Get ready,
Because I'm gonna tell you how to do it,
so, stay tuned.
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung.
I am an attorney, I'm also a narcissist negotiation expert.
I've been recognized as one of the top attorneys in the country,
I've helped millions of people through this channel and
thousands of people in my practice and
also through my narcissist negotiation programs and
I wanna help you too.
So make sure that you subscribe to this channel and
hit that notification bell.
By the end of this video,
I'm gonna give you five ways to make sure
that you beat that narcissist in court.
So, you're gonna wanna make sure you stay till the end,
you're gonna wanna make sure you save this video,
you're gonna wanna make sure you share it out,
you're gonna wanna make sure that you go ahead and
watch it over and over again,
because I'm gonna give you all the ways
to make sure you beat that narcissist in court, okay?
So, what you're gonna do is,
you're gonna remember the acronym, “knock them deadd”.
So, d e a d d. So two d's, but d e a d d, “knock them deadd”.
You're gonna wanna journal everything,
you're gonna want to document everything.
In my SLAY program, I actually have 12 different things,
that you're going to wanna be documenting,
but you wanna document everything in regards to finances,
to your children if you have children,
anything that they do that seems out of the ordinary,
I know it's a pain, but, if you have a notes app or something,
just note it because you're not going to remember,
but, even if it's crazy,
I don't know if I should write that down,
but, you just never know.
There's many different ways these things come into play,
so you will want to make sure you document everything,
whether it's a business case,
or a family law case, or it's against a business partner.
Maybe it's a case against an employer or something like that,
something you're always going to need to be doing is documenting.
Whether it's a timeline form, you end up needing it
for the statutes to prove different elements of a statute,
you definitely need documentation.
I also have a podcast,
where I ended up having a guest who uses my SLAY program,
Sharon Scott, I highly recommend you check that out,
because she talked about how she used my program and
it really helped her a lot.
So, definitely document everything.
You're definitely going to want to keep your emotions in check,
there's so many different reasons
why you wanna keep your emotions in check.
I mean, for one thing is that they want to trigger you constantly,
they love to see you squirm,
so they get supply from it and
you really don't wanna give them narcissistic supply,
obviously, because that's no fun.
I mean, they just get the satisfaction of seeing you go crazy.
I mean, why do you wanna do that?
Then the next thing is they use your reaction against you.
They go, “Look, there's the crazy one”,
“There's the one that's the problem”,
they will use that against you in a number of ways,
they use the emails against you, the texts against you,
they may even be videotaping against you,
they use the witnesses against you, whatever it is.
So, definitely keep your emotions in check,
they use it for so many different things,
so definitely, keep your emotions in check and
it doesn't help you when you're negotiating,
either if you're all over the place when it comes to settlements,
because then you end up settling for things that you regret,
2 months down the road, 3 months down the road,
You're like, “I didn't wanna settle for that”,
because a lot of times,
you're like, “Oh, just ended up settling for that,
because I just wanted it to be done”,
“I just wanted to be over with it",
or maybe you were just feeling pressured,
really try to keep your emotions in check.
By the way, if you're really struggling with that,
because a lot of times,
when you've been dealing with a narcissist for a long period of time,
you are in a trauma state, especially PTSD sometimes.
I do have a partnership with “BetterHelp”.
If you're having trouble with your emotions and
you're having trouble with trauma.
Always wear the white hat.
What do I mean by that?
I mean you wanna be the one, if you end up in front of the judge,
which that's what this is about,
you wanna be the one where the judge is like,
“Hey, this is the person that obviously is the good one”,
let the narcissist be the one who's behaving badly.
A lot of times, it's so easy to fall into,
“Hey, they're behaving badly, they're doing things wrong,
they did it too, I can do it too”.
What happens though is then you have a situation
where the judge is just like seeing,
like, two kids that are fighting.
So, for those of you who are out there watching,
who have children, who have more than one,
what happens is they just are like,
“Both of you, stop it”, they don't see that,
“Well, they started it”, or “They're worse”,
they just see two people who just are fighting.
You wanna be the one who's not in the mud with the other one,
because you were the one I call always wearing the white hat,
who's not engaging, who didn't respond,
who didn't get into it and
the other one is always the one who's constantly the badly behaved one,
then it makes it really obvious who is the bad one.
It's kind of hand in hand with keeping your emotions in check,
but it's even one step much further than that,
you really wanna be the one who's just always behaving,
always doing the right thing.
Just kind of imagine the judge is sorta walking around with you,
watching every single thing that you're doing.
Always wear the white hat.
We're going through all the elements of what to do
to beat that narcissist in court.
So, this is because if they're gonna say,
you followed them, you did this, you did that,
they lie all the time.
They're constantly going to say that you were menacing,
that you were threatening, that you did this with the kids,
or that you touched somebody inappropriately,
or whatever it is that they make up constantly.
Then, you end up having to defend against these ridiculous claims.
So, you wanna make sure you have people around
as much as you possibly can.
If you have children for example, have your exchanges for custody
at day cares, at schools, at shopping plazas,
or places where people are around,
because you just don't want situations
where they can make things up about what's going on.
In that same vein, by the way,
you're gonna wanna make sure that
even depositions are video taped if possible.
I have actually a video on how to beat a narcissist in mediation,
I talk about that in there and
you should definitely check out that video as well,
because a lot of you who are trying to beat a narcissist in court
are also mediating with a narcissist and
you should definitely check out that video as well.
I also do have a video where I interviewed judge Lynn Toler,
you guys should definitely check out that video too.
She was the judge on divorce, worked for 17 years and
her video interview was very highly fascinating.
So, definitely check that out too.
I'm so ready to help you knock them dead.
If you've been following along with how to beat a narcissist in court and
you've been following along with my acronym,
there's one more D.
What I mean by decoys is,
you really do not want to give them your best offer,
or give them any of your best evidence,
or show them any of your cards,
or show them any of your hands
until you're ready to unveil it in court,
or when you're ready.
A lot of times, while you're standing on the courthouse steps,
or even at lunch during the trial, they wanna settle,
they're ready to have settlement talks,
or even maybe the eve before trial,
or a couple of days before, they're ready to have some settlement talks
at that point or something and
you might be ready at that point as well,
but you've gotta have your strategy, your leverage,
have anticipated, your focus on you, your position,
the being on the offensive, my whole SLAY methodology.
At that point, you do not give them your best offer,
you do not show your best evidence,
you decoy the whole thing until you are ready to go,
basically, the way I look at it,
is you're building an invisible fence around them
until you turn on the lights and they realize,
“Oh my god, I'm totally pinned in”.
At that point, they have no choice but to resolve the issue with you,
or to resolve the issues with you.
So you're appearing weak, you're feigning ignorance,
you’re “Oh, I don't know”, “Well, I have no idea”,
let them think that they're winning,
let them go all crazy on you,
allow them to go off.
A lot of times, that's good for you.
It's hard, I know, you don't want them to get away with anything,
a lot of times during the case,
but sometimes if you have an ongoing case,
it's good to let them screw up,
because those little battles that show they're screwing up,
help you to demonstrate to the judge who they actually are.
So let them do that,
because then you can show patterns
that they aren't doing what they're supposed to do,
show patterns that they're liars,
show patterns that they are bad parents,
or terrible with money,
or whatever it is that you need to show.
It actually ends up helping you in the end,
show that they have anger issues, or whatever it is.
So that definitely helps you,
sometimes it's really good to feign that you're weak,
feign that you're ignorant.
A lot of times, by the way,
you can pretend there's a particular thing you really want and
it's not the thing that you really want,
because then, they go after that.
Because they're gonna go after the thing
that they think you really, really want.
So, let them go after that particular thing.
Those are the things to knock them dead and
beat a narcissist in court.
If you haven't subscribed to this channel yet,
What are you waiting for?
I just told you all kinds of ways to beat a narcissist in court.
I give lots and lots of great tips and tricks like that
every single day here on this channel,
so make sure that you subscribe, hit that notification bell.
Make sure to join my free private Facebook group as well.
If you haven't gotten my free “Crush my negotiation” prep worksheet,
you can do that at winmynegotiation.com.
I have links to all of this below as well.
Remember today is a great day to start negotiating your best life.
You can win, you can beat narcissist.
not only in court, but in life,
It happens every single day.
Today is a great day to start negotiating your best life.
You can do this.
I will see all of you guys in the next video.