- As a mother, do you feel that impossible choice
between career and family?
I want to eliminate that impossibility
and show that you can have both.
Keep listening and I'm going to show you
that you can have the career of your dreams
and be an amazing parent.
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I was a single parent and I heard that lie all the time,
you can't have it all.
If you have an amazing career,
your child suffers 'cause you're not at home
for all those magic moments.
But if you stay at home,
you've sacrificed all your career prospects to have a child,
and when they leave home
you can't get back in the job market.
Now, that is such a dilemma.
Being a parent, having a career,
Why can't you have it all? You can have it all.
I know that because I was a single parent and I had it all.
A very contented child.
And I was there for all the magic moments.
The first steps. The first word.
I drove her to school every day and picked her up.
I was at every school play, every sports day.
I was there when she was ill.
But I also had an incredibly rewarding, fulfilling career
that to this day, I absolutely love.
And that's because I was a therapist.
For women, especially, there are very, very few careers.
It's very unfair that women have this dilemma.
Having it all, something's got to give.
It simply is not true.
If you want to have it all,
you should definitely think about being a therapist.
It is the best job in the world. Being an RTT® therapist.
Do you know why?
You can work from your kitchen table.
You can see clients on Zoom.
You can see clients on Skype.
Of course, you can also use a spa or a gym
or a chiropractor's office and go and see clients.
And you can do it in your hours.
You can work 10 to 3, 9 to 3.
You may decide that you can work in the evenings
when your children are sleeping.
You really have that freedom.
And I have been so grateful for that freedom
throughout my entire career.
I see so many people who say, "I missed the first steps.
"I sacrificed everything to go through the ranks
"as a banker or a PA or in the city.
"But the price I paid was unbearable.
"And now my kids blame me."
But I have other people who say,
"I stayed at home to raise my kids.
"They weren't even grateful.
"They've left home now
"and I've given up all the promotion I could have had.
"And it's too late to retrain."
Not as you become an RTT® therapist.
Here's the wonderful thing.
You can train while your kids are at school.
You can see clients while your kids are at school.
And here's another amazing thing.
I have found many, many, many of my own clients
at the school gate.
Someone who says, "My kid has night terrors.
"They don't sleep at night."
"My kid is being bullied."
"My kid is the bully."
"My kid is terrified of something,"
or, "They can't learn,"
or, "They can't apply themselves," or, "They're anxious."
Or, "Hey, I've got a kid who's an artist,
"but their older brother's really academic
"and they feel inadequate."
And I worked with so many, many children
through their parents.
A woman would say, "I'm trying so hard to get pregnant.
"I have secondary infertility."
I went, "Oh, I know all about that.
"I've studied that. I can help you."
And that was an amazing thing
that I got so many of my clients through other parents.
That went on when those parents have unhappy teenagers
or the girl was dating an idiot
and they wanted me to help them
extract themselves from that.
So please don't think it has to be one or the other.
"I can have a great career,
"but always be guilty about missing those magic moments."
Or, "Well, I can be at home, be a great mom,
"but I'm going to have those words.
"I'm just a mom.
"I'm just a stay at home mom
"with some kind of sense of shame."
When you are a therapist, you can be both.
There are not many careers where you can be both,
pick your own hours, choose your own salary,
and have a job where you make an impact.
You make a difference.
You change people's lives, not just your clients,
but actually your own.
And here's another thing, for women especially,
we have a sell-by date.
What kind of job can I train for at 50?
What kind of job can I have where I don't think,
"Oh, they're younger, smarter,
"more glamorous than me?"
Being a therapist is that kind of job.
As I get older, I feel so blessed.
I've always felt blessed.
When I had a little baby, I was blessed.
I could see clients around feeding her.
When she went to school, I was blessed.
I could see clients around drop off and pick up.
When she was older I was blessed because I could deal with
all her teenage issues and be there.
And now I'm older I feel blessed because the older I get
the wiser I'm seen as being,
and I don't feel I'm competing
with some glamorous hot 30-year-old
or super smart 29-year-old.
It's an amazing career.
Whereas you get older, you're seen as wiser and valued
'cause you don't age, you sage.
That's the great thing.
There's so many great things about being an RTT® therapist.
Your own hours. You choose your hours.
You choose your income.
You make a difference.
This job gives you meaning, certainty,
diversity, connection.
Connection is so important.
You do something with impact.
We all want to change the world, but that's kind of hard.
But I change people one soul at a time and so can you.
And when you change people,
that's how you change the world.
And you go to bed every night
knowing that somewhere in the world,
someone is having a better life because of you.
Often, a teenage kid who feels they don't matter.
A kid who's being bullied or is the bully.
You can change all their lives. Change your own.
And also, it makes you a better parent.
You learn these skills of dealing with.
We teach you an understanding of human behaviour.
Many, many of my graduates come back, say, "You know what?
"I trained with you. I love it.
"And my kids have said, 'Hey mom, you don't shout anymore.'"
Or, "Hey, mom, you're so calm."
"Hey mom, I love that thing that you taught me
"about the four ways kids act out just to belong.
"The three things you need to know about your mind,
"the only three things wrong with you."
And, "Hey, Mom, you gave me an understanding
"of why my boyfriend is weird,
"my girlfriend is needy,
"my best friend at school is bossy."
So it actually makes you a better parent too.
And that's an amazing thing.
So if you want to know how you can have this amazing career,
do what you love, love what you do,
set your own fees, and never have to worry about retiring,
unless you want to.
As many of my friends are thinking about retiring.
I'll never retire. Why would I?
I love my job so much.
And I know when I'm 80,
I can see three clients a week, or one.
In fact, we've just started to train people
who have retired from their career and said, "I'm so bored.
"Don't know what to do with myself."
We've had people fly in from all over the world,
from Sweden, from Holland, from Italy, from New Zealand,
from Australia, say, "I want a career
"that I didn't have to retire from, that I'm not told,
"'Hey, you're 65, you can't do this anymore.'"
You can start this career at any age.
It's amazing.
So if you want to know how to have an amazing career
and nothing has to give,
and there is no guilt and there's no regret.
No, "Oh, I missed out on so much."
You don't have to miss out on anything.
You'll gain more, so much more.
Just click the link in my bio
and find out how you can have one of those rare careers
where nothing has to give and you don't lose out,
you get so much back.
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