This video is how to show love and affection to your husband. And I think
I've got a few tips that will really make a difference for you and your
marriage.
Hey, my friend. I want to share with you something that would make a big
difference in how you and your husband connect together. You know, something I do
is I want him to hear my voice. I wanted him to hear me talk to him and to share
my affection, my love with him. You know men, they have a lot on their plates. They
have a lot of responsibilities providing and taking care of our family and our
home. And one thing that I can do for him, is for me to verbally express to him
my love and my affection. And sometimes, there was there was actually a time in
our life in our marriage when we were struggling. We were going through a
really difficult time in our life. You know, where my husband I were both
overweight. We were both financially just having a really difficult time in it
with our finances. We were just not living the life of our dreams at all.
Like not even at all. And it was kind of like at that time, our life was just kept
going down in and not a good way. And I decided that together, we could make a
difference. And so, I began to talk to him in a way that really boosted him up. Even
though we were really struggling and we were really having a... Just difficult
life, I would talk to him as if I was seeing him in the future of the man that
I knew he could be. Even though in that moment, it wasn't actually like true but
it was what I could see him to be. I talked him about being a great provider
for our family. Now, he was a good dad. I told him that he was like the best dad
on the planet. That there was no dad better than him. And I would tell him how
much I loved the way he took care of our kids and he and the way he touched our
kids and talked to our kids and loved our kids. And I would... I would tell him
those types of things and it made such a difference. Then I would talk about how I
appreciated all the things he did from our family and how I appreciated how
hard he worked for us and all the things that he did for us and how he took care
of our home. Even though at that time, he was not really providing great for
our family and he really wasn't taking care of a lot of things in our family.
But I kept telling him that story. It was absolutely amazing because it wasn't
very long and all of the things that I would tell him began to come true. And
that was awesome. And I would tell him how super sexy he
was, I would I would just just give him all the passion by my words. I know that
my voice, he'd loves to hear my voice. And so, I
would get really close up to his ear and I would tell him all these things in his
ear and it just made him feel good. He actually stood taller. He actually,
he was much happier. And I really saw the difference and even just me talking to
him, he would actually treat my kids even just how much better and it just really
made a difference in our relationship. By the way, I spoke to him. I spoke to him as
if he was the most amazing man that ever walked the planet and that made a
difference. Something I've found that men are... They are so physical. They just want
us to touch them all the time. And you know, it's so easy for us as women to be
so busy taking care of our kids and taking care of the house and taking care
of all the responsibilities that we have. But I know that when my husband gets
touched by me, even if it's just like to rub his back or to rub my fingers
through his hair or to tickle his back or to massage his back, it makes such a
difference for him. He loves feeling that touch and that connection because
you know these guys, they work hard. They're out doing stuff all day long and
they're make it happen. And so by me touching him, he feels important.
He feels loved and that can make... Your marriage just totally connected and
stronger when you could have that beautiful physical connection. So, the
more I touch him the happier he gets. Here's another idea for you. There was
this day that my husband decided he was going to clean our garage out and it
needed cleaning like it really needed cleaning. There was so much stuff in our
garage and so like, "Okay, you do your thing on the
garage." And it wasn't part of my plan that day so he was doing it on his own.
And he he's out there cleaning out the garage and he takes everything out to
her out of our garage and he puts it out on the driveway. And I come out there and
I would... At first I was kind of shocked. I was like, "Oh, my gosh. What are we going to do?
Are we going to like have our garage on the driveway for the rest of our life?" Kind
of scared me for a minute. But then I reeled that back in and I realized, "Okay,
what he needs right now is a good validation moment." So, I took that time
and I validated him. And I'm like, "Oh, my gosh! This is amazing, I love the garage."
It looks so clean. And it's going to be so amazing when you when you put everything
back in the garage. "And oh, you did great putting all these things together and
all the tools together and all the all the gardening equipment together. You did
so good on getting all that stuff organized. And oh, my goodness. We're going to
get rid of some of this stuff. This is awesome." And I just kept validating him
and telling what a great job he was doing and complimenting him and then
letting him know how I could like... I could imagine what its going to be like in
the garage when he's done. And he just stood because I could kind of tell he was a
little bit overwhelmed. I don't know about you but if you've ever gotten into
a really big project and you weren't sure exactly how it was going to turn out
and when I walked out I could see that look in his face on his eyes. And so I
knew that the way I could touch him and make a difference was would be to
validate him and help him to feel like he can pull it back together again.
And as as I did that, he stood taller and he got his confidence back and he got
right back at it and the garage looked amazing when he was done. Now, another tip
I want to give you at the same little situation here is you know how when your
husband puts up a shelf or a picture and it's crooked? You want to just say, "Oh, my
goodness. Honey this is so amazing. I love what you've done. Thank you so much for
taking such good care of our family and I thank you for putting up this
shelf and you are such a man." Because you know what? Sometimes they just need to
know how much you love them. No matter what the project actually
looked like, they just need to know if you love them. And then you validate them as a
man. Hey, I am super glad that you watched
this video today. My husband I have a class called Royalty
and Romance. Oh! It is amazing. It's 3 days here in Salt Lake City, Utah. I would
love to have you attend our class so that you can learn so much more to
support you and your husband and having the most amazing life ever in your
romance of marriage. You know what? If you've got a few tips you'd like to add,
go ahead and add them here to the comments.