking you to really think things
through to try
take a deep breath realize you're not
alone in this there's many other women
who have gone through it it doesn't make
it right but realize what you can do to
have the best success
in getting the affair to come to light
and getting your husband to come back
and for your marriage to be better than
ever the best thing that you can do is
have that free marriage strategy session
like i was telling you about at the
beginning of the video where one of our
client relations team members will
listen to your story and guide you to
the best resource that we have for you
right now there is hope i'll also make
sure that the team links to some other
videos where we talk about this so that
you can understand what might be going
on if your spouse is having an affair
some things that if you do decide to
approach him some best tips and
practices and how to do that but for now
take a deep breath
book that marriage strategy call and
know that there is still hope even if
your husband's having an affair there is
still hope and we are here for you to
teach you what you can do to bring your
marriage back together
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