Heya playa, it's the start of a new school year which can
sound exciting but might actually be a bit scary or nerve-wracking for you.
Maybe you ended last year off in an awkward place with your crush and you're not really sure where
the two of you stand now or once summer hit you really just stopped talking to your friends.
You had barely any communication with them
and now you're going to see them again and things might be weird.
Or maybe you just feel like going into this new school year
your social status is not where you want it to be.
You don't really have a lot of new friends, you're not really popular,
you're going into this kind of feeling left out.
Don't worry I'm going to tell you exactly what
you need to know to start off this new school year right.
To feel confident in your own abilities to start conversations,
to talk to your crush, and to make new friends.
When you're starting a new semester or going into a new grade there's always
that rough landing at first where you're getting back into the swing
of being in school again and you're kind of looking around to see if you know anyone.
Sometimes you get lucky and you have a few friends in your classes while other times you don't.
You're kind of in there alone so how do you navigate that?
Well, I've talked about this in a previous video, I'll link it up over here.
When you're that new kid in school or you're surrounded by people you don't know in your class
you can probably assume that everyone else is
also in that same boat and doesn't really know each other that well.
When it's all new people who are sitting there waiting for someone
to start a conversation with them so that they don't feel so out of place
you actually have the advantage here because if you were to walk up to someone and start
talking to them they would feel a sense of ease in knowing that they don't have to actually do that.
But you as someone who's gonna work on building up your social status should take that first step.
Simply turning to the person next to you introducing yourself and asking them how
their summer went is a great way to start a new potential friendship.
Even if you already have friends in that class,
talking to new people is going to expand your social network.
You're going to get more friendly and more comfortable around people you don't know.
Plus since it's the beginning of the school year people are
gonna be way more open to being your friend especially if they don't know anyone else.
You get that instant cred for being the first person to actually talk to them.
And what about those people that you were already friends with,
maybe during the summer you saw all of them get together and hang out, and they kind of
left you out and you weren't really part of their exclusive group so now that you're back in school
they've once again formed that group and you don't really feel like you're part of it.
How do you re-enter that?
How do you talk to them?
How do you make things cool again?
A big part of it is going to be coming to the realization that
some people might be closer as friends than you are with them and that's okay.
It sucks but it's okay.
If that's the case you have to make that decision as to whether or not you want to
bring these people back into your life or if you want to pursue new friends.
Sometimes having that time apart can create a bit of distance and
now that you're back in school things might seem normal again.
You're talking, you're hanging out, but you're still resentful over the
fact that they didn't invite you out over the summer, so what do you do?
My advice would be to talk to them about it if it's something that's really bothering you but
try to focus your energy and time on really making this school year one that's memorable
rather than really worrying about what they may or may not have done during the summer.
And something that definitely does not get talked about enough
is starting new conversations when you get back to school.
How do you do them?
How do you just launch into talking to someone
especially if you haven't seen them for a few months?
Well, the best thing you can do is to really focus on what you did over the summer.
Try to write it down, and try to memorize some of the cool moments
and experiences that you had so you can bring those up in conversation.
And I say it all the time because it works make sure to ask questions too.
Ask them what they did over the summer.
What are some of their highlights?
Some of the most memorable experiences that they had in this time away from school.
Now sometimes you're gonna run into a situation where a person doesn't really have
much to contribute to a conversation, they might give you an answer like "I
didn't really do anything" or "it was pretty boring summer for me" which is totally fine.
In those situations, you can carry the conversations with the fun things that you did.
In fact i'm going to link up over here another video that's
going to help you specifically figure out what to talk about
and how to start those conversations right at the beginning of the school year.
Now, let's talk about the elephant in the room.
The one that's really really hard to deal with and that is starting
a conversation with your crush after having this time away over the summer.
This is where a lot of people struggle and tell me in the comments whether or not you can relate.
You're making those small incremental movements towards getting to know your crush better,
maybe you've started conversations with them, you've asked them out,
you really feel like you're building something up with them, and then summer hits.
And time passes, you don't talk to them
and now you're back in school and you don't know what to do.
And while the odds may seem like they're stacked up against you
there are two things that are actually working in your favor.
Think of the summer as a big reset button.
Let's say the last interaction you had with your crush was awkward and weird.
You said something or did something that kind of turned them off or pushed them away.
Now that summer has kind of allowed you to reset that time
you can go into that interaction with them as a new totally confident you.
Most likely that weird interaction between the two of you is in the past.
Now that you're standing there face to face with them you have
a real opportunity to show them how much you've actually grown.
So what does that look like?
Well, it means being confident in their presence.
You're not nervous about just being around them or in close proximity.
You're not afraid to start conversations, to tease them,
to joke with them, to flirt with them, or to interact with any of their friends.
You may not exactly be there yet but it's all about working towards the
type of relationship you want to build with them.
Let them see that the "you" from a few months ago right before summer hit at the end of the
school year who was awkward and nervous is not the same "you" that's here today in front of them.
And gaining that confidence around your crush at the start of the school year
is going to mean taking all the steps that we mentioned already.
Starting new conversations with people telling them about the
interesting things you did over the summer and learning about what they did as well.
Making new friends, talking to new people in your classes,
expanding your social network beyond just your regular friend group.
If you can do that trust me, you're gonna feel way more comfortable and secure around your crush.
Especially since the summer is that big reset button where you can kind of let the past be
the past and the new you start this new school year getting to know them better.
And whether you're a middle school, high school, or college being social is not always an easy
thing to do, especially when you're going back to school which is why I've expanded
and shared way more tips in the playlist that I'm going to link up over here on the screen.
This is going to walk you through all my back-to-school videos to help you get
ready to really make this year the year where you're going to be somebody great.
On that note. I'll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.