- Today's video is about how to handle success gracefully.
And obviously step one is to make it rain.
No other, other way.
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Have you ever heard the saying, don't meet your heroes?
Unfortunately, I've had that experience happen
where I meet someone, and I was so excited to meet them.
I had this whole image in my head.
I had them on a pedestal,
and then unfortunately meeting them was disappointing.
And that experience has really instilled
for me that I never wanna forget where I came from,
I never wanna make anyone feel that way,
like they are less than me
or that I didn't have time for them.
When I meet someone I wanna give them the time of day.
I wanna make eye contact with them, hug them,
learn their name, hear their story.
That's really important to me,
because I mean, I'm an extrovert, I love people.
But I also just I wanna be able to inspire people.
And knowing that I've had experiences,
where I met someone that I looked up to
and the experience was kind of, wa-wa.
I never wanna make someone feel that way.
And so I wanted to make this video
about how to handle success gracefully,
because as you grow, as you evolve in your business,
yes, there's gonna be different boundaries
you might have to set.
Like I can't say yes to every single coffee date
or for people who wanna pick my brain, of course,
because I need to be able to leverage my time
in the way that's most efficient
for me, my family, my self care, my health,
for my clients that deserve my time and energy.
And so as much as yes, you do have boundaries,
it's also really important to have, you know, the systems
and the mindset of how you can still
be your best self to anyone that you meet.
I had this experience once,
where I met someone that I really looked up to.
He was speaking at the same event that I was.
We were sharing the stage.
It was someone that I have their book.
I've seen them speak before, I've heard their story.
And I was so excited to meet him.
So I went up to him, I shook his hand.
I said, you know, introduced myself,
"So nice to meet you."
And I felt like he didn't give me the time of day.
And I took it with a grain of salt that time.
Maybe he was busy.
He had other people that wanted to talk to him. It was fine.
But a few days later, same experience happened.
And it was just, it was unfortunate,
because it was someone that, like I said,
I've read his book.
I've heard him speak before.
It was someone that I really admired.
And that whole experience made me feel
like the whole pedestal I had built for this person,
the idea I had in my mind,
was suddenly just nonexistent anymore
because of that experience.
That all of the rapport that I built for him,
like just, just seeing him on the stage,
all of a sudden was gone
because of the the first experience,
you know, the first impression after meeting him.
The funny thing was,
later when he learned that I was also a speaker,
then his tone changed, and then he became nice to me.
And I really think it shouldn't matter
who you're speaking to,
whether they're on a stage with you,
or whether they're, you know,
someone that's just starting out.
I think it's really important to be nice
and give the time of day to anybody.
I heard this phrase once too that,
"The same people you see on the way up,
are the same people you'll see on the way down."
And I kind of have the feeling
that if you're really nice to everyone on the way up,
you might not need to have the way down.
I used to work in entertainment and event management,
and I also worked in radio in a big market.
And that was where I learned this phrase of someone who was,
it was someone I worked with and really looked up to.
And she was a wonderful online personality,
radio personality, and she's the one that said that to me.
And I asked her, and it's something
that I really look to in other people that I admire.
When I see that in them,
that they do give people the time of day
and that they're so nice and giving,
I ask them what it is in them
that inspires them to do that.
And that's the phrase she told me that,
"The same people you see up,
are the same people you'll see on the way down."
And it really made me think about that,
that your success isn't guaranteed.
No matter how big or famous or wealthy you get,
the way that you treat people and the way that people feel
about the way that you interacted with them
is gonna be the game changer for everything.
I think about even like the celebrities
at the height of their game.
And then there's a video leaked of a way
that they're speaking poorly to someone
or inappropriately behaving in public.
And it can ruin everything.
Like you can build this rapport and have people love you.
And all it takes is one bad video
or one misspoken sentence that can change everything.
And you never know who is watching.
My friend posted this recently.
She was on a flight and someone posted a picture
of her on the flight saying,
"Hey, I'm with this person. She's on my flight, too."
You never know who is watching.
You never know who's listening to you.
Who's waiting to be inspired by you.
Who is looking to you to be their role model.
And the more successful you become,
the more opportunity you have
to be able to make that impact,
to change people's lives, young and old.
I felt so inspired and honored recently,
that my book got into the hands of two young little girls.
They look like they're about 10 years old.
And they're reading my book
and they're highlighting it.
And they, you know, I got a really cute picture
from them saying, "Thank you, Ms. Jaxx."
And that to me, made me so happy to know
that I'm doing my best to give a good message
and to inspire people,
and to always, you know, give the time of day.
I've said it so many times,
there is nothing more important,
and there's nothing more damaging,
than ruining that reputation
by not spending the moment and giving these people
the time that they deserve and you deserve.
So that's my tip for you today.
I would love for you to comment below and share with me,
have you had an experience with someone,
and please don't name them,
but either inspired you or was damaging to the relationship
you had when you, you know,
maybe looked up to this person?
Again, you don't have to name them.
But how did that make you feel?
And how did it inspire you to maybe change your behavior
or treat people differently when you have the experience?
Comment below, I'd love to know that.
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