conquering fear in general right right if you're a failure or fear of rejection
for the unknown what would your advice be to someone who wants us like start a
business or a major project but they're but they're held back by fear so this is
again it's interesting for me because public speaking is not something that
induces fear made it never has but I know that it does make people scared and
I think that overcoming the key to any overcoming any fear in my mind is we
talked about earlier which is inoculation and this idea and I actually
looked up the definition of inoculation and it's the introduced the introduction
of a pathogen or antigen into a living organism to stimulate the production of
antibiotic antibodies so you're giving yourself a little bit right you give
yourself a little bit and you build up off there and and that's what you do you
take the small doses so it prepares you for the big bigger doses and I one of my
daughters my middle daughter she was really wanting to be in the school play
right and other plays around town and you know okay cool well that's cool but
she was horrified to go out in front of an audience
horrified and so I looked up and I said okay how do you stop in your kids from
being getting stage fright is one they call it and you know I read about people
what they did and what I did was I said I'd say okay
sing a song for me and it's not that big of a deal cuz I'm her dad and so she'd
sing a song for me and even then she'd be a little bit embarrassed but she'd
sing a song for it and then you know a couple days they'd write my wife hey
sing that song for both of us mm-hmm and then it was oh my wife's got a friend
over hey sing that song for the three of us cuz I are you get a mystery person an
unknown in the room okay so she's overcoming that fear and each time she's
getting a little bit more and more confident because we took her to what
are they called tryouts what's tryout called
audition audition we took her to a couple auditions where
it was her turn and she didn't go she broke down just crying and just just
just couldn't handle it mm-hmm and so then it was then it was a few my wife's
friends were over then it was some of my friends were over so now you got you
know guys and girls and each time she got more and more confident and
eventually she just didn't care anymore and she was totally confident and she
got the lead role in the school play she legitimately got the lead role in the
school play so so she was able to overcome that fear and in the SEAL Teams
we do the same kind of thing we know where you're gonna get inoculated
against stress as much as they can stress you out in the SEAL Teams they're
gonna stress you out there's going to be machine-gun fire you're gonna be used to
that there's gonna be explosions going off you're gonna be used to that we used
to do we used to fly fire machine-gun drills and and and I add drills
immediate action drills we are maneuvering around we should do that
without your ear protection and sometimes so you get used to this crazy
banging we don't do that anymore because it's not smart but uh but you do that to
inoculate it's like what you were talking about earlier when that gun goes
off you should be completely comfortable with it and there's an one of my
favorite stories on that one my favorites or spo11 a buddy of mine who
actually took my job I was at a ski - commander he actually took my job as
tasking a commander and a flashbang is a grenade that you throw into a room
before you go into the room and it makes a loud explosion and smoke and then it
allows you to enter in on the room when the people that are inside are now
startled so you have an advantage well occasionally you know you have to open
the door to throw the crash in there and occasionally someone will open the door
and someone will run in by eglee didn't coordinate it well and so the open the
door guy runs in and then someone throws the
crash and so now you're crashing yourself it's not that big of a deal you
gotta used to it but what happened with one of his new guys you know that
happened so the door would open the guy went in and while the guy's running in
somebody throws a crash in there the guy sees the crash and he runs back out of
the room which is not what you're supposed to do so this guy was the
tasking commander he goes hey come with me down here and so they walked down and
he brought him into a closet in the kill house and just sat in there and said
yeah how's it going and then just sat there
in the dark and dropped like eight crashes at their feet and just boss the
guy because you realize you just got to get inoculated you just got to overcome
it so that's kind of I guess my my theory here would be if you're afraid of
fighting and altercations go change it so if you're afraid of heights work on
some rock climbing climbing if you're afraid of the water time to swim it's
time to surf it's trying to get out there if you're afraid of pull-ups if if
you're prey to pulps do pull-ups if you're in squats do squats if you're
afraid of public speaking go speak in public mm-hmm if you're afraid to start
a business start a business make it small and on all these what you have to
do is you have to mitigate the risk and you have to ease yourself into it but
you got to go for it and eventually you will overcome that fear but the hard
part is you got to take that first step you got to take that first step to begin
to inoculate yourself against the fear against the fear of the thing that's in
your mind because that fear generally is in your mind yeah you know when you get
up on stage do a public speaking people are not going to throw tomatoes at you
and say oh my you're an idiot get off the stage now they're gonna sit there
you know so there's nothing to fear yeah it's in it's in your head