So, do you ever find yourself at a loss for words in a romantic situation?
Some guys hitting on you and you just don't know what to say in response?
Well, you're in luck because in this video we're going to be breaking down the
Georgian Era's flirting tips for ladies.
Last week, we talked all about how guys can use some great
Georgian lines to pick up girls.
And today we're going to be talking about responding to those
lines and managing your virtues.
So if you're interested in sharpening your flirting game with the advice
from the 17 hundreds, definitely stay tuned for today's video.
My name is Ellie Dashwood and this is my channel where we talk about
classic literature and history.
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So again, like I mentioned, in last week's video, these tips are coming from
three very popular guides from the 17 hundreds giving lovers the sentences
to say, in all sorts of situations when otherwise words might fail them.
So let's dive into the sentences that are appropriate for the various romantic
situations a Lady might find herself in.
So ladies, how do you hit on the guys?
Well, first of all, in the Georgian Era, you clearly have to wait for him to
start hitting on you, but then once he does how you respond is very important.
So we need to start off with pickup line responses for ladies.
Right?
So he's like giving you one of those lines about your beauty and stuff.
So then how do you respond to it?
The first method is of course, to put yourself down.
You could say, "Sir, I never had those ambitious thoughts to think you could
prefer so imperfect a creature as myself."
So it's like, yeah, I never thought I was good enough for you, but thank you.
So, I mean, putting yourself down.
Next up, you could compliment him with awkward metaphors.
The more convoluted and awkward the metaphor is, clearly the
more romantic your feelings.
You could say, "Sir, the enjoyment of your conversation is enough to
transform a prison to a palace."
Right?
So if like you're in prison with him and he's talking to you and you're like,
"We're actually in a palace right now."
Or you could say, "Sir, sleep cannot be more welcome to the weary traveler
than you shall ever be to me."
So right, he is better than sleep itself.
Now, at some point, you actually need to indicate that you care about him.
Now, if you could also kind of work in his money, and the fact that you care about
his money into it too, is doubly helpful.
So you could say, "My dearest love, let me entreat you to have
due regard to your own safety.
For though your fortunes are your own.
Your fate is mine."
So, right?
You're not after his fortune.
You still work it in, so he's thinking about his money and you
in the same sentence while you're also indicating that he should not
do something dangerous and like get himself killed before he can marry you.
Thinking.
Now, if you just totally like that, this guy, and you're like,
"I got to pull out the stops."
This is now where you become the servant ready to obey his commands.
And you can go at it with this.
You can be like, "Sir, I'm ready to obey for none can be more
proud of your commands than I am."
Right?
You not only are you going to obey him, but you are proud of the fact
that he's commanding you around.
Or you could also say, "Sir, you understand your authority over me.
I dare not deny my endeavor to perform whatsoever you
shall please to command me."
Make sure he feels like he's the King of his castle of
romance that's happening here.
Now, of course, because you know, you're a girl and you're just pretty much sitting
there waiting for guys to hit on you.
All types of guys might hit on you, including the players.
Now, what do you respond to them?
Cause you don't want to encourage them.
They're just players.
They are the Wickhams and the Willoughbys of the universe.
So, what do you say?
Here are a few lines that can use tell those guys exactly what they
should do, which is leave you alone.
So first up you can just deny everything they're saying, right?
They're coming at you with like, "You're the most beautiful angel ever."
And you can just be like, "Your politeness, sir, is more
conspicuous than your sincerity."
Right?
Like you're polite.
But, I don't think you're really sincere.
"And I cannot imagine that I possess any of those charms, which
you're pleased to attribute to me."
AKA you're blowing things out of proportion.
Stay over there.
Your conversation does not transform prisons into palaces.
Or when you really do have the dirt on them, you can just let them know it.
You can say, "I have learned from unquestionable authority
that you are already under engagements to Miss Johnson."
This guy hitting on you is already engaged.
I mean the nerve.
So then you're like," I am amazed at your affrontery in
addressing me on this subject."
Right.
Like, I mean, why is he hitting on you?
He's engaged.
"I am determined to see you no more.
And if we may here after meet by accident, an unwillingness
to attract observation only will prevent my immediately withdrawing."
So basically I don't want to see you anymore, but if we're in company and me
getting up and leaving would make everyone look at me, then I'm going to stay.
But I don't like it.
This is some intensity drama happening in the Georgian dating books.
But now imagine there's been this guy, he has the great pickup line.
So you responded with the great pickup line responses and it's been going
well, but then something came up.
And it's just like, I can't see this guy anymore because
he is a low moral character.
Then what do you do?
Well, here is an option.
You could say, "I now sincerely regret and must insist that you decline your
visits for your general character is too bad to admit or excuse."
So like, you know, there's, there's no excusing, this guy's bad behavior.
Then you let him know what you think of him even more than you say, "You
act from a confirm habit of vice rather than small indiscretions."
So, right.
Like he's not just like messed up.
He's just like Wickham, right?
You're just like a bad guy.
Or if your dad is the one being like, no, this dude's bad news, then you say,
"I'm sorry, sir, to say anything that I suppose will give you an easiness."
Right.
You always have to like ease them in here and then say, "But my father has, for
reasons known, he says only to himself forbid the continuance of your visits."
So your dad didn't want to spill all the dirt to you, but he's still
telling you to get rid of the guy.
So that's how you can graceful you do it.
So what if the fact that this guy is bad news, doesn't come out through gossip.
What if it comes out in real life?
For some reason, you're alone with him and he's like, "Hey,
should I make you a fallen woman?"
And you're like, "No."
Well, like, how do you say no?
There are lines for that too.
So you can come at him with, "Sir, I must let you know, I hate your base
desires and you, while you pursue them.
My honor is dear to me than my life.
Should greater Kings court me in all of their Pride.
And in their laps, bring me wealth of worlds.
They should never entice me to leave the paths of virtue."
Right?
Like not only do you hate him and his proposition.
But even if the King came to you and was like, "I'll give you all
this money if you sleep with me..."
You'd still be like, "No!"
See, like, this is how you turn guys like that down.
What if he's like a very eloquent speaker and he's like using all these
pretty words about how he loves you.
And it's like, "Will you sleep with him?"
No.
Because you can say this, you can say, "Sir, use not your
eloquence to conquer my virtue."
So, yeah, just tell him his words are not going to overcome your virtue.
Now, what about the situation where he wants you to write him letters?
Because know that during this time period, a young lady can not have a correspondence
with a man she's not engaged too.
And that's why in Sense and Sensibility, when Marianne writes
letters to Willoughby, everyone assumes they're secretly engaged.
Because you can't do that during the time period.
Well, what if the guy's like, "Yeah, you should write to me."
Then what should you say to him?
You can be like "Be assured, sir, that I will never participate
in a clandestine correspondence.
And you're endeavoring to persuade me into so imprudent a measure has given me
no favorable opinion of your intentions."
That's right.
Like you have to come down on this now, or he might actually like send you a letter.
Drama!
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Now, what if like maybe you're a poor girl and the guy hitting on you is richer.
And you're like, "I like him.
And if he had honorable intentions, I would date him.
But I don't think so.
I think his intentions aren't the best."
This is the line for, you can say, "Sir, your quality obliges me to think
you don't design me for your wife.
And my honesty bids me tell you that I will never be your mistress.
And therefore, sir, you may desist from further courting
for, it will be a lost labor."
That is right.
You gotta be like, "I'm not going to be your mistress.
You're too rich and fancy for me.
And you don't seem to be acting like you actually want to marry me.
So leave me alone."
Yeah.
These guides totally understood all the drama.
Okay.
So say you dealt with the players, you dealt with the debase desires guys.
You've dealt with guy who wanted you to be as mistress.
But you finally have the guy, he used the good pickup lines.
You let them know you were his servant and now he's proposed.
Right?
Like proposals are happening.
What do you do?
You have to ask yourself?
Do I want to say yes?
Do I want to say no?
Or do I want to say maybe?
Because maybe is definitely an option.
So say you're like, "I really like this guy."
Right?
And you want to say yes.
Then, should you just say, "Yes, I want to marry you"?
No, no, you should not.
Because remember you need to get your parents and guardians permission first.
That's what you should say.
You should say, "You talk like a man of honor and a gentlemen, and
therefore you have my consent to speak on the subject to my father."
That is how you appropriately say yes.
You can be like, "You seem like a good gentlemen.
You can know, ask my dad."
Smart.
Or if for some reason you're an orphan and you live with your aunt, you
could say, "I consent, sir, to receive your addresses on the condition that
you obtain my aunt's concurrence."
So it's like, I'll consent to this if my aunt consents.
Tricky.
So this is actually really important because if a young woman engaged
herself to a man, it was almost seen as like this binding contract.
And so a girl definitely need to make sure she crossed all her T's and
dotted all her I's before saying yes.
Because if she said yes and her dad still came in and it was like, no, then
it was seen as this breach of contract.
So it was definitely important to get permission first, if you were of a
certain age and obviously you weren't like an elderly widow who had no dad
there to say, "Don't marry this guy."
Okay.
What if this guy asked you to marry him, but you're like, "I'm not sure yet.
We're just kind of getting to know each other.
Can we just have some time?"
Then this is what you say.
You say, "I'm entirely at a loss sir in what manner to reply.
Could I be assured of your sincerity, I would not hesitate, but time must
prove whether you deserve to be considered as such an adherent to the
truth as you present yourself to be."
So basically it's like,
"I'm at a loss.
I don't know you that well, we need more time to see if you're actually
telling the truth about you loving me.
Or you're after my money."
Okay.
The money part wasn't in there.
But back then, that would be more likely why the guy was
hitting on you false reasons.
Okay.
Now some guy has proposed to you and you just want to say no.
Like maybe it's Mr.
Collins.
And you're like, no.
So then what do you say?
Well, you can take a page out of Elizabeth Bennet's book.
That's what you do.
You say?
"I have no doubt, sir, of your expectations in life
being very favorable."
So like, you know, like acknowledge the fact that he's kind of rich, right.
You know, just don't, don't slam him too hard.
But then let him know how money stands with you by saying, "But
wealth cannot give happiness to those whose minds do not accord."
So it was like, you're rich, but that's not going to make us get along any better.
"Our tempers are so opposite that we could scarcely avoid disagreements
on the most trifling occasions."
We'd be fighting all the time, dude.
"To be connected in marriage, therefore would give no prospect
of contentment to either, but the product of eternal remorse."
It's just like we're going to be fighting.
We're not going to be content.
We're all going to wish we hadn't done it.
So imagine that you finally found the right guy.
You said yes to him.
You're waiting for your wedding day to arrive.
And the day before he comes to you and says, "I've lost all my money.
The bank it was in, it just failed.
I am now poor."
What do you do?
Do you break up with them?
No.
You let him know that you love him despite the fact he's poor.
By saying, "Indeed my dear, I am concerned that you should suppose the unhappy change
of your fortune would alter my affection".
Maybe he was like, "I'll let you out of this."
And you're like, "No.
How dare you think the fact that you're poor in an era where I can't earn money
and this is probably going to ruin my life, would ever make me leave you."
Instead, you say, "I am convinced of your integrity.
And tomorrow shall give you possession of your Love."
So you are not deterred from the fact that you went from the prospect of living at
the same lifestyle you've been accustomed to, to now probably a life of drudgery.
You're still going to marry this guy.
Because you love him.
Because he told you that your breath smells like your mother fed on roses
while she was pregnant with you.
And really isn't any guy who uses that line worth marrying?
No matter how poor he is.
So that has been the flirting advice for ladies from the 17 hundreds.
Let me know in the comments below, which of these lines is your favorite?
My name is Ellie Dashwood and this is my channel where I talk about
classic literature and history.
If you're interested in either of those things, please subscribe.
Let me know in the comments below, do you think that you would be able to
flirt acceptably in the 17 hundreds?
I don't know.
I'm not sure if my speech is flowery enough.
Admittedly, I can't flirt well now either.
So every time period, I'm failing.