- Heya playa.
Are you curious about how your parents would react
If you told them that you were dating someone?
Would they be happy for you or would they be super angry?
In this video I'm gonna walk you through how
to start that conversation with them
and how to get them on board with you dating someone.
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Now telling your parents
that you're dating someone is a really big deal.
You don't really know exactly how they'll react
until you first know what their rules of dating are.
Every parent is different,
some of them are okay with you going out on dates,
some of them don't want you to be in a relationship
and only focus on schoolwork.
The best thing you can really do is to sit down
and talk to your parents.
Before you even get into that relationship,
start to understand where they're coming from,
where their boundaries lie
and what they're okay with you doing.
You'd be surprised how many parents are actually impressed
with the fact
that you're bringing this conversation up to them.
It could be an awkward one
to have with your parents starting
to talk about the birds and the bees and relationships,
but if they see that you're willing
to understand where they're coming from,
they may be a little bit more lenient as things progress.
Now if your parents give you a bunch of rules
that you think are totally unfair,
don't fight with them about it.
This is a mistake a lot of people make because they think
by yelling and screaming,
you're gonna persuade your parents
to think differently.
It's not gonna happen.
Instead, what you really wanna do is this,
focus on going deeper into the rules that they set.
If they set a specific age for you to start dating,
try to understand why that age is significant to them.
If they've only allowed you to go to certain places
or do certain things,
try to understand why they've set those boundaries.
it doesn't change the fact
that you think those rules are incredibly insane,
but it does show them that you're willing
to be mature about those conversations.
And once again,
that's gonna kinda lower their defenses a bit.
It's gonna make them a little bit more lenient
to possibly letting you date.
But let's say you're already in a secret relationship
and your parents just don't know about it,
the first thing you're gonna wanna do in that type
of situation is just kinda float the idea
of you potentially dating someone,
say things to them like,
"Hey, how would you feel if I had a girlfriend?
Or would you be okay with me having a boyfriend online
that I talk to every single day?"
see what their kinda stance is.
If they get super upset about it,
then you may need to take a step back
and find a better way to approach it.
The key here is not figuring out
how you're gonna just unload this information
on your parents.
It's actually figuring out how you can get your parents
to like the person that you're dating.
So something you may wanna try doing is jumping
on a video call with your boyfriend or girlfriend,
and then walking around the house,
into the room with your parents,
and then just turning the camera
so that the person can say hi to your parents
and your parents can say hi to them.
That small little introduction is gonna start
to lay the seeds for your parents getting more accustomed
to you talking to that person.
The more that your parents
and the person you're dating can interact with each other,
the better outcome you're gonna have.
Now your parents might eventually ask you,
"Hey, are you dating that person?"
To which it's up to you to decide if that's the moment
to tell them, or you may just wanna say,
"Oh, right now I'm just talking to them trying
to learn more about them,
to see if there's someone that fits for me".
That also ends up being the opportunity
for you to tell your parents more about that person.
Let them know what makes them so special,
What you really like about them, how the two of you connect.
The more you can get your parents on board with the idea
of you dating them , the easier it's gonna be for them
to eventually say yes when you tell them
that you are.
Granted, all the tips I've shared so far,
doesn't really guarantee that your parents will be on board.
Look, you may give this whole big presentation
and your parents might just simply tell you, no.
But try not to be too discouraged
If they just don't understand how you feel right now.
Look, parents are people too,
and it takes them time to process
and understand the emotions, especially of their kids.
So give them a little bit of slack,
try to warm up to the idea.
That's the best thing you can do
and that's for your parents,
but what about the person that you're dating?
What if they haven't even thought about bringing it up
to their parents yet?
Well, everyone operates at their own pace.
You may be annoyed or frustrated that you're open about it,
but they're not, but you have to try
to understand where they're coming from.
They may be scared about how their parents are gonna react,
or they may not know exactly
how to bring up that conversation.
This is not an easy situation to navigate,
especially when you need your parents' approval
when it comes to dating someone.
So work on being patient, work on being understanding,
and work on being open and honest with both your parents
and your partnering here.
The only way this is actually gonna work is
if everyone is on the same page.
So try to put that front and center,
whenever you talk to them.
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Now what I want you to do is check out the video over there
on the side.
That's gonna break down what to do
if your parents won't allow you to date,
or if the person you wanna date has parents
that won't allow them to date.
Either way I got you covered.
Check out those videos and I'll catch you next time.
As always love and peace.